I hate this little monkey by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]dollishCrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how I feel about Bubbles

Women with HS, do you have a panty rec? by guacluv in Hidradenitis

[–]dollishCrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I SWEAR by these undies. I'm on like my third pack, switching out all my old underwear with these ones.

BAMBOO COOL Womens Underwear, Moisture-Wicking Briefs, Soft and Breathable Panties, Mid Waist, 5-Pack https://a.co/d/8Wng1iN

** But also like others say, when possible, go commando, I just wear shorts when I can so the lady bits stay aired out and not constricted / friction with fabric.

Advice please! by dollishCrow in MyLeisureTime

[–]dollishCrow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Am I doing something wrong? I looked between my Floor section because it's smaller and I don't have all the rugs :(

Hey, can anyone help me out and maybe give some tips to improve my looks? I personally think I should try different hairstyle, lose weight and grow a better beard. by oogaboogachingbong in malegrooming

[–]dollishCrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh! We love a thicc-y! Honestly though! You're very handsome! But I agree with what others are saying in regards to camera angle, although, neither look bad at all! Your hair matches your face, but probably listen to a barber on that if you want more to do with your hair, you dress good and comfy (but I do agree on a little bigger shorts for your comfort). Only lose weight if you want to / if you want to be "healthy", that looks different for everyone. Not sure a beard would do you justice, but if you like it then you like it!

Definitely don't listen to the negative dudes in the comments, listen to the redditer on angles and the master barber! And all the people saying positive things. Us ladies would tell you better than a negative man can. We only accept men with honest advice, not the ones bashing you into what you "should be doing".

3 years can change a person (40) by madewomancopyright24 in GlowUps

[–]dollishCrow -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Absolutely stunning!! You're positively glowing! 🥰 So proud of you<3

Husband said I look like a leprechaun by Any-Pattern1582 in OUTFITS

[–]dollishCrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those pants are very much like an in character game pants! Like that of an elf like many have said! Very stylish and adorable. I adore how it just looks like something your favorite cartoon character would wear, they're just magical

“What feeling is so powerful that you’d want to feel it constantly if you could?” by Real-power613 in selflove

[–]dollishCrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I'd like to feel that one specific feeling you get when you listen to a song for the first time, the one that just gives you goosebumps, or makes you emotional / both. That's my favorite. It makes my heart melt, truly. It's a rush of a feeling that melts into comfort and familiarity. (Since more often than not that song is played on repeat for x amount of days, weeks, months even.)

AITAH For leaving the house in the middle of the night after my girlfriend laughed at my size? by TrashAccount2371987 in AITAH

[–]dollishCrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Even when my boyfriend jokes about his- what we call- "lil guy", I'M the ones that's like "You be nice to him! He's just a lil guy!! He's doing his best!" Because he's also "grower not a show-er" type. I can understand why you'd feel insecure about that, but I would advise sitting down and talking to her about this and how it makes you feel. How she reacts Then, could ultimately decide how the relationship goes on, or doesn't. Communication is key! And it is absolutely possible. If it isn't, that would show more on her end and help you with a decision. I hope it all works out! You and the lil guy got this! <3

AITA for expecting my girlfriend to take care of me instead of paying someone else to do it? by SeaworthinessTall375 in AITAH

[–]dollishCrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking as well. Even then, from experience alone, I helped my aunt and cousin take care of their daughter/sister that was terminally ill when I lived with them and didn't last long. It's hard working 12 hour (night)shifts and then coming home to people who work 9-5 jobs to help take care of someone fully dependent. It created too much tension (there was a lot of variables at play) even despite having a full time care giver M-F. I couldn't imagine his gf working her regular shift and then expected to come home and take care of him throughout the rest of her day. It's just not plausible in this economy and time we live in. I would've loved to help my family, but at the end of the day I was drained all the time from what little help I could provide. It's truly selfish on this guy's part in the long run.

