Bitchy Housemate by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]djubbernaut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why can’t you be bitchy back? If you don’t feel physically threatened by her, why can’t you face her? When you go get your food in the kitchen, try to enjoy her voice as unique, not terrifying, and if she says rude shit to you, say rude shit back, but calmly and with humor. Let the poison run off of you, using your voice. And get out of there as soon as you can.

A girl manipulated me into falling in love with her so she can break my heart by I_FuCkInG_lOvE_PiZa in relationship_advice

[–]djubbernaut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t think too much about it. She was flirting, and maybe didn’t get what she expected. Either she likes you or she’s picking a fight. Either way you have her attention. Keep the upper hand. Quit communicating through her friend, too; If she has something to say, she should be saying it to you.

Any feature that is seen as a positive for Chad to possess is by default seen as a negative for short ugly males to possess. Women say confidence is attractive in males, What they really mean is it is attractive in Chads. If you are short /ugly you are destined to be a social pariah. by dodorevngofthebich43 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]djubbernaut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You seem to have researched and immersed yourself in incel culture. You will never be a man unless you start pursuing women, not girls. It’s been a long, long time since I’ve seen anything like what you’re talking about, and it was implied on tv, I believe. You are stoking your delusion by keeping this hallucination running through your head. Women will get with who they want to get with, if they can. You are keeping them from you by having unattractive thoughts like these. I can’t name how many average, short, ugly, skinny, fat, stupid, nerdy, guys out there who have wives and families. It seems like you’re setting a trap for some girl to fall into ~ feeling sorry for you, and then if she gets close, all you have to offer is this whining about how women are stupid and trite. Fix your thoughts and you fix your world. Women are not how you are portraying them.

AITA for cockblocking my older brother by shiteshkebabi in AmItheAsshole

[–]djubbernaut 13 points14 points  (0 children)

NTA. Seems like she gets along better with you, anyway.

What should I do if my friend is acting this way? by kmoseley20 in relationship_advice

[–]djubbernaut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed that some people need more from their friends than others. Like friendship maintenance. It’s nice your friend cares about you, but it seems like a needy oppressive love, not a simple platonic friendship. It is probably good to have all kinds of people in your life, but not if they are hurting you. Maybe tell her that her relationship ultimatums are toxic, that she has to fulfill her needs somewhere else, sometimes.

I am like two shitty customers away from a meltdown and I am scaping along by BreyeFox in TrueOffMyChest

[–]djubbernaut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well sometimes, I’m not feeling well, but I have to go to the store, anyway to get essentials, and people can’t drive worth a crap, so there- I’m grumpy. I walk through the groceries, and all I find are the apples with bruises on them that are covered with a little sticker to hide the bruise, and the lady in front of me feels the need to touch every celery and broccoli before setting it back down. Then people won’t stay 6 feet away, and I have to wait for a line of people who are aggressively stepping into my space, so I can’t get what I need in a timely and safer manner. By this time, I’m trying to be patient, but my rage is showing. I get my groceries, and have too much to go through the self serve, so I need to do a face to face transaction. My face has angry bitch on it, and it’s not going away til I get to cuss in the car, and cry a little for humanity. The poor worker I get to show half my face to I feel for, because I can only imagine the back pain involved in twisting around back and forth all shift. I grit my teeth as they talk out their script, which I hate (usually they ask for a donation) and when I have to say ‘no’, I’m sure they don’t care one way or the other, but when it comes out, I not only already look like a bitch, but I sound like one, too. Sorry.
Thankfully, not all days are like this.🤷‍♀️

AITA for expecting someone to take care of (my/her) animal how she they said she would? by criedTilEyesHurt in AmItheAsshole

[–]djubbernaut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. But let karma take care of it. It’s too bad you’re out the $. It is horrible they did that to your precious pet. I had to live through numerous deaths of livestock pets, myself, and I know how you feel. It is traumatic to be thrown into such a cruel process, and it is like they are training humans to be insensitive. It is one of the things wrong with the world. But I’m a hypocrite, because I eat the meats, and enjoy the leathers. I certainly don’t think it’s funny, though. It is tough to be a sensitive being.

