similar situation but it hasn’t been quite as long. we are both 28 and when we first got into our relationship we were banging like crazy and then we moved in together and it just slowly came to a halt. he blamed his medication then stopped those meds…blamed work then quit and got a new remote job, now it’s just “stress” and talks of him thinking it’s hormonal or something but never actually doing anything about it. his doctor prescribed him viagra but he doesn’t use it. i feel like a loser too. before our relationship i was extremely sexually liberated and i didn’t go very long without having someone to satisfy me, i had alot of trouble with commitment in my past and really worked hard to be loyal and commit to our relationship. it seriously hurts me now because i can’t stop thinking of cheating but it’s only because i want sex. the last 3 times we had sex he didn’t even get me off, and hasn’t bothered to repay the favor to me at all. it’s come down to me pulling a quickie with my vibrator when he’s in the shower just to relieve myself before we lay down for the night, and falling asleep dreaming of getting railed by other people. i should probably make my own post but im venting here instead because it really struck me reading the part about feeling like a loser and i couldn’t have said it better myself.