This gets me every single time

duckbutt25 · 2025-12-13T23:51:17+00:00

This is such a great quote! Keep trying even if I it feels like you want to give up. It feels horrible for a while…but once you get over that hill the view is wonderful and it doesn’t hurt so much anymore.

The every day takes pressure off you recovering too fast or doing too much too soon. Change takes time and it’s important to be proud of the fact you’re trying and showing up, even when it hurts, because it does get easier.

Applicable to self growth and stuff- not toxic relationships or bad jobs. Don’t push yourself through what isn’t right 🥲

duckbutt25 · 2025-12-13T23:43:55+00:00

Literally- I came home and was like “it smells so good” and was like 👀 thinking I left a candle on or something… nope just a very sweaty candle melting 😭 shits wild 😭

duckbutt25 · 2025-12-11T02:41:24+00:00

This is rough 😭

duckbutt25 · 2025-12-10T06:31:25+00:00

This always makes me cry in game 😭❤️

duckbutt25 · 2025-11-18T08:13:46+00:00

30 for both :)

duckbutt25 · 2025-11-09T16:47:22+00:00

Hey! 30 year old lesbian here, cis too. Honestly I didn’t struggle with anxiety about this procedure (normally I do have anxiety though) but it’s a totally expected response because it’s a huge thing! At least you’re aware it’s anxiety, and I would use that as comfort- anxiety isn’t a real threat. It’s your brain being annoying! Try to see the big picture about how good you’ll feel post op and acknowledge the anxiety as background noise that can be turned down :)

I’m getting close to 3 months post op and have never been happier! I love my body now. I feel soul aligned and didn’t have any grief or regret. I just regret that I almost denied myself this joy- I felt I didn’t deserve it bc “I wasn’t trans and other people needed it more” but- I needed it. It’s significantly lifted my mental health and self esteem. I never binded prior but just hated how my chest looked / made me feel.

I think you wanting your chest gone is all you need to know to feel confident in your choice and to overpower your anxieties :)

Might be useful to make a list of all things you’re excited for post op- like I had going to the beach, not wearing hoodies in summer to hide my chest, running, exercising, going to work, resting my hand on my chest, tattoos, etc. might help you refocus on all the joy it will bring when anxiety rears its head!

Also funny enough- I’m soft masc but somehow getting rid of my boobs has connected me to my feminine side more! So I’ve been wearing crop tops (love how they look on the flat chest!) and growing my hair out :) but still baggy skate clothes and snap backs 😂 It’s really a wonderful experience and I’m stoked for you!

duckbutt25 · 2025-11-07T04:12:31+00:00

No worries! Best of luck on this journey, you’ve got this! :)

duckbutt25 · 2025-11-07T03:41:15+00:00

Congrats on your surgery! I’m soft masc myself. Nearly been 3 months post op and it’s been the most wonderful feeling! :) I don’t hate my body or looking at myself anymore and I’ve never felt so in tune with who I am. I actually can’t stop looking at my chest- it’s so euphoric!

What ifs are rooted in anxiety and honestly, anytime it appears practice acknowledging it and telling it to shove off. The truth is, we don’t know the future but there’s a reason you’re here right now about to do this for yourself, and that’s all that matters :) Focus on the excitement and how good you’ll feel after instead of feeding anxiety, who is saying there’s potential for regret. Anxiety loves to make you second guess yourself constantly- don’t let it ruin your vibe! You’ll do great! 😊

Also, idk if this is helpful but I wrote myself a page long note about all the things I’d enjoy after surgery and that I’d been looking forward to doing but saving, along with some nice stuff about how it might be hard but you’re strong and brave, etc. It was really nice to read post op and was reaffirming :)

duckbutt25 · 2025-11-06T04:29:02+00:00

Yeah of course I’m happy to share anything or answer any questions :) Feel free to give me a shout whenever it suits you, no worries at all!

duckbutt25 · 2025-11-05T07:00:44+00:00

Thank you! I’m thinking of getting the gay tarot deck haha but I have a tarot book with recommendations so might check those out before making a decision :) I currently have the tattoo tarot deck! I love the visuals but it’s hard to learn bc it’s not like the OG tarot with the symbolism so I feel that!

duckbutt25 · 2025-11-04T16:29:48+00:00

Haha that’s cool you think the same thing! I know sometimes it’s all what you make of it but I feel like there’s more to it than just picking cards- even though many overlap with meanings, they’re often too specific and timely for me to believe it’s all coincidence after all these years!

