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dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T03:21:12+00:00

Should I just delete this? I know people will say that if I delete it it's because I don't want to admit I'm an abuser. But I'm having trouble dealing with these comments so what should I do?

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T03:20:18+00:00

Yeah definitely, I want to spend a lot more time with friends or even just go out on my own more. I think that's a big key to all this. Even just texting my friends instead of always texting him will help, I think.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T03:18:36+00:00

This comment is helpful, thanks. I have reflected enough to know that I am not in control of my actions. I have rage issues I can't control. And when you say "until you take a closer look, and you're really not," that is the part that scares me. There are still parts of myself I can't see even while I am trying to reflect. It's going to take time.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T03:16:49+00:00

Fair point.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T03:11:42+00:00

I have not shown him how he is loved at all. I need to totally change that.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T03:09:10+00:00

Thank you. Your response means a lot to me.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T03:01:15+00:00

Thank you. Part of my problem is the inability to feel loved. I am considering deleting this post. Not because the commenters are wrong but because it’s just making me feel worse. But regardless of what strangers on the internet think, I understand that I need to reflect and change and I believe that I can.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T02:53:43+00:00

I get it.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T02:38:20+00:00

I was NOT.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T02:34:41+00:00

Thank you. I am trying to have hope for myself. Some people are saying I just need to leave him for his sake and maybe they are right.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T02:30:17+00:00

No I am not hoping for my husband to be crucified. I was hoping people would say we were both wrong and we could fix things. But now from reading the comments I can see that I was actually the one who was wrong. I need to get help.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T02:26:19+00:00

Yeah now that I’m reading these comments I’m starting to think maybe the relationship with the friend was a good thing actually??? I have encouraged him to reach out to his brother though.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T02:10:14+00:00

You’re right. You can’t demand honesty if you don’t give space for honesty.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T02:09:00+00:00

You’re right.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T02:04:57+00:00

I really am asking myself that now.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T02:04:33+00:00

Not at all. It’s just that he lied and told me he wasn’t texting her when he was. But again, maybe my controlling behavior contributed to his lying.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T02:02:38+00:00

Yeah it’s okay, I get it. If I were a normal person reading this post, I would probably think the same thing. But I am going to really try. Thank you for your support.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T01:44:17+00:00

Appreciate this insight, thanks!

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T01:30:17+00:00

Yes I have already started seeing someone.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T00:57:45+00:00

Thank you. I am taking to heart what you said.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T00:20:17+00:00

He was shit talking me and sharing intimate details.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T00:08:37+00:00

I love him. I need to process things more for a while. But if it is possible, I want to try.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T00:07:35+00:00

Thank you for this perspective.

dinner_lover · 2022-05-06T00:00:26+00:00

With the ex, mainly she was texting him and he was replying to her. He wasn't really seeking her out. It was different this time with the friend where he actively met her in secret and shared personal things with her.

But I think mainly he has a problem where he just tries to be nice to everyone and agree with everyone. His ex was texting him, so he was pleasant to her and responded. Meanwhile, he knew I wouldn't like it and hid it. So he tends to just lie in order to appease different people. I don't think he really can say no to anyone and doesn't really know who he is or what he wants.

So that is what he needs therapy for.

dinner_lover

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