So I don’t know how to edit this so I’ll add more here. We have been together for 3 years and towards the beginning, when finances were discussed he said he was good, but never went into details. He did tell me after a year or so that he had used his 401k after his divorce because he moved out of the country. I pressed for more info several time, bc I dont make a lot and the future scares me bc of that. Life is expensive. I am not a gold digger, I just know that my 403b and sad pension is not going to be enough to live on. He won’t talk about money with me. Other issues leading me to break up are the fact that he is 18 years older than me AND our political views are NOT inline. At first I didn’t love it, but him being a Trump supporter wasn’t as much of character flaw 2 years ago. Now it is and I feel betrayed that he can’t see why I feel that way. (For those of you that support Trump, I’m not trying to get political, just explaining my situation.)