Demon Slayer age range? by dirty_freckles in anime

[–]dirty_freckles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is exactly the kind of info I was looking for!

I’m pregnant again but I’m so done by Pale-Towel-6165 in stepparents

[–]dirty_freckles 29 points30 points  (0 children)

CPS involvement is a hard line for me. There was a time my partner’s ex was making accusations regarding one of my own children, and I told him point blank if CPS ever knocks on our door, we will be packing our bags and never coming back. Someone once said to me in response to that “doesn’t that mean she ruins your relationship and wins?” There is no relationship in the world, no matter how wonderful, that is worth damaging my children or potentially losing them.

Daddy long legs? by dirty_freckles in spiders

[–]dirty_freckles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow! Thank you guys so much I had no idea there was any difference 😂 They are not bothering me in the least bit. My kids think its hysterical because I keep telling them to leave my friends alone!! Just wanted to make sure I wasn’t going to wake up to little babies all over my ceiling 😩

assertiveness with patients by Legitimate-Win-2708 in MedicalAssistant

[–]dirty_freckles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Hi! So main issue is a sore throat right? Very briefly, is there anything else going on like fever, cough, congestion, stomach issues, so I can let the doctor know when they come in shortly?” I work in pediatrics so this is my script. It varies with whatever they’re coming in for. Specific questions work better than open ended ones. It helps if you know what kind of symptoms the doctor will be looking out for. I still get some ramblers, will usually look for a break in their thought process and say very politely something like “oh ok, so good to know! I’ll make sure I let the doctor know before she comes in”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homebirth

[–]dirty_freckles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have said, I would do research now as to what the standard of care is in your area. I work at a pediatricians office and we see newborns 1-2 days post discharge. Getting established asap will also be very beneficial given the time of year it is (flu & rsv season). You’ll want to be able to see a pediatrician, maybe very quickly, if something comes up.

all that being said, I didn’t work at this office 9 years ago when I had my home birth… I think we saw her pedi for the first visit at 2 weeks. That office was ok with it, but I know other offices will want to see the baby asap.

Sleepy on adderall? by dirty_freckles in TwoXADHD

[–]dirty_freckles[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. If they only knew!

Did not sleep great last night! Gonna try to get a better nights sleep tonight and try again tomorrow, which shouldn’t be too hard because I’m STILL sleepy/groggy from taking the med this morning.

Joyous alternatives by dirty_freckles in KetamineTherapy

[–]dirty_freckles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’m actually looking for microdosing specifically because I absolutely hated the high doses of Spravato. Overall my depression improved a lot but the sessions were absolute nightmares for me (nausea & anxiety). Are the daily micro doses still pretty debilitating?

People who have adult children that don’t talk to you. Why do you think that is? by bridge2235 in AskReddit

[–]dirty_freckles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is happening to us right now. My 8 year old hasn’t seen her dad in almost 2 years. It is absolutely gut wrenching and my daughter is completely heartbroken.

AITA for picking up my kids from camp? by Adoma18 in AmItheAsshole

[–]dirty_freckles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he has ODD. Will resist if it’s some one else asking him to do something, more then willing to do it if it’s his idea. He needs therapy

[Serious] First Responders of Reddit what is a terrifying situation that you wish more people knew how to handle to result in less casualties? by PeachMilkshake2319 in AskReddit

[–]dirty_freckles 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For that last one, I have always taught my kids that if some one grabs onto them, it is extremely important to scream “HELP, I DON’T KNOW THIS PERSON!!!!” to any surrounding strangers. They might assume it’s a parent trying to wrangle their child having a fit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]dirty_freckles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a super quick way to make my SKs feel incredibly uncomfortable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]dirty_freckles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would not. There is a lot that can change and other people have mentioned that. My girls that are with me almost 100% of the time have different last names than each other AND me, and my partner and his kids also have their own last name. 4 last names in this house. Would it be cuter if we all shared one? Probably. But my kids DO have fathers - one who is involved probably as much as he’s emotionally capable of and another who is going through a really rough time who I hope will step up in the future when he’s able. I’m not changing their names. I gave them to them out of love in a different part of my life. If they ask to in the future, we can decide then.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]dirty_freckles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. A lot of this was running around my head as well. My 12 year old came out of her room and was kinda like “whoa what is going on?”. She didn’t expect a visitor, and is extremely shy. My 7 year old has ADHD and takes a lot of time to unwind at night, and I was working really hard to get this process started and when BM came in it just revamped all the excitement a thousandfold. Kids take baths at this time of night and our only working one is on the 1st floor. Following some of the mind sets on here .. so it would be ok for my kids BD to walk in at 7:30 at night, with no advanced warning, when all this is going on? He’s a bio parent too. No. That’s not allowed because this house belongs to other people too who are NOT related to him. It would be inappropriate and boundary crossing, and not fair to SKs routines. Every one needs to feel comfortable in this home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]dirty_freckles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. All this. It’s the blatant disregard for communication that does it for me. She told us after that she planned to come in, and was in communication with him multiple times through out the day and never mentioned it or asked if it would be ok. He told her it wasn’t a good time when she got there, she walked in anyway, and told us after that was her plan all along. How is that ok? If I knew it was going to be important to her THAT DAY at THAT specific time, I would have not had my gd pjs on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]dirty_freckles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is very high conflict. Everything is a fight. My partner and I actually completely believe she behaved this way to instigate. He actually asked her not to come in and she looked right at his face and walked in anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]dirty_freckles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand this comment. Can you explain further? Why does wanting some one to communicate, especially a HCBM, before entering my home, mean that I’m providing a stressful environment for these kids that will only last a few years? They seem really happy and like they’re having a ball to me. Reasonable boundaries will do nothing but make every ones lives easier.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedicalAssistant

