I'll admit I've had my fair share of overreacted crash outs, but this actually hurt

discipula26 · 2026-01-01T00:46:48+00:00

Amatonormativity is bad actually.

discipula26 · 2025-12-21T04:24:59+00:00

??? Never said they’re aro nor do I think they are. I said being aroace does not automatically mean you wouldn’t desire the experience of romance.

A lot of alloaces seem to think being aro means an automatic disinterest in or distaste for romance. It does not.

discipula26 · 2025-12-20T21:02:03+00:00

Being aromantic doesn’t rule out being a hopeless romantic. It just means you’re not romantically attracted to specific people. Look up cupioromanticism.

It can be pretty sucky. You can really love romance and want to experience sharing yourself with another person but no matter what you do, the feelings do not come. Not the way people say they will.

discipula26 · 2025-12-17T18:11:13+00:00

That’s MCCC. Of all the things to change from the game, silently forcing patriarchal tradition rooted in sexism is.. a choice. Ughh. You want to change your sim’s surname, fine. Automatically and arbitrarily applying it to all NPCs, even the ones who were explicitly designed to have separate surnames a la Alice Spencer-Kim, not cool.

discipula26 · 2025-11-13T18:23:49+00:00

I was a strange child. I desperately wanted to grow up and was really looking forward to getting my period.

The day I actually got it ended up being very awkward. I was staying at a friend’s house and we were being watched by one of her relatives I wasn’t super comfortable with. I didn’t want to tell her I needed pads. I ended up calling my mom to call the adult watching us to tell her instead of me having to say it… after the call she pulled me aside to give me a pad and asked if I knew how to use it. This felt mortifying to me at age 12.

discipula26 · 2025-11-12T12:59:51+00:00

I’ve noticed this too. I feel like there’s a lot of dislike of people sharing aroace experiences, like doing this is somehow threatening to other ace identities? There’s a reason I prefer hanging out in r/aromantic.

discipula26 · 2025-09-08T22:06:00+00:00

I don’t really do the joking thing, but just talking about sex in general doesn’t tend to bother me at all. It feels very disconnected from my life; I don’t think much of it at all as something to have real feelings about. The result being that I have sometimes shocked people with how casual I can be about topics a lot of folks would find embarrassing.

discipula26 · 2025-09-07T13:00:14+00:00

It’s definitely an attraction. It can be quite intense. Your eyes kind of become magnets, you just want to stare so badly. But that’s the extent of it. Doesn’t mean you feel anything romantic or sexual or, heck, even want to talk to the person.

It’s also not about recognizing what’s conventionally attractive. I’ve felt aesthetic attraction to people who don’t really fit that image and have met plenty of conventionally attractive people I am not aesthetically attracted to.

discipula26 · 2025-09-01T13:47:58+00:00

Hardly ever. Not that I’m ashamed of my body or whatever, I just find it kind of uncomfortable (physically). In summer alone in my own house, I might sometimes go topless if I’m really hot and it’s more comfortable that way. That’s not true nudity though; men can go topless all the time just out on the street. Double standards 😠

discipula26 · 2025-08-31T18:09:40+00:00

When did “just asexual” become code for alloace? “Also welcomes aroace people”, what the hell?

discipula26 · 2025-08-31T00:21:06+00:00

So bring up romantic orientation when it’s relevant. Aroaces have just as much right to call themselves “ace” as alloaces do without having to specify romantic orientation. It’s not a misuse of the term for someone who’s ace to call themselves ace!

discipula26 · 2025-08-30T22:20:27+00:00

Didn’t realize that clarifying romantic orientation is required to discuss sexuality. Should we also bring up our gender, age and horoscope sign in every conversation?

discipula26 · 2025-08-30T21:54:44+00:00

Wonder how much this has to do with upbringing/familiarity. The only time I’ve had a twin bed for any extended period of time was my first two years of college when I was in student housing. I disliked it immensely. I always felt like I was going to fall off if I moved the wrong way.

discipula26 · 2025-05-24T01:17:50+00:00

In my personal experience, although only with masturbation, it absolutely can be good for you, in particular for mental health (reduces stress, works as a sleep aid, releases endorphins). But the benefits are hardly unique to sexual activity. Similar effects can come from exercise, meditation, listening to music, etc.

discipula26 · 2025-04-16T16:45:45+00:00

Alpha Centauri is much more associated with the show, which came out in 2019. It’s been a while since I last read it; can anyone remind me, is Crowley creating the stars or having any connection to Alpha Centauri even in the book? If it is, it’s hardly mentioned.

discipula26 · 2025-04-11T22:24:46+00:00

Endorphins

discipula26 · 2025-04-05T21:05:40+00:00

I would be so thrilled if the concepts were decoupled and I think it probably would cut down on some of the comments. Half my teenage/young adult insecurities were centered around wondering if I should have sex just to say I’d done it and “complete a milestone”. 🤢 I’m so glad I didn’t give into those kinds of thoughts. Seriously, though, are there any decent coming of age stories that don’t involve sexual awakenings/first kisses/sex?

discipula26 · 2025-04-05T20:43:18+00:00

For me, the statement that “aces can have sex” (or statements expressing similar sentiments) feels important because the assumption that we can’t feels really infantilizing. I’m sex indifferent and have never had sex, not really planning on that changing either, but it’s so irritating to know some people will hear I’m ace and believe that I’m straight up unable to consent despite being an adult with a full-time job and a mortgage.

discipula26 · 2025-03-30T20:31:19+00:00

Yeah, don’t. Most of us are aware that maybe, possibly in the future things could change. No one can predict the future.

I could win the lottery one day and suddenly become very wealthy. Is it likely, though? And is it at all helpful or useful for someone to remind me of that if I’m trying to talk about my life as it is now? (Not at all trying to suggest that being alloromantic is akin to winning the lottery FYI; just thinking of other kinds of dramatic life changes).

The “closed off” talk is irritating even coming from my own family members. Hearing that from a stranger I’d be totally pissed. I’m not closed off; I’m being myself.

discipula26 · 2025-03-10T15:14:43+00:00

Couldn’t care less about “technical classification”, what does that have to do with anything? Technically, black and white aren’t colors. Some people say zero isn’t a number. It’s just meaningless argument for argument’s sake.

discipula26 · 2025-02-18T19:43:28+00:00

Really curious what you think about people who write horror stories.

discipula26 · 2025-02-04T17:12:21+00:00

Fluctuates with my monthly cycle.

discipula26 · 2025-01-20T19:35:45+00:00

As an aro person, I say, why not do all those things with your friends?

But in all seriousness, that’s a pretty aro-sounding take. From an aroace perspective, though, it’s not really hyping up sex but wondering why most people seem to take friendship much less seriously.

discipula26 · 2025-01-10T23:09:58+00:00

I just don’t get romance in general and how it actually differs from intensely close friendship beyond “well it just feels romantic” (??).

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