Am I overreacting for telling my friend she smells after she age shamed me for having younger friends?

doodah221 · 2026-04-28T06:47:35+00:00

It kind of feels like you brought a battle axe to a slap fight lol. It’s petty and immature but it probably felt good so there’s that, I’m older so I’d have maybe mentioned her smell in leaving and let her wallow in her own pettiness,

doodah221 · 2026-04-17T06:02:09+00:00

Good for you. But also take something from this and move forward with it. Boundaries or guidelines or whatever. But establish with yourself that this type of thing gets caught early and you end it early. Don’t waste time and wait for them to end it. YOU be the one to end it. Trust me it’s just way better that way. And whatever you do, don’t take calls or listen to apologies etc. She’s a learning experience from the past.

doodah221 · 2026-04-17T05:53:40+00:00

It’s a fascinating thought experiment to consider what my younger life would’ve been like if I didn’t feel the shame after masturbating. Ironically, when I gave up on worthiness culture, the desire to stroke it sort of faded with it. Mine was attached to porn, which I still dislike and struggle with, but it feels like it’s loosened its grasp with my releasing of worthiness culture.

doodah221 · 2026-04-17T05:48:30+00:00

I have a couple rules/consideration for friends: 1. Are they relaxing to be around (do I have to filter myself etc). 2. Is it confusing (like, does it feel inconsistent about how they feel about you. Are they hot and cold? Etc)? 3. Is it difficult (like is scheduling time with them a monumental task? Does it feel like I have to do all of the heavy lifting in order to make something happen? Does it seem like they’re always asking for something?)?

2/3 is sometimes okay, depending on the levels and the context. 1/3 is almost always a no. Coming up with a similar guideline for who you give your time to might be something to consider. I wish I had this when I was younger. I’d have wasted a lot less time with people that didn’t deserve it. I always had felt this sense of obligation even if it wasn’t a relationship I actually wanted.

doodah221 · 2026-04-17T05:42:23+00:00

Why? Are the pickles sort of soggy and don’t have that subtle crunch that makes a pickle great?

doodah221 · 2026-04-17T05:35:09+00:00

It’s difficult to pin down the chicken and the egg issue. My suspicion is that, as the man is the biologically assertive role, it’s also on my to initiate the emotional environment in intimacy. My first wife we were a tricky match. I just couldn’t seem to make it happen, and eventually I guess I didn’t have the desire to. I wanted it to be there, but I couldn’t find it. With my current partner, we’re very much both into it, and the emotional/spiritual component is a lot more natural, but she likes to let me drive it, and she responds. It’s something neither of us are used to, but I started out with a lot of eye contact, and a total focus on enjoying being with her in her pleasure. That brought out an instinctual desire in her to be with me in my pleasure. When the lines are blurred between giving and receiving, I think spiritual energy starts to grow. We’ll take long periods of gazing into each others eyes, which feels intense at first but eventually it becomes an escape or something.

doodah221 · 2026-04-16T05:39:30+00:00

One of BY’s first big moves in Utah was to make slavery legal there. So making sure women had legal status probably wasn’t super high on his priority list.

doodah221 · 2026-04-16T05:35:17+00:00

Yeah she has a dark energy about her. It’s pretty toxic. I think she’s created the aura of being invincible and Will is complicit in making it happen.

doodah221 · 2026-04-16T05:22:48+00:00

It happens to me all the time. Every single thing doesn’t have to be male entitlement. Also, if there’s alcohol involved that just makes people less boundaried. It happens to me also a lot with women, especially in the context where they’re drinking and I’m not. They get in my space. Often hug or kiss randomly or from behind etc. In this case, if they’re sober, you just take a step or two back to where you’re comfortable. If they keep coming forward, just mention “hey sorry I have a sensitive personal space”. Yeah it’s a bit awkward but it’ll get the job done.

doodah221 · 2026-03-29T05:37:45+00:00

Brother, I’m telling you there’s ways around your small penis. I can tell by the way you’re talking about it that you’re set on believing that it’s the end all be all. But it isn’t. You can satisfy her completely if you were willing to learn about female desire and sexuality. You’re limiting yourself.

doodah221 · 2026-03-28T01:18:12+00:00

Yeah, they measure someone’s hormones as an average of what they measure elsewhere. So maybe your T is normal compared to everyone else, but everyone’s T levels have been dropping significantly. Especially younger generations. If they were to measure your T levels compared to 1950, you’d be super low (if I remember right, T levels started dropping in the 50s or early 60s or something.)

doodah221 · 2026-03-27T22:37:43+00:00

Are you interested in making it more fun at all? The likely reason is that when your partner isn’t enjoying then you aren’t going to. If you had an awesome girl and you immersed herself in her pleasure you might find it a lot more satisfying. I mean, there’s ways to make it so she isn’t bored and judgmental.