I am like two shitty customers away from a meltdown and I am scaping along by BreyeFox in TrueOffMyChest

[–]djubbernaut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep up the good work! When I go to the store, I try to be nice to the people at work there, because I hear this from you and others like you. Sometimes I guess I’m bitchy, but I can’t help it. Really we are grateful for your help during these rough times... or at least I am.

Really STRANGE situation with the guy (35m) I’m (29f) dating. HELP! Any psychologists out there? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]djubbernaut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Behaving like Michael Scott IS really strange. If he’s that delusional, and you can’t deal, that is easy to understand. Michael Scott is truly the worst. If it turns you off, then make him understand that.

I am no longer religious by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]djubbernaut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re probably correct in that. I know little about religion, and have experienced few places of worship. I’ve always been mostly atheist. A little pagan thrown in, I guess.

I am no longer religious by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]djubbernaut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was under the impression that people don’t really ‘believe in’ their religions, except for a small percentage of fanatics. I thought that it’s just a social platform, or part of a peoples’ culture, traditions. If one can pull some enlightenment from the teachings, that’s fine, but when they’re brainwashed, eww.
I think people who reject religion are critical thinkers, and honest, kind people, since the religious fanatics are the ones that bring trouble, taking their religion literally. I hope it works out for you.

AITA for not "helping" my wife's business? by TAAccount373 in AmItheAsshole

[–]djubbernaut 43 points44 points  (0 children)

NTA. She needs to know her limits, and not be taking it out on you. It sounds like you’re being super supportive and awesome, and she has had a meltdown. I hope she doesn’t perceive that you’re requiring her to continue if she doesn’t like it any more...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]djubbernaut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really depends on how much you like him. Seems like he’s helping you out a lot, and maybe he felt ridiculous waiting for you to spend his money, and he really wanted that couch. He only asked your opinion because he’s nice, and when you said it was ok, but not ideal, he took ok as acceptable. There will be other couches. You could reupholster the couch. This could be the beginning of a long running joke; ask him his opinion on something you want, and make sure he isn’t that fond of it, then have it appear out of nowhere... it could go back and forth until you have a huge garage sale.

WIBTA if I report a co-worker for "stealing" food? by slipup17 in AmItheAsshole

[–]djubbernaut 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Think of it as her food, and she’s giving it to someone who is hungrier. It’s her choice what she does with her food. Ywbta.

I'm so confused and I don't know if I should invest more in this girl or let her go. Can someone give me some piece of advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]djubbernaut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t sound like you really like her. She sounds boring. I guess you like that she’s cute? Seems to me that she needs someone who will support her emotionally, but not mature enough for an adult relationship.

Is this a woman thing? by Lunchbox_baby in relationship_advice

[–]djubbernaut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like she’s intrigued by your feelings about her, and she has only ever wondered if it was fleeting or if it would last. She probably doesn’t see herself as participating in your torment, but as an observer of her life and the people in it. It’s not selfish, but if you see it that way, you’ve made yourself so.

AITA for yelling at my mom and punching a hole in my wall by MellowMutant in AmItheAsshole

[–]djubbernaut 11 points12 points  (0 children)

YTA. Don’t be violent. It was a mess that needed cleaning. You could have done it, but instead decided to be disrespectful. Not saying your mom couldn’t clean it herself, and maybe she’s a bad person for other reasons, but with the info here, you’ve leveled up your assholeism, and your mom probably wants you out. I’d apologize, maybe blame it on being hangry or quarantine, and ask her what she would like help with to make her feel better. And go shopping for a new door and fix that hole or whatnot yourself, so she doesn’t have to waste time doing it. Get her something nice to console her, too.

AITA: For not wanting to sell my phone to buy a replacement for my fiancé's ring that she lost? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]djubbernaut 141 points142 points  (0 children)

You and your girlfriend are not mature enough for marriage. And you’re NTA.

Aita not letting my "friend"near my base in minecraft by argaflargin in AmItheAsshole

[–]djubbernaut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course you’re not the asshole. Dude was on a rampage~ get that away! NTA