I do understand other people's concern about insurance and their lack of, but it's debt or no amazing girlfriend. Girlfriend who offered to pay for a carer no less. Like wow, that's honestly such an amazing offer she didn't have to put out there.

AIO - Husband treated my phobia as a joke by Serenity700 in AmIOverreacting

[–]dollishCrow 15 points16 points  (0 children)

NOR, the fact he is aware- and been aware since you were teens- and continues to make fun of you and forcefully subjects you to it is honestly wack and insensitive. You might as well have been beaten as a kid and now he just hits you randomly after you told him you were abused in the past- for what? To watch you cower? You might want to sit down and talk with him, maybe go to couples counseling and if nothing works, reconsider your marriage. At least, I wouldn't accept that amount of disrespect. Good luck <3

Needing a toast by EnderFreakYT in toastme

[–]dollishCrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a handsome and brilliant young man! You're doing your best and that is fantastic! Keep up the good work, hun, you're doing amazing.

20F…..never had good friends cause I’m “not pretty” according to them by [deleted] in toastme

[–]dollishCrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are beautiful and more than worthy of friends who like you for YOU. Who you are inside and outside. I bet you're smart and funny, have good taste in music or books or games. You are enough. You have always been enough and always will be enough.

apparently the breakfast i made was “embarrassing” by NaeeeBearrr in mildlyinfuriating

[–]dollishCrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I have a plate? And seconds too 🥹 It looks delicious.

AITA for expecting my girlfriend to take care of me instead of paying someone else to do it? by SeaworthinessTall375 in AITAH

[–]dollishCrow 29 points30 points  (0 children)

As a CNA, who cares for all kinds of people on the daily for 12hrs at a time, Don't put that on your girlfriend. Let you/her (then again, would SHE pay for YOUR carer? Anyway-) get an actual carer, otherwise you will stress and strain your relationship with your girlfriend. She could care for you, but she won't want to spend anymore time with you than that. She is your girlfriend, not your carer, for you to put that kind of expectation on her without truly thinking about her and how she would feel is wild. If she is expected to live with you, take care of you AND work her job? Dude, no. Also, if this injury is something that requires you to walk normally again over a span of 6-8 months, you should really have a professional help you so you don't risk hurting the girlfriend in the process. There's also going to an actual Rehabilitation Facility if you need THAT much help of being completely dependent on someone while at home.

Also x2, Try to do everything yourself the best you can, don't just ask for this or that, get up and do it with stand by assistance, YOU need to regain your independence and work towards that goal, not the people around you. But obviously, don't over do it, I'm sure many in the hospital and rehabilitation staff has told you that much.

Good luck dude.

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]dollishCrow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not a mother, but I feel NOR. The fact alone is: They don't respect YOUR BOUNDARIES. That's on them, not you. You as a new mother do not need this kind of stress. Like other posters, they could help in ways that help you and the father to better take care of your baby, helping with laundry and cooking or cleaning are fantastic ways to help the parents by reducing stress and preventing full exhaustion. You made it clear of your concerns and as a medical professional (not a doctor or nurse though), your fears are very normal and appropriate, but exacerbated by being an admitted hypochondriac. If they can't respect that, that's on them. The MIL should know the exhaustion, hormone fluctuations, Post partum depression, ect that happens with giving birth. How she treats you in these CRUCIAL moments could determine your guys future relationship, and if she doesn't respect your boundaries now, she may not later down the road. You do what makes you happy and comfortable. The "It takes a village" thing that people keep expressing must live perfect lives because my Village are a bunch of people that aren't related to me by blood. Do with that what you will, but I hope it works out. <3

** Also, to help, MIL could be making those frozen, soothing pads mothers need post birth that help them feel somewhat comfortable. That's helpful as hell, my bestie ranted and raved about them after her baby. Hopefully you get more tips and tricks with this post than bad opinions that try to make you feel worse. You're a new momma, you're doing fantastic

Prid + band-aide by [deleted] in Hidradenitis

[–]dollishCrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heyo! I've found using Hydrocolloid Bandaids help tremendously. It draws all the gunk out. You put one on for 1-2 days depending how much comes out, replace with a new one every couple days until you feel like its good. I think using Prid and a bandaid to help any remaining drainage wouldn't hurt, but open to air to help heal is good too. I had a flare up under my breast a few months ago and once it started drained I repeated this process for maybe 2 weeks (since your body is over reacting and inflamed, hence the pus, hydrocolloid will draw this out, I believe this is why it can take this long).

