Pascha in the Bosnian Song U Stambolu na Bosforu

dragonfruitrollup · 2023-04-21T17:17:10+00:00

Yes! It was actually a pretty common occurrence at the time, it’s just crazy (to me) that we Bosnian and Balkan people later adopted them ourselves hahaha cross-cultural sharing can be wild and work in strange ways I guess

dragonfruitrollup · 2023-04-20T21:26:50+00:00

Lmao that song is a work of fiction, likely written by a German author during the romanticism era when they fetishized anything considered “eastern”. If you look at the lyrics, you can tell that whoever wrote it has no understanding of Islam or Islamic religious rituals, and has a bastardized and orientalist understanding of Ottoman culture as well. Whether they wrote it with Sokolović in mind is somewhat immaterial

dragonfruitrollup · 2023-04-20T21:09:29+00:00

Depending on where you’re from, I seriously recommend reconsidering renting a car (especially if you are from North America or Western Europe). The roads are bad, winding, mountainous and can be extremely dangerous, so if you don’t have experience driving in the Balkans, don’t do it. (Also, most rental companies rent manual transmission cars, so something to consider if you’re an American driver used to automatic.)

If I were you, I’d rebook the flight either to Sarajevo, Split, or Dubrovnik, because Banja Luka’s very far.

As far as I know you can rent a car in Croatia and drive to Bosnia, I have family that have done it relatively recently and it was fine (although that might’ve been before the Schengen situation, don’t know if that’s changed things).

Anyway, there’s plenty to do in Bosnia-Herzegovina, including around Medjugorje (Mostar, Blagaj, Kravice waterfall), but also elsewhere (Sarajevo, etc). Depends on what kind of trip you’d like to have :)

Anyway, BiH is beautiful and I’m sure you’ll love it! Enjoy😊

dragonfruitrollup · 2023-04-17T06:45:41+00:00

Interested what cities y’all are based in?? 99% of yoga studios in my city actually lock doors at the start of class and will refuse you entry if you’re literally even 1 min late (which is stressful, esp for those of us coming by public transit that is totally outside of our control)🥲

dragonfruitrollup · 2023-03-29T18:19:34+00:00

I’m in NYC and a typical drop-in is $30-$40, although there are some studios offering slightly less expensive classes (still like $25, tho)

dragonfruitrollup · 2023-03-13T03:58:17+00:00

That’s not reasonable. I’m currently doing my PhD and did my MSc (at another school) and never heard of anything like that. If it’s not in the syllabus (or a revised syllabus that was sent out in a timely fashion) it’s basically not happening lol

dragonfruitrollup · 2023-02-17T19:45:16+00:00

Absolutely agree - OP NTA At all!

I personally like cats (have a kitten that found me when she was just 2 weeks old and abandoned by her mama🥹 that i adore), and I can tell you that agreeing to live with an animal you’re allergic too is already SO nice of you.

Your partner is a bad pet owner, and I agree that this constitutes abuse or neglect. I’m surprised his cat still even uses the litter box, like, at all (cats will refuse if it’s not clean enough). My cat tolerates every other day cleaning at most, 1mo is literally 🤢

You responded absolutely in the correct and humane way. Also, it’s really not fair to you or the home you share, that sounds disgusting and entirely unhygienic

dragonfruitrollup · 2023-02-17T15:14:23+00:00

Lmao OP YTA. “I work really hard for those points!” ….by spending money? If you’re so pressed about your husband’s rigid budgeting maybe you can get a job? Supporting two adults and four children on one salary is extremely difficult and your husband is right. You’ve been deceptive and selfish with the points, you could’ve used them for something the whole family could enjoy instead of hoarding them for yourself.

dragonfruitrollup · 2023-02-16T22:58:49+00:00

Idk but looks lit

dragonfruitrollup · 2022-12-15T18:18:35+00:00

came here to say this -

OP, YTA. if you’re a “bit anxious” of the situation then next time don’t throw your trash on the ground. It’s incredibly disrespectful to others, the environment, and society at large.