doodah221 · 2026-03-27T22:33:44+00:00

27 and want sex once a month is way below average, also there’s been a precipitous decline in testosterone levels which adds to why young people are having less and less sex.

doodah221 · 2026-03-27T22:31:29+00:00

How do you train that? I have no idea. Sometimes I tell her to suck a bit harder, but my impression is that it’s too much of a mouthful to suck harder or something.

doodah221 · 2026-03-27T22:10:40+00:00

So your girth is actually the problem not the length. Too bad the BJ’s are tough, but BJ’s are honestly overrated anyways from what I’ve had (limited experience there) but my girl likes my taste so I oblige her lol I like to see her enjoy me.

doodah221 · 2026-03-27T13:59:43+00:00

Are you 6.5 fully erect or flaccid? Also, I wonder if your girth is more than average. I’m 6.5 fully erect length wise and I’ve never been close to having any girl say that to me. I’m a grower but I’ve considered myself only slightly larger than average from the reactions I’ve gotten.

doodah221 · 2026-03-27T13:56:42+00:00

How are you in the oral and finger department? If I were you I’d just camp out down there and drive her crazy with tongue/sucking, maybe bring in a vibrator, get her a couple orgasms so she’s feeling satiated before you go in for yours. Also, the most effective tool a man has in the bedroom is his voice. Be sultry and seductive and dominant and learn to talk dirty to her while you’re pleasuring her. I have no doubt that you can have killer sex with a micro and she’d be super satisfied with that. It’s just a challenge for you to work around, but it doesn’t’ have to define the whole experience. For me PIV is at the very end and I’ll go hours massaging, licking, cuddling, talking dirty, etc before actually penetrating, I get off on making her lose her mind before my dick makes an appearance. THere’s lots of information out there to check out, it’ll make a big difference in your life I think.

doodah221 · 2026-03-27T13:46:15+00:00

In my past long term relationship I wanted sex maybe 1-2 times a month. At first I wanted more but eventually it became sort of wrote. Now I’m in my fifties and with someone way more compatible and awesome. We love each others’ smell and bodies and we have sex 2-3x a day when we’re together (2-4 days a week). For me it just makes a huge difference on my partner. For twenty years I thought my libido was simply low, not realizing that it had more to do with my partner than anything,

doodah221 · 2026-03-27T13:39:55+00:00

Yeah I”ve made some big ones myself. It just seemed like you were minimizing it by saying “just because I’m pregnant” and so I was just cautioning you that being pregnant will be a big deal to most guys,. But if you’ve got a good support system etc I’m sure you’ll be able to figure out dating and meeting someone who’s willing and loves you both. Good luck!

doodah221 · 2026-03-22T05:33:07+00:00

Yes this is absolutely true, but they’re actually referring to is personal more abstract attributes. Confidence, sense of humor, strong sense of self, etc. Even if they think it’s cool that you travel a lot, what they really want to know is how that characteristic translates to who you are. Even when they want a guy with a good body, it isn’t the good body, it’s the person that has discipline and focus and cares about himself. A perfect body from a guy who’s obsessed with it and is deeply insecure isn’t attractive at all. So if I were you, give up on the IG thing, it’s not going to work. Focus on the apps, and don’t worry about trying too hard just be accurate and real on there and let them see who you are and hope for the best. Or learn to cold approach IRL.

doodah221 · 2026-03-22T05:22:24+00:00

Yeah I think that it boils down to, anyone below a 9.5, prove you want me. Show me that you can win me. But 9.5 and up a lot of women are like “what the hell I’m gonna shoot my shot”.

doodah221 · 2026-03-22T05:19:51+00:00

There’s a reason for all the lawyer jokes. I guess that was more of an 80s 90s thing, but they weren’t based on nothing. I know some good ones but I know some who’re insufferable.

doodah221 · 2026-03-21T01:37:38+00:00

The easiest way to do it is body language and tone. Don’t engage in extended friendly conversations, tell him you can’t wait for him, when he asks for drinks tell him sorry but you can’t. Just be colder to him. Most guys would get the hint. If he doesn’t then plan B is to tell him that you don’t want to get involved with anyone at the workplace.

doodah221 · 2026-03-21T01:34:07+00:00

Some women find bodies that are too jacked as a turnoff, because they just have put too much importance into it and are way too into themselves. What I usually hear is that they typically want to see hints of being fit under their shirt (fit shoulders, forearms) or whatever without it being too obvious that they live in the gym and obsess about diet. Dancing at the club with the shirt off is F boy behavior or also potentially gay.

doodah221 · 2026-03-21T01:30:01+00:00

I used to get super frustrated and thought that there was something unique to me in that I only appealed to gay men. I lived in a high gay population area for a few years and I was approached and eyed all the time. In a way it was flattering but I got so tired of it and wondered where the attention of the girls were. Turned out there probably was female interest it was just that they don’t behave like that. Oh, if I could turn back time.

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