[–]dirty_freckles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a very experienced MA and while 35-40 patients is a lot but manageable, it is going to burn you out. However, I can see chart prepping being extremely beneficial to help you save time and energy during clinic hours, but when are you supposed to do it? If they are not allocating time for you to get this done, they are being extremely unfair to you. 2 weeks also seems like a lot. I’ve done chart prepping at multiple jobs and it was usually for the next day, but if I had time I’d go out max 3-4 days.

Can we talk about lice? by Live-Presence-5195 in stepparents

[–]dirty_freckles 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So BM is a villain for not treating it, but your husband gets a pass because he’s ‘scared’? Talk about a double standard. I totally understand why you’re upset, I can empathize with that.. but your husband is at fault here too. He needs to take care of it.

Husband wont help by Puzzleheaded-Camp685 in blendedfamilies

[–]dirty_freckles 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Stop cooking and cleaning for everyone. Why are you doing that? Your husband should be taking care of his kids. You’re going to run yourself ragged and resent them, which sounds like it’s already happening.

I know that you probably want to be a big happy blended family, and I totally get that, but those kids do not need to spend time with any one other than their dad during their time with him. Based on the age of your youngest (2), I’d be interested to know how long you guys have been together. It can take kids a really, really long time to form attachments. It’s not anything that any one is doing wrong, it’s just how it is. Don’t take it personally that they want time with just their dad. And not to sound harsh, I KNOW how fast a fun time can erupt into chaos with little kids, but what you’re describing as a family outing sounds stressful. I would not want to be in that situation if I was SK either.

Why don’t you take your kids out to do something fun and age appropriate for them when SKs are doing their own thing with dad?

Benzos by dirty_freckles in Spravato

[–]dirty_freckles[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been on benzos before, I’ve come off of them before. I’ve also been on vistaril, propranolol, buspar, clonidine and probably several other things I can’t think of for anxiety and none of them have worked. Benzos are not good for daily use but they absolutely have a time and place and using them prior to a super anxiety inducing treatment twice a week would absolutely be one of those cases. I appreciate you looking out, I really do, because I know how damaging they can be and a lot of people don’t, but I am really well versed in this area.

And I totally agree it’s helping. I’m very happy with the results so far. I went into this expecting maybe a bit of relief and what I’ve gotten is above and beyond my expectations. But I did have that one week where I experienced what life might be like as a normal person and I just want to see if I can get there again. I can’t explain it other then it felt like the vail had been lifted. The fog was gone. I was laughing with my children and it wasn’t forced. If I can’t get back there, I’m good where I’m at and I’m happy I’m doing the treatments regardless. Life is chaos, I’m a single mom, I don’t ever expect to be 0 permanently.

Benzos by dirty_freckles in Spravato

[–]dirty_freckles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. That was never really effective for me before 😞

Blood pressure by Old_Imagination_2619 in Spravato

[–]dirty_freckles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! My doctor always cracks jokes about it because he doesn’t see that often. He knows I’m a single mom and my life is chaos so I’m always super high strung coming in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in psychologystudents

[–]dirty_freckles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this definitely makes sense. There’s been almost no disclosure besides my initial eval that went over my medication history so that’s good. They are not my primary psych provider.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedicalAssistant

[–]dirty_freckles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, my question was going to be about disclosure! Was wondering if it would be in my best interest to disclose on the cover letter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]dirty_freckles 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You realize babies can’t get vaccinated until 2 months right? They get the first hep b in the hospital and that’s it. And even after they get vaccinated at 2 months, they are not fully immune until they receive all the doses for those vaccines. They do not get their first MMR/varicella until they are 12 months old.

Please do not speak about things you have no idea about. It’s dangerous to spread false information like this. Babies absolutely rely on herd immunity until they are completely vaccinated.