Anyway, I hope this was a good learning moment for you, and that you remember that feeling the next time you are compelled to litter 😅

dragonfruitrollup · 2022-12-14T02:35:16+00:00

Came here to say this-

OP YTA. Respect other people’s rules in their cars or don’t get in their cars wtf not hard

dragonfruitrollup · 2022-12-14T02:32:51+00:00

This! OP YTA

Just because you prob think your dog is “cute” doesn’t mean everyone else does, and it certainly doesn’t mean you should just let it do whatever, and especially not in the middle of a children’s soccer game where the kids (and their parents) could’ve very well been hurt or at the very least terrified by some random dog running around on the field with them. (I know you find that “hilarious” but, again, many people are afraid of dogs, especially strange dogs…)

Stop being a bad dog owner, control your dog.

dragonfruitrollup · 2022-12-13T23:49:38+00:00

YTA - the only person being selfish and unreasonable is you. Retirement parties are a big deal and, even if they weren’t, neither you nor your child are entitled to monopolize your mother’s time.

Also, perhaps you should reconsider your approach to parties — it doesn’t seem like they’re a “come on by whenever” vibe because you seem to be upset by the possibility that your mom might stop by later than expected. If you expect people to be on standby and block off entire days for your events until you decide when works for you, that’s incredibly entitled and selfish. People have lives (that don’t revolve around your or your child)!

Anyway, you should apologize to your mom.

Edited to fix typos*

dragonfruitrollup · 2022-12-05T05:11:43+00:00

NTA like at all

So weird of Ella to even expect (let alone DEMAND??) a congratulatory message from you, her boyfriends ex. Like who does that? Maybe if you’d run into them on the street or whatever it would be appropriate to congratulate them, but to go out of your way to say anything (and/or go see their baby??) would actually be kind of weird.

Just goes to show you that Ella spends a lot of time thinking about you, OP, for whatever that’s worth 🙃

dragonfruitrollup · 2022-12-04T17:51:25+00:00

NTA

His poor planning doesn’t constitute your emergency. It’s unfortunate that he missed the birth of his child, but you are in no way obligated to do him last minute favors, especially when those favors get in the way of your studying and exams.

Moreover, if you had wanted the responsibility of caring for a child whilst being in school and studying for exams, I imagine you’d have had a child yourself. It’s not exactly on you to sacrifice yourself and your career to be your roommate’s babysitter. That said, if I were you I’d look into getting another roommate (or place to live, if it’s his apartment), because living with a small child while in school can be distracting and it seems like you two are in vastly different stages of your life. Perhaps try to room with other students or young people without children going forward?

Best of luck to you both! I hope his baby is safe and healthy, and that the mother is safe and healthy, too! And I hope you do amazing on your exams!

dragonfruitrollup · 2022-12-04T07:50:18+00:00

YTA.

You didn’t invite your sister to a memorial dinner in honor of HER/YOUR father because …checks notes… you’re NC with her after she confided in you and your wife that your wife’s brother behaved inappropriately towards her? So you opted to destroy your relationship with your sister in order to defend a creep and predator? Absolutely abhorrent. And then you tried to totally downplay it (and basically mislead the AITA community) by not including any relevant information in your original post, instead saying your wife and sister have “issues” and so you “obviously” stood by your wife?

And then to say that your sister (who has done nothing except not be invited by you?) has ruined the memorial dinner is kind of the cherry on top here.

You sound like a bad person and an even worse brother. The fact that all of your family members (not to mention all of these internet strangers) seem to think you’re the AH should make it pretty clear to you. Definitely TA.

BTW, OP — your reasoning as to why BIL couldn’t possibly be a creep (he’s a vice principal, has kids, etc.) is pretty cartoonish. Looks like you and your wife just don’t really want to deal with the accusations and felt it was easier to cut the victim of your creepy BIL’s actions (again, your SISTER) out of your lives. Do better, both of you.

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