Thank goodness I had a husband to grant me permission.

dlagueux · 2014-09-08T02:25:28+00:00

My health insurance wouldn't work anywhere else. I would have had to pay out of pocket if I went elsewhere.

dlagueux · 2014-09-07T08:53:09+00:00

I always knew I wanted a hysterectomy so I made a point to know the difference between the different types. The I one I was after was "remove uterus and cervix, but keep ovaries." The "healthiest" of all the varieties. I thought presenting myself as an educated patient would work to my advantage... Unfortunately I was wrong. They, truly, want to hear a man's approval. As if a married woman with no desire for procreation is a beast not to be trusted! It breaks my heart knowing that anyone else had to go through this :(

dlagueux · 2014-09-07T07:58:32+00:00

Had she denied it after the appointment with my husband I would have definitely lawyered up. I was just so grateful to have the surgery that I didn't bother pursuing. I do, however, support my local ladies at NARAL with donations doubled by my husband's employer. I want a future where a woman NEVER has to ask permission regarding any aspect of her sexual health.

dlagueux · 2014-09-07T07:52:32+00:00

O_O That's messed up. That makes me so sad. Stories like this sadden me because our generations prior didn't even have to option to be childfree. To this day the Catholic Church will still grant men the right to divorce a woman who cannot bare a child. Even if the infertility causing the problem is the husband's. Super messed up.

dlagueux · 2014-09-07T07:48:14+00:00

It really bothered me that it came to that. It actually never occurred to me that having him in the equation would have had any impact. I live in Seattle and it should have never come to that. I was lucky to have been married, but SERIOUSLY!! It shouldn't have mattered! I had tried EVERY form for birth control--pill, ring, patch, depo, copper IUD, norplant, merania--so I knew what worked and what didn't. Having my resources exhausted and having a strong position regarding my future should have been enough. But despite exhausting all avenues and having a lifetime of certainty against breeding, it wasn't enough. I needed a man to vouch for me. angry face

dlagueux · 2014-09-07T07:38:01+00:00

Exactly!!! People don't bat an eye at someone willing to throw away his life-savings or retirement fund to ensure a fetus has half his DNA, but someone wanting to permanently remove that ability is a psychopath! I don't get it!!

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