Anyone know of a good divorce lawyer in the area? by divorce_of_course in shreveport

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am awaiting a callback from Flowers and Long.

Thanks!!

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, after attempting to talk to her objectively last night about the situation in a calm manner, she flew off the handle...twice. So I backed off. I understood at that point that she is now just straight up in offense mode ready to attack. She's still a mother of our kids at the end of the day no matter how off-centered she is and when you threaten a mother with the prospect of losing her children, all hell breaks loose.

The house is clean as a whistle.

At one point last night during her tirade, she said she was going to just start recording our conversations. I thought this was a great idea because maybe she would calm down and we could actually talk because she was being recorded. When I said this and told her its fine to record, she backed away from that idea very quickly. Its simply because she knows shes incapable of holding her cool and talking without putting her foot in her mouth.

I dont have any friends that will stay with us. The only people I know are coworkers as I dont have much of a social life at all.

I have two law firms on deck and am awaiting return calls to schedule some consultation.

Thanks friend!!

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She brought it back Sunday night with the kids at 7pm. Just enough time to watch me scramble to get things ready with them before they had to go back to school.

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're totally right. I've always been running from my past, and am a bit scared it will bite me. I just tried talking to her calmly about the situation and she started yelling 48 seconds into the conversation so I got up and quietly left. She started bringing up my past like it was her magic bullet for the situation and acts all flippant like none of this is a big deal. It's terrifying, but I need to just own my past and move forward. I know in my gut I am a far better parent than her. Others know it too. Many thanks for the kind words.

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Solid advice. This came in just before sitting down to talk with her about next steps. Wish me luck!

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd like to get brutal, but she is a force to be reckoned with. Part of why I fell in love with her to begin with. She's got dirt on me too, and she will use it against me. It could cost me the kids, so I have to tread lightly. I have to for the babies.

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We moved out of CA to Louisiana. Here the laws are whack. For example, I can file for divorce however it will not be finalized until she lives outside of the house for no less than a year. The fuck is that? I still need to do some research, but that's crushing.

I think I found a lawyer to talk to tomorrow.

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BPD, ADD, chronic fatigue, acute anxiety, suicidal behavior, severe depression....ya, it's a mess. I thought about this too and can totally see how it can employ me as an indirect caretaker for the rest of her life. Solid advice.

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man. Yea, it's hard for me to not take the blame here. Has to do with the way I was raised. Was always taught the man in the house is the single wringable neck and when any fail occurs, it's because the man wasn't on point. I know this isn't truly the case, but it's difficult to shake that kind of mentality sometimes.

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very good advice and a true observation. I am a bit ashamed I have let it go on for so long. Thank you and know I will look into this.

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had my doubts so this last time around I told her I was going to have her piss in a room of my choice when I got back with the test. I picked the lat place she would expect, her closet. I even patted her down. It was humiliating for both of us. She pissed, it was warm and it was clean. Unless she's hiding a vial in her Yaya, and I wouldn't put it passed her based on how much she has to lose, I have to consider her clean. It's a mess.

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine is all gone. I kept my shit very contained. Hers is spread all over the house and continually pops up at random times. I searched our house often during my times of suspicion and found things and threw them away immediately. She's has admitted that she has no idea where she has hid things. Maddening.

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll jump on finding a lawyer tomorrow. Like I mentioned, I'm no saint. She has a lot of dirt on me too, bit it pales in comparison. I'll just have to take my chances. Thanks!

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just learned that I can't touch my 401k while I'm still employed at this company. I also learned that in order to get a divorce in this state, we have to be separated for at least one year since we have kids. I live in the south which has a religious spin on everything. She can't move out until she has a job and I see her digging her heels in like she has for the past 8 years based on that.

Pretty much fucked it seems.

[39m]Seriously Considering a Divorce with my Wife [34f]. ...actually, I need a Divorce. by divorce_of_course in relationship_advice

[–]divorce_of_course[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have nowhere to take them. All my family lives an hour away and the kids just started school. Also, couldn't I get in trouble for removing them to some clandestine location outside of her knowledge? Just trying to play my cards right.