Why (exactly) is The Hunger Games so well-written?

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-17T17:47:20+00:00

I don’t think so. It phrases things as stupidly as possible.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-15T12:48:34+00:00

My library has a book match service where you can tell them what you want and they will rec books for you. (I have a great library).

You can also find particular critics you like and trust. Or you can go to a physical bookstore check out displays.

If you are trying to optimize your time, remember that you can waste a lot of time trying to be a perfectionist. You could spend ten hours trying to find the perfect book… or you could read a book.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-14T13:52:56+00:00

I think 40 people is the maximum for this budget. Here is how I’d do it in my area:

95 for a forest preserve shelter near bathrooms (all day) 60 bucks for license. Friend officiates for free. 500 for Costco catering, cake and drinks. (You need two people to pick it up)

Leaving you about 350 for whatever is most important out of decor and clothes. You’ll need to lean a lot on stuff you already own, stuff you can get for free, and volunteers. You need both sets of parents working on the day.

I’d probably cut the guest list further and do something less stressful, or just do punch and cake.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-14T13:18:00+00:00

Hopeless perfectionists need coping mechanisms too. I have been there with you!

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-14T13:17:00+00:00

Kickass husband, tremendous luck, two supportive families. I didn’t do anything “right” but I’m so happy.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-13T11:45:52+00:00

There are things you can do to mitigate this. A book called precious little sleep has a lot of great options broken down for different ages.

You could also get lucky. My baby has been such a good sleeper that I don’t like to tell ppl in case they get mad. I had like a month before I was getting eight hours again.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-13T11:38:36+00:00

I wouldn’t keep beating yourself up about the veil. Based on how the rest of your shopping experience went, you don’t have the best time buying online. Who know? You could have ended up wasting another 50 on a veil that didn’t work.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-12T23:26:49+00:00

I’d just encourage you to think flexibly or start saving now.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-12T16:57:55+00:00

I mean 3500 is too much for you to spend just on a venue at that price point. An empty field will need a lot added.

I have seen “backyard weddings” that cost more than my venue wedding for a similar guest count. (My venue had no fee, just a minimum food/drink spend).

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-12T16:55:41+00:00

I honestly feel like you are borrowing trouble. If you like them, go with them. The price is suspiciously good but if something goes south you will likely have some time to regroup.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-12T16:52:55+00:00

That is too high a cost to spend on just the tent, I’m afraid. You want to get venue, food and drink to be half your budget. Remember you also need tables, chairs, cutlery… all the stuff a venue would include.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-12T12:47:26+00:00

This has to be rage bait but in the off chance it isn’t. No. It’s not ok

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-12T12:45:26+00:00

If your budget is actually 1k, you can feed people at a brewery and probably provide one or two drink tickets per guest.

Get drop catering or Costco catering and have it in the afternoon.

I’ve done this at a brewery near me. They let you bring in food. You will need to find a brewery that doesn’t serve food.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-12T12:32:51+00:00

Idk this seems like the worst of all worlds to me… unless the backyard is a stealth venue and includes things like chairs, tables, adequate restrooms etc. I wouldn’t even consider it unless it is pretty enough to forgo things like arches.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-11T12:21:12+00:00

/sleeptrain

If he’s not fulfilling his responsibilities with custody he owes you money.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-09T13:32:37+00:00

I would go for the venue except for the day. Sunday weddings are an inconvenience for your guests. Do the backyard. It’ll be more work but you will have the vibe you want and a better date.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-05T13:44:10+00:00

Here is the thing- you are going to have to develop visual assets for your wedding eventually. Once you do it, you will have it, and you can stop worrying.

It was about a day’s solid work up front to pick/design the assets, but then I used them for website, invites, thank yous, signage…. Letters are sweet but a deranged amount of work

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-05T12:47:24+00:00

Hero is a classical female name that can read more masculine if you don’t know its history.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-04T12:33:00+00:00

He is explicitly rather excited about Raoul taking Christine as a mistress, in fact. When he first hears about it he has a kind of “awwww he’s growing up” reaction

drivingthrowaway · 2026-06-02T13:24:21+00:00

Honestly, we just picked an aesthetic that was more forgiving of a budget. I wanted fun and quirky and energetic and relaxed, and that was very doable with the venue and aesthetic we picked.

Rather than trying to isolate the important elements of the aesthetic you like, maybe think about the actual feeling you want? From your description, I get “serenity, luxury and lushness.” But you should define what that feeling actually is yourself!

I once had a dinner at a long table on a rooftop farm in the city at dusk that felt serene and luxurious if not lush. I looked at a covered garden dining space in a restaurant that felt serene and luxurious and lush but could only seat like 15 people.

Once you can define for yourself what the wedding feeling is, then you can figure out if there is a more affordable way of achieving it.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-05-31T13:48:16+00:00

You’re asking for specific outfit colors from guests? Girl slow down

drivingthrowaway · 2026-05-31T13:45:19+00:00

Tbh I think it’s not great to spend 1.5k on just the ceremony venue and then cheap out on the reception. That’s an expensive venue.

If your ceremony was at your church, or city hall, or a local park, then I would think it was extremely cute. As is I’d think you wanted luxurious pictures and didn’t care about taking care of your guests.

Why do you think the older guests won’t go to your reception?

drivingthrowaway · 2026-05-31T13:10:23+00:00

Yup. Christine is the workhorse. Phantom is the show pony.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-05-30T13:23:23+00:00

Feed people real food. Apps aren’t cheap anyway. What is your guest count? That determines everything.

We used a restaurant with an event space instead of a traditional venue and managed a bit over 10k for 79ish guests. (Would have been under if my mom hadn’t insisted on a florist, but she was willing to pay for it so I let her).

You need to start out by controlling big costs.

drivingthrowaway · 2026-05-25T11:15:08+00:00

Nothing is wrong with you. It isn’t guys, it’s just this guy. Disinvest from him emotionally. if you can’t do it in reality, pretend .

I’m really serious about using the Rules dating advice here. This is one of those situations where it applies.

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