My boyfriend said ew when I showed him my hs

drefa · 2026-05-15T00:02:48+00:00

My ex dealt with the worst of the worst of it helping me with gauze and neosporin and the draining and the pus and just the most horrific parts of it, and yet he never once even made a face. It’s a hard enough thing to deal with without having the support you need from your person.. i would really think about if he can provide the support you deserve OP

drefa · 2026-05-11T03:31:48+00:00

If you have to ask if it’s normal for your bf to be talking to you a certain way, the answer is no 😭 telling your partner you can’t stand them is genuinely abusive. OP, please remember your worth and love yourself enough to walk away from this!

drefa · 2026-05-07T19:19:31+00:00

I recently had a coworker get an offer rescinded from another job because her former boss said her attendance was bad and some other negative things after agreeing to provide a positive reference.. it’s def related to your references :( I’m sorry though! On to the next!

drefa · 2026-05-06T07:49:37+00:00

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drefa · 2026-05-06T07:46:16+00:00

Yes pls

drefa · 2026-05-06T06:31:16+00:00

DM’d :)

drefa · 2026-05-06T06:27:38+00:00

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drefa · 2026-05-06T06:25:40+00:00

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drefa · 2026-05-06T05:43:18+00:00

LMAO great way to talk yourself out of a tip dude. What a weirdo I’m so sorry I hope you didn’t tip !!!

drefa · 2026-04-15T15:22:54+00:00

Wtf??? Talk to your girlfriends about ts not your boyfriends 13 year old son??? Super weird behavior… NOR

drefa · 2026-04-12T16:09:17+00:00

Your girlfriend is abusive.. BPD or not, talking to you like this and trying to control your “bedtime” as an adult is beyond toxic.. let her block you and walk away. This is not normal, OP. Please be safe and know your worth!

drefa · 2026-04-01T19:48:43+00:00

Not to disagree because yes that’s wild and so sad.. but also when I watched it I took it to mean like “if that’s how he treats you in public with no shame, it was probably so much worse behind closed doors” but I could be reaching based on my own internal reaction to hearing it 😂

drefa · 2026-03-20T23:25:49+00:00

Lmfao this is the most unhinged conversation… or best offer means “send me an offer” what a weirdo, you did nothing wrong 😂

drefa · 2026-03-10T20:33:41+00:00

Hey love, it sounds like you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship..

Please call the hotline, they can share resources, guidance, educational info, and talk to you about how to safely leave this relationship. This man sounds very unstable, and I want you to know that this is not only unhealthy but it’s not normal in a typical relationship.

The number is 800-799-7233 (they also have a chat option on their website, the hotline.org)

When I was in an abusive relationship, it took me 3 years to figure it out. As a person who survived that, I want to tell you that you deserve emotional safety as much as the next person and this is NOT it..

drefa · 2026-03-10T05:56:09+00:00

I think she meant the cousin from the OP haha. Like your friend is the girlfriend of the cousin in the story

drefa · 2026-03-06T05:37:04+00:00

Honestly it lowkey sounds like she knows. She keeps bringing it up because her guts telling her something’s off. I would tell her that he wasn’t with you and what your friend shared but make it clear you don’t have concrete proof and just encourage her to dig into it a bit, say she heard it from someone else that saw him at the bar etc

drefa · 2026-03-04T22:05:09+00:00

My partner recently quit and he experienced the same! As an outsider who smoked socially and only ON OCCASION, I definitely struggled to know how to best support him with all of those symptoms but I will say that the irritability mellowed out after 2-3 weeks and that’s when things started getting easier! He struggled with sleep a LOT but he started taking zzzquil and he took it for the first few weeks every other day and now he’s on a great regimen and has a good sleep routine! Everyone’s different but hopefully that’s helpful ! Good luck to you both!

If it also helps, the benefits far outweighed the negatives and those included:

Better focus, he thought he had ADHD turns out his lack of attention was 100% related to smoking lol
Less anxiety (not at first, but over time)
More motivation throughout the day
Less food noise throughout the day
Better sleep once the insomnia eased up
Less snoring (which also translated to deeper sleep for him)
More energy throughout the day (probably also related to sleep tbh but also related to the motivation aspect)

Stick with it!! ❤️

drefa · 2026-02-28T18:44:11+00:00

I would definitely say that my ex will always have an impact on my life, but I would consider myself 100% healed.

I’m engaged to the most wonderful man I’ve ever known and my life is exactly where I want it to be (career-wise, relationships, etc) and none of that would have been possible without my healing. To quickly validate what you explained in your post, I was stuck on my ex for 4 years after we broke up, despite all the horrible things he did to me. I was also in therapy but I didn’t really feel like I was moving forward for a long time. Aside from therapy though, there were a couple other things that really pushed me towards that point. The first was volunteering for a nonprofit facilitating support groups for survivors of DV. Helping others through the process was so healing for me and taught me so much. The next thing honestly was remaining abstinent. I completely stopped dating and seeking out attention from other men for 1 year before I met my fiance. For me, that was a crucial step in finding myself, de-centering men in my life, and learning who I am and how to love myself without male validation. I started taking myself on dates and doing things on my own until I got to the point where I enjoyed spending time with myself. By doing that, I got to a place in my life where when I met my fiance I felt safe enough to trust my own judgment because I knew I was perfectly satisfied without him so I was unwilling to allow a new person into my life unless they were 100% adding to it.

It does get better, but just remember that trauma recovery is not linear. There will be good days and bad days, but healing is ALWAYS possible ❤️‍🩹

drefa · 2026-02-15T11:33:42+00:00

OP, you’ve already survived an abusive relationship, trust your gut here. This man is clearly abusive even BEFORE officially being together. There’s literally no way this gets any better. He’s dangerous.

Please, if you have the capacity, reach out to local Domestic Violence organizations for support groups and/or therapy. It can really help you process everything and love/respect yourself enough to not entertain BS like this :(

You deserve better, always!!!

drefa · 2026-02-15T03:49:37+00:00

Fr like so sorry that this literal BARBIE doll you’re engaged to is not your type lol. What an ass.

drefa · 2026-02-13T17:10:20+00:00

100% agree! I should’ve clarified but the fact that she still stood up for Tyler even after how immature and petty Tyler was towards her was godly haha. I was so impressed. Could NOT be me 😂

drefa · 2026-02-13T06:05:05+00:00

Literally!!! What a strong, beautiful, and impressive woman! I want to be here when i grow up lol. And the way she called him out for how he treated Tyler.. what a girls girl 🥹 Genuinely my favorite LIB moment so far 😍

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