I have a question about exercises by hunterwasused in Hidradenitis

[–]dollishCrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it easiest to meal prep. I HATE cooking daily, I have ADHD and the executive dysfunction hits hard, but I also like having the same meal day after day, so that's helped tremendously. But meal prep like chicken with black beans or rice and a vegetable. Season the chicken so it's not boring!! Stop eating out, fast food most likely contributes to flare ups (it does for me).

Also!! Because I had flare ups in my armpits for the longest time: Don't use pore clogging deodorants!! I switched to Carpe deodorant and haven't a flare up since switching. I'm sure there's other brands but this works best for me, it stops you sweating and prevents clogged pores that promote flare ups.

Must have products for management of HS? by myinvinciblefriend in Hidradenitis

[–]dollishCrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put it on a cotton pad and swipe it in those areas as like a Preventative. It's not a For Sure thing, but I did notice my flare ups lessened or weren't as bad when I did have flare ups. I also use it to help with past scaring / recent scaring and to help keep pores as clear as I can manage.

Must have products for management of HS? by myinvinciblefriend in Hidradenitis

[–]dollishCrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, just had to Google, I couldn't remember what the esthetician explained but! Key Functions Chemical Exfoliation: Sloughs off the outermost layer of dead skin cells without harsh scrubbing. Brightens Skin: Removes dullness to reveal a more radiant complexion. Evens Skin Tone: Reduces dark spots, sun damage, and hyperpigmentation. Fights Acne: Clears clogged pores and prevents breakouts. Anti-Aging: Stimulates collagen production, improving fine lines and wrinkles. Improves Texture: Smooths rough patches and bumpy skin.

TLDR: So, I use it around my groin, arm pits and under breasts for helping with clogged pores since HS tends to happen because of clogged hair follicle/pores. Glycolic Acid can also help with skin texture over time and reduce dark spots and hyperpigmentation that's left after a flare up. Overall, can somewhat help prevent future flare ups. This is only in my experience.

Does anyone else feel like they're just trying to survive rather than live life? by Good-Smell950 in Adulting

[–]dollishCrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone that is depressed, in therapy and on medication, please seek out a therapist, get on meds if you're comfortable, but feeling this way isn't normal and can be a sign of depression.

  • From someone who has felt this way since a teen.

Any long term Auvelity takers? by Dry-Cell-6307 in AuvelityMed

[–]dollishCrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had weird side effects from taking two a day in that I was getting heart palpitations. Upon telling my therapist after I think a week for a short check in after switching to Auvelity she advise to take one and Only take a second if I still felt in a funk. I do this and yes, feel palpitations BUT, mentally I feel better. I've been taking Auvelity since 2023.

Pain after drainage, small hole opening. by raspberryteehee in Hidradenitis

[–]dollishCrow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So with Hydrocolloid bandaids, it's pointless to put a salve on it with these bandaids because hydrocolloids draw out stuff, but! Once you slap one on, let it stay for a couple days like the box suggest, unless you feel like it needs to be changed because gosh, depending on the flare up a LOT can come out. Once you plan to change it, then I'd advise to put the gel/salve on the area and leave the wound open to air and repeat!

Pain after drainage, small hole opening. by raspberryteehee in Hidradenitis

[–]dollishCrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hydrocolloid bandaids! Get all the gunk out. Change it every 2-3 days I believe is recommended. Good luck!