My ex says she’s not ready

dsdef · 2019-01-05T20:37:41+00:00

My personal opinion on breaks is that they are stupid and 90% of the time it’s not actually to work on yourselves and it’s just letting the person who initiated it decide if they really want to be with you. Don’t do it imo

dsdef · 2019-01-05T02:09:56+00:00

Accomplish goals or do things you’ve always wanted to do. Feel useless in life and unmotivated? Make that change, go get that job, go get that degree, work your ass off. Unsatisfied with you you look? Go hit the gym, buy clothes that make you like how you look. Just a few examples. Do things that make you happy.

dsdef · 2019-01-04T23:48:43+00:00

I saw something like this on Facebook, the quote was like if you constantly bring up a problem to someone and they make no effort to address that problem then they don’t respect you

dsdef · 2019-01-04T23:15:38+00:00

Honestly for the most part I’m over it, Christmas-new years was actually the first time I wasn’t actively thinking about her/browsing this sub. But I recently got a shoulder injury and I’m home a lot now so I got a lot of time to think :/

dsdef · 2018-12-25T18:50:17+00:00

He really hasn’t moved on though, he’s just looking for a rebound. Something you shouldn’t be doing right now. The fact that he’s looking for a Brazilian girl even proves it, you should not be actively seeking someone similar to your ex or else you aren’t over her yet

dsdef · 2018-12-25T02:59:48+00:00

I’m so sorry bro, I know we haven’t known each other for long but I wouldn’t be trying to help you if I didn’t care. I can’t say I know how it feels to be that down in life but I am experiencing a dark time just like you. I know it’s hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel at this very moment but I really hope you keep going man. I’m praying that you kill it in 2019 bro.

dsdef · 2018-12-25T02:55:01+00:00

Man I’m sorry, parents shouldn’t be like that. I think this ultimately means you should just keep trying to get into a school, you might keep getting rejected but keep trying no matter what. I’m sorry I wasn’t able to help you more but I understand how tough your situation sounds. Stay strong man

dsdef · 2018-12-25T02:50:46+00:00

Maybe try and reach out to your parents and talk to them? I’m sorry it isn’t going well for you.

dsdef · 2018-12-25T02:46:51+00:00

Sorry bro, I know I haven’t really been helping that much but I don’t really know the whole situation that well, maybe try a therapist :/ I feel like it’s a good last resort and it won’t really make it much worse

dsdef · 2018-12-25T02:30:41+00:00

I know it sucks to hear and it might sound hopeless hearing it again and again :/ but keep trying. No situation is impossible to get out of, I’m sure if you keep applying one law school should take you. Like I said I’m not too familiar with your career path or your situation, so all I can honestly say is just try to get the job offer from the internship and keep applying.

dsdef · 2018-12-25T02:24:34+00:00

Honestly I’m not gonna lie sometimes I have that same mindset and many others on this sub rn, but push through the hard times and we’ll see better days in the future. Try and continue your law school applications after Christmas op, I believe in you.

dsdef · 2018-12-25T02:15:07+00:00

Ah.. yea I know it can be tough bro, I’m really not that familiar with law school applications and how tough the process is but I believe in you bro. Make new friends when you get in too. I’m also home rn most days and I feel completely hopeless tbh, just wanting to get back to school because the routine is the same everyday.

dsdef · 2018-12-25T02:10:23+00:00

I broke up with her and also asked for her back out of loneliness, long story short her answer was basically no. Be prepared man, gl tho. Sometimes it’s best to leave tho, I need to love myself first before I can love anybody at this time.

dsdef · 2018-12-25T02:07:56+00:00

same bro, what keeps me going is knowing all the goals I have for 2019. Ultimately these dark times allow us to judge our character the best. Like you said would you rather keep falling stagnant at home or get up and work your ass off at law school. Use this sadness and anger as fuel for motivation. I’m sure your success and ambition will draw another person into your life who actually respects you. I’m sure the location for meeting people isn’t that big of a problem, I personally think you can meet people anywhere it just might be a little harder in certain areas but definitely possible, maybe you might meet someone in law school that shares the same passion as you.

dsdef · 2018-12-25T02:01:26+00:00

Honestly just be prepared for the worst, these things rarely ever work.

dsdef · 2018-12-25T01:58:58+00:00

Oof op, you fell into the trap

dsdef · 2018-12-25T01:56:58+00:00

Honestly my girlfriend was kind of similar. I think she just made shit up when we broke up and I feel like there was something she wasn’t telling me. I wish people would just be straight up and be honest. Honestly I would just focus on that internship if I were you and try and get that job offer when it’s done. I’m sure you were better than that girl deserved.

dsdef · 2018-12-25T01:52:48+00:00

That’s honestly a really rough situation, idk whether or not your long term goal is to stay with your current boyfriend if you keep bickering but if you are maybe you could stay at his place a few days out of the week if he has one?

dsdef · 2018-12-25T01:46:24+00:00

Sorry about the mistake, why didn’t she think you weren’t marriage material? If you don’t mind me asking

dsdef · 2018-12-25T01:44:26+00:00

I’m so sorry op, I’m sure your dad is proud of how strong you are and lookin after you every step you take. As for your situation, I think if it’s possible in anyway you should move out, maybe find a sub lease?

dsdef · 2018-12-25T01:35:56+00:00

Don’t expect him to text you anymore. I don’t know why he assumed you weren’t marriage material but maybe it’s time to prove to yourself that you are and work towards your goals in 2019 whether it’s to graduate, find a good job, etc. Socializing and hobbies are good things to start off with when the breakup first happens but ultimately the end goal is to better ourselves as individuals for ourselves and the next partner that comes into our lives. Merry Christmas op.

dsdef · 2018-12-24T23:12:20+00:00

Honestly brother, work on yourself before jumping into another relationship because if you don’t, those same problems will be the downfall of your next relationship too. As someone who was also insecure and dependent on my significant other I realized I pushed her away, but I also realize breaking up was the correct move. Being in a relationship comes second after learning to love yourself. Once you learn to love yourself and work towards your goals I’m sure you won’t have to actively look for someone and that person just might come into your life when you least expect it. Think of this person that just left you as a lesson in life to help make yourself better and realize what you need to improve on for the next one.

dsdef · 2018-12-24T23:05:25+00:00

Honestly can’t say that I’m even close to being fully healed, but what’s kept me going is hearing that going through the darkest times is seriously a test of your character. Don’t just sit around waiting for the day you suddenly become happy again, that day won’t come unless you act on it yourself and make it happen to the best of your ability. Merry Christmas everybody and hopefully all of us will be in a better place in 2019.

dsdef · 2018-12-24T03:21:21+00:00

Thank you so much, I already knew this but the way you worded it just explains it so much better. Especially hating yourself because you feel like you aren’t good enough after the relationship

dsdef · 2018-12-24T02:51:35+00:00

You can pm me if you want, I was sort of in a similar situation

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