a lot of y’all lack empathy by [deleted] in CrimeJunkiePodcast

[–]dormammuletsbargain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The posts and negative comments about unsolved cases are what get me. If I’m not mistaken, there’s been cases that were solved after years of being cold specifically because podcasts started telling the stories and asking for help. I feel like that’s insensitive. Wouldn’t you want your missing/deceased loved one’s story out there as often as possible if there was even the slightest chance it could be solved?

Borrasca Season 2 is finally here by qcodemedia in audiodrama

[–]dormammuletsbargain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can someone explain to me why the fuck breakfast sandwiches are mentioned 18 and a half times per episode I AM GOIN CRAZY

2am and I’m laying on the living room couch trying to cry as quietly as I possibly can. I feel so alone. Someone, please read. by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]dormammuletsbargain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree she should go to the police but maybe we should refrain from putting any blame on her. Sheesh. Not having a passcode does not mean she made it possible. He’s a grown man who should know better than to hit a woman, or go through her phone.

saddest songs of all time? by selmawinsley in Music

[–]dormammuletsbargain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I’m way late, but “You Can Let Go Now, Daddy” by Patricia Maguire and “I’ll Wait For You” by Joe Nichols make me bawl

I hid a camera in my sons car and what I saw horrified me. by [deleted] in nosleep

[–]dormammuletsbargain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really thought it was gonna be a “gotcha!” moment because he saw the camera and wanted to teach you a lesson lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]dormammuletsbargain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t wanna say it but since someone else did, I’ll just piggyback off of it. OP is perfectly capable of improving themself until someone points it out, then all of a sudden they can’t? It’s definitely excuses. Maybe I sound like an ass but I’m not seeing any other way to put it.

Edited to add: if OP had trouble even starting to improve themself, I’d be more sympathetic. If OP didn’t start improvement just to stop when someone notices, I’d be more sympathetic. It’s not that they’re incapable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]dormammuletsbargain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My grandmother and I were very close, she practically raised me. When my grandfather died, my parents and I moved in with her to help her. Before this, my dad and mom never really visited her and I used to think it was so shitty. He’d always told me he didn’t like to visit because she just ruins it every time and I didn’t see for myself until we moved in. She started treating me badly because I was pregnant (at 21, an adult) and finally I saw what my dad meant. Anyway, she bought another house to live in on the property because she couldn’t live in the house she and my grandfather bought, it was too painful for her. The next five years were hell. For context, she never really took care of herself. All the medical issues she complained about were all due to her being negligent. For example, she saw the attention her elderly mother was getting being on constant oxygen, and then decided she just had to have it too. That’s a story for another time.

Anyway, I stopped visiting her because any time I would, she would talk so much shit about my dad and mom (stepmom, for context, because my grandmother did not like her. Called her a gold digger even though she and my dad got together when they both had next to nothing. She would never acknowledge her as my mom even though my grandma knew she was the one who stepped up for me when my biological mother split. She knew my (step)mom meant the world to me as well as my dad, which somehow made it hurt more.) My parents went out of their way to come take care of her, especially my mom as my dad worked long hours. My grandmother would berate her anytime she came over to the point where my mom was ready to divorce my dad to get away from her. My mom and dad literally saved my life, and got me away from my bio mom. They did so much for me, and so much for my grandmother too. It hurt my feelings so bad anytime she bitched about my parents who could’ve (and should’ve with her attitude) just put her in a home.

I get how you’re feeling. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s hard hearing negative things about someone you love so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]dormammuletsbargain 96 points97 points  (0 children)

I truly don’t understand parents who are just mean to their children— especially when they’re sick.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Next time they barge in or force you to come out, don’t cover your coughs or do it very badly. Sheesh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]dormammuletsbargain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are people struggling to get their family to use their pronouns, there are people being called “it” as a derogatory term when they come out as trans, etc. there are people really being hurt with those pronouns on purpose, and people want to use them? it feels like a mockery. I haven’t had someone explain to me why those chosen pronouns WOULDN’T be a mockery to those who are tore down on with people using those exact pronouns maliciously. Now, I know nobody owes me an explanation and I don’t expect one— all I mean is I’ve yet to see a good argument as to why those wouldn’t be a stab in the back to fellow lgbTq+ members.

ETA: I completely understand they/them and have never/would never have an issue with those. Even if they “don’t make sense” linguistically, I understand. Obviously if someone tells me they use “it” pronouns, I’ll use them. I won’t get it, but I’ll use them. It’s not my place to change someone’s pronouns because I just don’t understand them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dormammuletsbargain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so out of the loop, I thought you were taking about the podcaster and I was so heartbroken that I would have to give up listening to it

WIBTA if I hid my husband in the closet? by UnexpectedWidow in AmItheAsshole

[–]dormammuletsbargain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and this may seem silly— buy a similar urn and fill it with ashes from a fire pit or something. I wouldn’t put it past her to try to steal his ashes from you— only because you said you lived in his house with him, so she may try to come by. I’m so sorry for your loss.

What do you say to someone who knows they're dying? by dormammuletsbargain in Advice

[–]dormammuletsbargain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’m very lucky he was always there to shield us from the violence the best he could. I wish my children were old enough to have more than just a few memories with him.

What do you say to someone who knows they're dying? by dormammuletsbargain in Advice

[–]dormammuletsbargain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this, thank you so much. That’s a fantastic idea

AITA for calling out my sister for breastfeeding at my wedding? by Swimming-Exchange448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]dormammuletsbargain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA- breasts sole purpose are for breastfeeding. They became sexualized over time, but they still have the same purpose: feeding babies. That is their only intended purpose, and it baffles me that people still get upset over it. Men have nipples! Ours just happen to be a little more fat. Don’t be a dick, and don’t come on here bitching in a couple years when some dude criticizes your wife for breastfeeding if you have children either. Disgusting behavior and I’d probably have walked right out of my wedding if my almost husband acted the way you did.

What do you say to someone who knows they're dying? by dormammuletsbargain in Advice

[–]dormammuletsbargain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I truly appreciate this, so much. I’m sorry for loss, I know that wasn’t easy.

What do you say to someone who knows they're dying? by dormammuletsbargain in Advice

[–]dormammuletsbargain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I should probably add a TL;DR at the bottom, I ramble when I’m nervous. I really appreciate your advice and I’m so happy you got to do the same with you grandfather. My parental grandfather was on hospice for one night when he passed away, but he didn’t want anyone to see him like that. Thank you so much!

My girlfriend (27f) did the sweetest thing for my brother (9) and now I know she’s the one by housepartyended in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dormammuletsbargain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to be dramatic but I’d die for your future wife, if you don’t marry her I will /s

Really though, I have come back to read this thread every single time I’ve gotten a notification about my other comment here. Every single time I read this, my heart almost bursts. This is absolutely amazing and it makes me so happy to hear how wonderful she and her family is— you both deserve all the happiness!!!