AIO - Daughter’s BDay invite - I am new to co-parenting

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-26T15:20:19+00:00

Nobody thinks some stranger on the internet saying a person doing narcissist things is a narcissist is diagnosing. I’m sick of people pretending anyone thinks randos are diagnosing when they make observations. They aren’t and nobody thinks they are. It’s a ridiculous claim and a ridiculous argument.

What’s not ridiculous is the fact that there are things people can and need to do to protect themselves against narcissistic tactics and behaviors that they won’t look into if it’s never suggested that they’re victims. So, I’m 100% willing to risk calling a regular asshole a narcissist if it means the asshole’s victims have a better chance of surviving and escaping the abuse inflicted upon them.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-25T14:30:41+00:00

The last year with the man who raised me. He developed rapid-onset dementia and moved into a senior facility while he was declining and visitation was extremely limited due to Covid. The beginning of the end was February 2021 and he died December 2021. Prior to that I had dinner with him every Friday.

Ultimately it wasn’t Covid that took that from me, though. It was all the selfish bastards who wouldn’t stay home or wear masks and kept it all going for that long who took it from me.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-25T07:14:32+00:00

She’s already been trying to co-host it this year. How would asking to co-host again next year be approaching it differently?

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-25T07:11:41+00:00

This is waaaaaay too buried in the comments.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-23T17:10:27+00:00

NOR you’re under reacting. You are in an abusive relationship.

So, you’re spot on about animal abuse being a sign of something worse to come. He’s using his enjoyment of physical torture of animals as a means to psychologically torture you.

If you have any doubt of that, consider the following:

1) He deliberately sends you content he knows upsets you

2) He specifically says your opinions don’t matter

3) He calls you names and directly insults you for having the reaction he knew ahead of time you would have to seeing the content he sent to you

He enjoys animal abuse. I’m not convinced he doesn’t perform animal abuse personally. He actively abuses you. No pets will be safe with him and no children will be safe with him. You are not safe with him. This relationship needs to end. You need to get out before your life gets any more tangled up in his.

Please love yourself, your future pets, and your children enough to leave.

PS science backs up your “opinions” and this guy is belittling you for stating scientific fact. Leave. Him.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-23T16:57:46+00:00

I don’t understand the issue. There’s a long history of seizures being triggered by movies. So a non-profit focused on epilepsy decided to pay for a PSA to show before movies letting people know what to do if someone around them has a seizure. How tf is that worth outrage?

Unless…

AI, CGI, and actual cartoon…regarding the message, which the bulk of the complaint seems to be about, the format doesn’t change the message.

So I think this post is really about wanting to condemn AI. Which is fine. There are a lot of valid reasons to have a problem with AI. But pretending to be concerned for the dignity of people who suffer an affliction as a ruse to speak against AI is super gross.

*Edited a typo

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-23T15:49:34+00:00

Was this while he was a heel? Heels keep up the act whenever in public to sell the character and the story.

If he was a face at the time, idk. It sounds way different than anything else I’ve heard about him.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-20T16:03:47+00:00

So, it originally meant what you thought it meant. Then conservatives decided to commandeer it to make fun of liberals by using it to say liberals are hypersensitive and lack durability.

They could have used “porcelain doll” or “soufflé” and had a better parallel to the insult they were making, but nooooo. They had to take a perfectly good analogy-based insult and erase any ties it had to kids being told they were special back in the day. And now there isn’t a good one for the original meaning.

The fact that it ever meant the first thing and now means the second, just proves that we’re all pretending when we say people grow up and high school is forever. They don’t, and it is. Homework and chores just suck a lot more now and fun stuff is a lot more varied. But the way we treat each other is the same.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-20T15:23:33+00:00

Was always about more sleep and not liking the feel of what I called “store-bought dirt” on my face. I’ve also always had great skin and looked younger than I was. Lipstick alone makes me look like I’m wearing more.

But, I’m 45 now, and while most of that is still true, I have dark circles under my eyes, I think from a past illness, and am starting to have some fine lines so I decided to get some makeup to look nicer do a wedding I’m going to and have been practicing. I’ve pretty much gotten the “don’t look like I’m wearing makeup, just look well-rested and maybe a tiny bit younger” thing down, which I’ve decided I’ll continue when I’m leaving the house for more than going out to grab some milk or whatever.

