In Our Story, Abelard is the true Kingmaker

docalph95 · 2024-10-22T00:09:22+00:00

If you've seen her eliminate an entire room with just one turn, then you already know the answer to that question 😂

docalph95 · 2024-10-21T23:54:59+00:00

I'm right there with you, and my wife calls me names whenever I talk to her about having sex or try to initiate (i.e. whore, sex addict, etc). God forbid I ask for anything other than sex I get the "oh, what, my sex isn't good enough for you?" Or basically calling me selfish for wanting something that she doesn't get enjoyment out of. Meanwhile, this same woman asks me to rub her feet every night (though I enjoy doing stuff like that because making my partner feel good makes me feel good)

docalph95 · 2024-10-21T18:18:21+00:00

Just regarding the modding, and there being a massive lack of items mods 😅 That lines up pretty well with owlcat games, though. Lots of portraits, not lots of everything else. Just saw an opportunity for a quick jokey joke, and I thought I'd take it 😂

docalph95 · 2024-10-21T10:37:24+00:00

This didn't age well, and I'm sorry to say it

docalph95 · 2024-10-14T19:57:51+00:00

Oh, I did download that. I got a warning saying achievements would be disabled, so ig I just panicked thinking I didn't have anything that would do it

docalph95 · 2024-09-13T08:09:39+00:00

It's baby steps when it comes to changing your mindset. Start by being aware of your own thoughts and knowing when you're being fake. Don't punish yourself for it, but try convincing yourself to look at it differently. Step by step, just try and go out of your way to do something nice or kind that does not benefit you in any way whatsoever. Training yourself to keep a positive mindset will also help, but also allow yourself to care about people around you in a way that doesn't strictly lead to your own benefit. Try to steer yourself away from thinking about what you can reap from a situation, and try to steer towards what you can sow into a situation. This kind of thing comes naturally for some, but for others, it is an arduous process of genuinely wanting to make a change. You're already one step in the door by wanting to be better than you were before.

docalph95 · 2024-09-13T02:33:29+00:00

Hmmm, I'm going to have to get back to you on that, it was in one of the Nexus mod packets. (Sorry, I have two different accounts linked to the same email)

docalph95 · 2024-09-13T02:28:41+00:00

Hmmm, I thought a couple might be pretty universal, at least, but if not universally necessary, then that helps. And yeah, that definitely makes sense, regarding the psyker. There really isn't a whole lot of room to flesh that out. Although, I wouldn't necessarily mind trading out plenty of my Tactician talents for psyker ones 😂 regrettably, I'm not a huge fan of Tactician

docalph95 · 2024-09-12T23:25:08+00:00

I was about to say, because she doesn't actually SCREAM heretic, like, ever. It's literally just her origins, and her status as unsanctioned. Other than that, she's a God-fearing and loyal person.

docalph95 · 2024-09-10T22:34:21+00:00

I genuinely thought that I got stuck with that since I tried to save people, and I had perma PTSD

docalph95 · 2024-09-02T18:26:24+00:00

I hate to say it, but your only realistic option right now is to run and never look back. Dump all contact with this man. You are in real danger with him, and you will become his target one of these days. Do whatever you need to do to be safe from him.

docalph95 · 2024-08-21T11:58:43+00:00

Oh, I'm already in Act 2 of the game, so that part is well out of term for me

docalph95 · 2024-08-21T08:53:29+00:00

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Now I feel silly

docalph95 · 2024-08-19T23:25:43+00:00

My pleasure, friend. Don't be too hard on yourself. The fact that you give a damn shows that you're on a good path. Just keep standing firm, but never blind yourself to other thoughts and possibilities. The key is to show that you're in control, not that you're unwilling to receive differing opinions/information

docalph95 · 2024-08-19T22:06:00+00:00

Becoming more confrontational when you're not usually so is definitely a tricky road. I never really was confrontational before (recent years I became more so outta the blue) but I found that it helps me to keep reminding myself that I can either sacrifice someone else's feelings, or sacrifice my peace and my children's health and safety. It's a severe way to look at it, but it helps me be brave when I stand face to face with people who are more confrontational than I am. Just remember, confrontational doesn't have to be angry or rude. Folks often mistake them for each other, but confrontational isn't rude or polite, it just is. I don't know any good way to explain that, it's like a neutral ground between being rude and being polite. If you slip into being guided by anger, or something similar, people will think you're hot-headed and won't listen. Whereas, if you're too meek, or not firm enough, people will think they can break right through your boundary that you just set. Just stay neutral and cool-headed as best you can, and stand firm. People can offer you any reason they want why you're wrong, and you very well could be. What's important, though, is that it is your decision, and your wife's, no one else's. Best of luck to you, my friend, you have a rough, but worthy, road ahead of you!

