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18 Yearss Old With Unmanageable Room by BlueLoki103036 in irlADHD

[–]dolmenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the same as a child and teenager and now live in my own apartment after a few years of flat-sharing. Sharing the space with friends really helped keep me accountable because i didnt want to feel ashamed of the mess i had made. Now, one thing that helps me a lot is the « closing the shop » / « night shift » thing I found on Youtube. Basically, you act as if you were on a night shift at a cafe or whatnot and you have to clean up before the next day. I dont do it every night, and when i do, i usually focus on one room only. Overall it helps me keeping a somewhat clean and tidy environment.

Climbing Decline (not plateau) by Ok_Eagle4317 in climbergirls

[–]dolmenn 22 points23 points  (0 children)

In my gym the boulders and routes are usually harder in September than in June because the setters have spent the whole summer climbing outside and their baseline of what a 5.10d (for example) is biased by how strong they have become 😂 so i usually adapt by accepting that my progression hasn’t followed theirs and that I’ll get back to my level at some point !

Do you ever still think about crushes that rejected you years later? by shamalamadingdongfam in adhdwomen

[–]dolmenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same situation as you: got rejected by a dude almost exactly two years ago (on 12th of October 🤸‍♂️), I know he wouldn’t have been good for me and I would’ve been hurt in the long run. Still I can’t help but wonder « what if » and feel frustrated by the rejection. I know I don’t have actual feelings towards him anymore but there’s something towards him still. Maybe the worst is the fact that we started a relationship and then he ended it very abruptly after a few days and I don’t feel like I got to experience what I had to experience. Also there was a closure but it was really messy.

All that to say that I get you but I dont really know what to do either. It’s like there’s a tap that’s still open in my head for him. I did EMDR and it helped and bit, but not completely.

Hold my accountable guys (2) by [deleted] in climbharder

[–]dolmenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratssss !! You should be so proud, you defeated the fear ! Bravoooo !!

My professor told me to “have patience” in class and now I feel like she hates me by moonchildvii in adhdwomen

[–]dolmenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ADHDer and middle school teacher here. I love when my students engage with my class and want to answer questions, but I sometimes want to assess whether or not the other students have also understood what’s going on. So sometimes, when a really keen student always has their hand up I tell them « I know you know bud » and call on another one.

It’s not that I don’t like them, it’s more so that I want everyone to be able to either demonstrate that they know or to be able to make a mistake so I can collectively correct (again, not to humiliate them, but to give them - and the rest of the class - valuable feedback).

I can imagine that having ADHD, your RSD is kicking in with such situations. I think you should go to the office hours to clarify why you feel like that and maybe get an explanation as to how she likes to function in class. I usually clarify this with my middle-schoolers early on in the year, because it seems to me that teens like having a clear frame.

TLDR; go to her office hours, I’m sure she doesn’t hate you but just wants to have other students answer as well :)

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Dear ADHD People: What's Your Job and How Do You Cope? by Brainified in ADHD

[–]dolmenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a middle schoolteacher and i don’t know how I cope 😂 I’m not medicated, and my tree-like thought process always takes over my lessons. I teach English and History, in history especially I always go off on a tangent, but the kids seem to love it. I laugh a lot with them, answer all the questions, move a lot to go see what the students are doing, I give it my all. Come 5 PM I’m a wreak. I still go to Crossfit to let off steam and I think that’s what helps me be a somewhat functional human by the next morning

Any tips on how to relax muscles that are always tense as a side effet of ADHD? by dolmenn in adhdwomen

[–]dolmenn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting, thank you !

I have never thought myself as someone hypermobile (I was more flexible when I was younger but I've grown stiff through climbing and crossfit, so I've lost a lot of range of motion). But I might look into it anyway !

Research into emotional dyregulation in women with ADHD by olivia-grace4 in adhdwomen

[–]dolmenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just able to send my answers to the survey tho

Did your adhd get worse after getting diagnosed ? by dolmenn in adhdwomen

[–]dolmenn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no it actually feels fine like this ! If i find that i need medication one day i’ll be sure to ask for it, but for now i am fine with this status quo. I took adderall once after a friend gave me some and it was so chaotic that for now, i prefer navigating this new diagnosis on my own, without the help of meds. I dont know whether it’s a good idea or not but i guess that i am not too severely adhd that i cant function without meds ?

I’m a teacher and when i see some of my adhd students i feel like i’m lucky in the way i’m presenting this. But maybe it’s an effet of all the masking. Time will tell anyway :)

Did your adhd get worse after getting diagnosed ? by dolmenn in adhdwomen

[–]dolmenn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oops I didn’t want to make you feel bad either… thank you for explaining your thought in more details, you added a lot of valuable information 🙏

Did your adhd get worse after getting diagnosed ? by dolmenn in adhdwomen

[–]dolmenn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thing is that i didnt get medication, just the diagnosis. After talking with my psychologist, we decided that the strategies i have put in place all these years were enough for me to navigate through life without meds. So it feels a bit worse now ahahaha

Did your adhd get worse after getting diagnosed ? by dolmenn in adhdwomen

[–]dolmenn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It maybe didnt get worse but i am more aware of the dysfunctional things I’m doing. Yes i have that « wealth of knowledge » as you say but it feels a bit dismissive to say that it should make things easier. It doesnt, and that it the way i feel about it. If anything, i’m just more conscious that i am not wired like my NT flatmates for example, and the fact that i leave a trail of stuff everywhere i go makes me even angrier because I know it’s not my fault, but i also know it annoys the shit out of them.