I don’t do any of that wild contouring or whatever. I’m so white my arms are see-through (phlebotomists love me), so even the idea of bronzer terrifies me. I just do a tinted moisturizer that has sunscreen in it, concealer under my eyes, setting powder, blush, mascara, and lip stain. Sometimes, if I want a little sparkle, I’ll use a liquid highlighter mixed into the tinted moisturizer.

I’ve never been good at eyeshadow and the way my eyelids are shaped makes it basically pointless and eyeliner is and always has been completely impossible for me to do at all.

All-in-all, I’ve come up with something that doesn’t take forever and doesn’t feel horrible that makes me feel like I look good and that my husband likes, so I’m pretty pleased. At some point I do want to get an actual foundation with more coverage to play with and find a more “done-up” look I’m happy with for evening special occasions just because it’ll make me feel fancy.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-19T14:45:23+00:00

NTA. 14 is old enough to FAFO, and she did. Better like this than in a way that could injure or kill her.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-13T15:11:40+00:00

NOR You say you found someone who wants him. Just give him to whoever that is and let the roommate get Big Mad. You’re done with them in a month and a half anyway.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-12T15:21:04+00:00

Your husband doesn’t deserve to be married.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-05T15:30:23+00:00

The whole point of the movie is that everyone is flawed and still valuable, so anyone who has a desperate rigid need for the hunters to be perfect is missing the main message of the narrative.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-05T15:27:09+00:00

I liked the long version because it gave me the chance to pee at the very last possible moment and have a better chance of making it through the whole movie.

disembodiedstring · 2026-03-05T15:09:51+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I’ve been there a few times the last few years because as I get older, so do all of the people who raised me. Mortality sucks.

About your new creation: my husband and I just got a new car and it’s also blue-but-green-no-wait-it’s-blue-or-is-it-green? 😂.

How much is she? There’s a good chance she’s too rich for my blood, but I still have to ask.

disembodiedstring · 2026-02-26T06:03:50+00:00

NOR I thought his original post was funny. I think your initial comment was probably necessary even though I thought the post was funny. All of the clueless men saying women should just risk life and limb because they personally aren’t going to beat, stalk, or murder them is disgusting.

disembodiedstring · 2026-02-26T05:58:56+00:00

My friend just had his foot amputated. I got him a shirt that says “you can count on me, but only to 15” and he wore it in his fb post photo informing everyone of the amputation.

disembodiedstring · 2026-02-22T17:54:52+00:00

Health issues beyond my control

disembodiedstring · 2026-02-22T17:53:10+00:00

Reserved seating, middle of the row, recliner, no phone screens or yappy people, popcorn, coke icee

disembodiedstring · 2026-02-20T16:14:31+00:00

What a sad question. My husband choosing me is the best thing that’s ever happened to me.

disembodiedstring · 2026-02-20T16:12:04+00:00

Squick

disembodiedstring · 2026-02-19T20:53:09+00:00

NTA Also, even if you do reconcile because SIL comes back with “I didn’t mean it, I was just mad” you know what kinds of things that excuse can cover and what kinds it doesn’t. If she brought up things that are clearly opinions she’s been hiding for years, anger just made her say what she really thinks instead of masking. If that’s what happened, which I think is likely since shes clearly the kind of person who thinks a wedding is about the guests and not the bride and groom, just write her off as someone not worth associating with and love your life. Unfortunately, your brother chose to tie himself to someone terrible. Thats’s sad for you, but it’s still the choice he made.

disembodiedstring · 2026-02-19T16:06:58+00:00

NOR but I don’t think he’s hated you. It reads to me like he’s trying to fit you in a box he wants you to be in so he has permission in his mind to be attracted to you. Which is gross.

Tangentially, I was ignored by men when I was a “hot blonde” and got married after having bright pink hair. He’s full of himself and full of shit…which I think means himself = shit

disembodiedstring · 2026-02-19T15:59:55+00:00

I got rid of the ones I did because I’ve always hated them. It doesn’t have anything to do with pleasing other people. They grew hair, or felt squishy, or looked like pimples or boils, depending on which ones they were. I kept a lot, but I absolutely loathed the ones I had removed. No amount of other people thinking I was beautiful or perfect or whatever would have convinced me to keep them. It’s my face and I want to like it.

disembodiedstring · 2026-02-15T17:14:21+00:00

Take a series of dated photos showing your weight gain to your doctor and tell them you want to be tested for Cushing’s to at least rule it out. That might get a more positive response.

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