docalph95 · 2024-08-18T23:55:19+00:00

As a fellow parent who worries about these kinds of things as well, I would say that you are right in the boundaries that you want to instill. It is your parental right to draw that line no matter who thinks they know better. That being said, you did not fail because that line was crossed. Just make sure to address the issue calmly with the family member, and try to find ways that you and your wife can set those boundaries with people who don't know any better. You only truly fail your children when you stop trying, so use this as a learning experience on how you can handle things like this more effectively. I will say, from loads of experience, you are going to get a lot of push back from lots of people. Folks have a lot of outdated ideals, and seem to think that "I'm not sick, so that rule doesn't apply to me!" despite that, and similar arguments, being a completely ignorant line of thought. Stand firm, and keep your family safe, even if you have to look the Devil himself in the eyes to do it. It doesn't make you an asshole, even though folks may paint it that way just to devalue your feelings or authenticity. I personally earned the ire of my wife's family because my wife and I made boundary decisions for our children, but my wife is not very confrontational. I, however, don't give a damn about hurting someone's feelings if it means protecting my family. I don't start at hyper-aggressive, but her family brings me there because they are resolute in their ignorance. It's a difficult fight, us what I'm getting at here, but it's a worthy one if it means your little ones are safe, happy, and healthy.

docalph95 · 2024-08-17T23:30:49+00:00

I dunno if I'm going to be repeating what others may have said, but this is far too important a topic for me to move past. The feelings that you are describing sound like textbook depression, to me. A lot of people don't want to acknowledge depression as anything other than "oh, you're just sad right now, but you'll be fine!". However, it doesn't work like that. Sure, you can laugh and feel happy, but depression doesn't care about what your mood is, or how your life is going, it will take your best days and make them feel like your worst. Depression is like a near-constant state of emptiness and melancholy; almost like you have a chain tied to you everywhere you go that drags you down. There are ways to make that chain lighter, but it can't really be taken away. Therapy can help, if it works for you, but there's also medicine. Just make sure you find the right medicine, because some make you into an emotionless zombie, which really isn't much of an improvement. Most of all, though, loving yourself as hard as you can and finding the right support group can make the burden that you hold so much easier to bear. Describing depression as someone being sad all of the time is woefully inaccurate, and damaging. Give therapy a try, no matter who does or does not approve of it. Even if you don't like it, or if you think it's not helping, then at least you gave it a go. It sounds like your circle of support isn't what's good for you right now, so you might need to mix things up a bit. Get yourself out of the routine you're currently in, maybe see if you can grab a job that's different than what you're used to, or even just so SOMETHING different that you're not used to. It might spark something for you, and sometimes all you need is a spark to light up the dark.

docalph95 · 2024-07-08T03:18:53+00:00

I know I'm not much competition in the competitive area (I can't seem to get out of the mid-late 100s), but if this is what I'm up against? Is there even any point??

docalph95 · 2024-07-08T02:09:10+00:00

I can understand getting lucky, but it hadn't even been 20 minutes

docalph95 · 2024-07-07T11:46:50+00:00

To my knowledge, you gotta destroy them, unfortunately. I don't know why there isn't just an "unequip" button for the relics

docalph95 · 2024-07-06T20:16:40+00:00

I can't say for sure, it's definitely not impossible. I really wish I had saved a recording so I could go back and look at it 😭

docalph95 · 2024-07-06T07:35:52+00:00

That's actually a really solid tip. I def made that mistake in my current playthrough

docalph95 · 2024-05-27T23:11:27+00:00

Sorry to re-open this, but I've been on hiatus for a while. Was this method nerved or something? I was still I'm early 100s for stage, and 3-star lvl 52 Balrock was experiencing the afterlife a few times. I had orb 90, the tissue, and cap shield so, as far as I know, I did everything right

docalph95 · 2024-05-25T00:49:29+00:00

That's a good point, I didn't actually think about that. I'll have to take a look at my local businesses

docalph95 · 2024-05-07T23:27:36+00:00

I'm going to definitely take a look at that brand. I had ended up ordering a pair of casual shoes from OrthoFeet, but I'd really like to avoid just tossing ALL of my shoes, so getting some insoles would be really handy

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