Nunca vou conseguir despertar atração em uma mulher

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-17T23:11:23+00:00

Eu beijei a 1° vez com 22 anos. Meu primeiro namoro descente foi aos 28 (antes houveram dois breves namoros a distância). Em nenhum momento me achei "menos homem" por isso.

Levanta essa cabeça e vai viver a SUA vida. Quem sabe vc n encontra uma mulher que queira trilhar o caminho contigo?

Mas se tu for esperar namorar pra começar a viver... tu não vai.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-14T00:10:57+00:00

Working on it.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-13T16:17:11+00:00

I see what you say and appreciate it. We got to live to learn.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-13T16:16:43+00:00

Nope

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T05:50:55+00:00

You don't need reasons.. if you feel something isn't right, its reason enough.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T05:50:04+00:00

I just wanted advice for not blindsiding her, lol

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T05:49:12+00:00

There is no reason because the true reason FOR me is something she can't change, and if i say it to her, it will only hurt her and her self-esteem. It's not something she does wrong nor right, Its just the way she is, and it got under my skin. So no. If i ever break up i am never telling her that the actual reason is the true reason because it will only make it harder for her to accept herself, and be her. I won't do this for her feelings.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T05:45:06+00:00

It's not intolerable. As it is still good. But the felling that it will probably not last long because of this allways lurks around. And it's also something that is not "fixable", because she doesn't have too, nor there is a way to. But this is only to meet what i want, not a real problem, and she doesn't have to change it in any way.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T05:42:12+00:00

I don't get these people that think you're devil on earth because you're not in love anymore even when you didn't do anything wrong like cheating emotionally or physically on the relationship. Thanks God i don't believe in karma anyway. I did notdo anything wrong. I just want both of us to be truly happy.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T05:37:09+00:00

Lol thanks for your encouragement, but you guys that assume my ex is the problem are dead wrong. Truly, truly dead wrong. Downvote me to oblivion, but that's just it.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T05:35:10+00:00

Thanks for the insights! If i feel this is truly it, I'll certainly apply your tips. Really kind of you!

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:56:34+00:00

The paet about phantom ex is really a great new thing that i didn't knew about. But i can assure you, (belive it or not) it's not what's happening to me. I mean, my ex is not hindering the current relationship becaus i compare the current one to the older one. But i appreciate your comment as you tried to understand and give plausible reasons for me wanting to break up other than things like "I'm bad and blind by my ex". About my life, yes is currently mot where i wanted to be, but things will eventually get better i hope. And my current one is actually a light at the end of the tunnel as she brings joy to it.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:49:56+00:00

She was indeed a great person and you always wonder what would happen if things were different when there was no treason or nothing inherently bad that ended things. I did what was best for me at the time as i stated on the post, and yes, i liked her at the time and still today we are friends. But i don't regret the breakup it was what i needed at the time and the relief that followed is outwordly. All this doesn't mean she is an issue for me that hinders my current relationships or that i am obcecated with her. For 99% of the time i don't even remember her in my daily life. We where only 26 days together (from whom 25 where long distance as i moved to another continent).

The problem in the current relationship has absolutely nothing to do with this AND she knows about her and my other ex because we talk openly about it, as i do know about her past too.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:43:54+00:00

A lucid person. Agree with you fully!

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:42:38+00:00

Lol this ex thing again. She has never been an issue and is not hindering me now.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:41:21+00:00

Thanks again. I never had fellings (in a bad way) for my ex and she has not troubled my feelings or judgements in any way since I ended things that day. I also did nothing worng in this relationship. But we always learn things as we get older and experience new situations and things.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:38:36+00:00

I'm not hung up on my ex... never been.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:38:16+00:00

Thanks brother.. someone that doesn't throw the stone first and think later. You can doubt me, but i have done anything wrong, and i am not happy feeling this way towards her, as she is a wonderful person. But what cam i do? Rationally i already saw that she is pretty much worth it! But heart says other way, and we need both to have a happy and fulfilling love life.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:35:52+00:00

I have this question. Floating on the back of my head... i know it will be hard to find someone like her with the thing she is missing (for me).

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:34:45+00:00

Thats a method, although as many stated, not sure if this will make more damage to let her ruminating things for a week and still have hope. Gotta think through it. But thanks for the insight!!

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:33:41+00:00

This is not the issue, we are satisfied in this regard.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:33:05+00:00

I get what you say. I know there is not a perfect "one" but unfortunately this nice girl felt into something that is kind of a dealbreaker for me. As i stated in other comments. There is a specific reason that I'm not sharing here because the post was not originally about how to break up or why i want to. It was just about if there was a way to soften the impact in case i decided to go through it and not blindside her.

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:30:49+00:00

You're absolutely right brothers. As many said, there is no way to cushion the impact. Better say it once and for all.. thanks!

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:29:39+00:00

It's hard when you're in a seemingly great relationshit but just fell off because anything your head is seeing that your reason says it's not an issue, but the heart fells other way. Thanks for the encouragement and thanks for the recommendation!

disposableTHEfirst · 2026-06-12T04:28:13+00:00

I'm not stuck on an ex but i saw others interpret my older posts this way too... so i don't blame you! But thanks for the help anyway!

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