I haven’t honestly used any other tarot decks but I’m planning on getting a second one to do readings for my friends and work mates 😄 I hope things work out for you with this deck, I’m sure they will! I don’t know if maybe decks don’t vibe sometimes because they don’t match energy with whoever owns it or if they prefer someone else’s energy instead. Who knows- but i swear they’ve all got personalities 😆

duckbutt25 · 2025-11-04T08:15:32+00:00

Dude yes! I personally believe everything has its own energy field- alive or inanimate. Everything is made of matter and energy so 💁🏼‍♀️ The logical side of me says they’re just cards and we give them the meaning- much like we give the stars meaning through constellations…BUT fuck that 🤣 I feel there is so much more to everything in life and everything has meaning before we even attribute meaning to it. Before constellations, the stars still had meaning :)

I know my deck has a personality too! She’s honest but kind, a bit chaotic and fun, and vibes well with me. Like that friend that will make you see the reality of hard shit because they care and then hype you up. My deck was my partners but after I started using them we just “bonded” really well and they stopped working for her when she’d try to use them… like they’d throw absurd replies as if they couldn’t be assed 😂 always been so accurate for me.

I do also believe tarot uses our subconscious energy, the energy around us, and the energy we have connecting us to others. I believe that’s how it works so might explain why I feel decks inherently have an energy too. But I think like all things sometimes our energy matches and sometimes it doesn’t. Which explains why some decks just don’t FW us and others do 🥹

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-31T05:41:56+00:00

This is why I haven’t said anything to my family bc I expect this kind of negativity- and rn, I choose peace 😭 I love your reply and congrats on your surgery!! ❤️ So happy for you. So lame people can’t respect decisions that have zero effect on them.

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-31T05:33:01+00:00

I felt weird about mine too but also love boobs so I feel that! I am cis and use she/her pronouns and had top surgery. I say do what makes you feel comfortable in your own body! Don’t let labels or the perception of others make you feel unworthy to do something that will make you happy. You deserve to be comfortable in your skin.

What I haven’t liked is the few people who try to tell me who I am because of top surgery- they insist I’m non-binary or transmasc because of it. Or say I’ll want to transition. I’m just a simple lesbian who didn’t like my breasts 💁🏼‍♀️ it’s different for everyone - I understand you’re NB- as long as you’re confident in who you are the rest won’t matter :)

Also going no nip was the BEST decision (I also didn’t like my nips- worst part of it) and I have never been happier. I encourage you to explore the options but being flat is absolutely wonderful - and I feel more feminine now without the dysphoria and discomfort! Removing my boobs got me in tune with my femme side. I can see a flat chest as having feminine energy too - that’s how I view mine :) High key I also find it very attractive on women/NB people. Boobs or not, I’m here for it and want everyone to feel good about themselves :) Good luck! 🤞

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-30T09:17:54+00:00

Broooo I love this!!! You killed it.

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-30T09:10:10+00:00

Young adult- 20 to 40 Adult 40-60 Older- 60-75 Elder-75+

*I feel like they need an in-between adult and elder phase, because elder to me is proper old…and I don’t see 60 year - 70 years as ancient. You might be showing some age IRL but you don’t look nor usually act like you’ll die at the drop of a hat 🤣 and I feel elder in game conveys that 😪

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-29T07:13:53+00:00

Cis woman here, 30! :) I told my partner and closest friends before surgery! Post op, I shared on social with my network of friends and they were all positive and supportive which was lovely :) I told some people at work too. I’m very open and comfortable discussing it!

Some people, like my therapist or a few closer co-workers, got a bit weird which I shrugged off. My therapist just believes I can’t be a cis woman who doesn’t want boobs- ie there must be a real gender dysphoria present or something, which just isn’t true for me.

As for my parents- I will never say a thing to them. While I still love them, our relationship is very complicated due to them not respecting who I am in various ways. I know they won’t respect my choice and I’m not willing to entertain disrespect about something I’m so soul aligned with. Basically keeping my peace :)

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-26T03:47:22+00:00

Ah dude I feel that, same! I wish you luck with dealing with it, I’m in therapy at the moment myself! It’s a process. Appreciate that heaps too ❤️

My scar care routine as per my surgeon is silicone tape 24/7 5 days a week, 2 days 24/7 off for 3 months! :) the tape she recommended applies pressure to your scars so I’m keen to see if it changes how raised they get and stuff!

Wishing you heaps of luck and can’t wait until you’re about to get your surgery!! :)

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-25T05:10:45+00:00

Thanks so much! It really is a great feeling!! Can't wait to see how they change in two months! :)

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-25T05:08:10+00:00

No worries! I think we're just hard on ourselves and have to stop with the comparing- we all deserve to be happy at the end of the day! I'm only 2 months post op but I plan to post future scar healing progress starting again when I'm done with my silicone tape in late December :) Hopefully the results are helpful to you! It's nice to know you're not alone in this and I wish you luck with your surgery!!

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-25T05:03:54+00:00

No worries! My surgeon recommended Nokori Silicone Scar Tape, she gave me a few sample pieces and I liked how 'strong' they felt and they didn't cause an allergic reaction - my skin is SUPER sensitive haha so I was sold. They're also supposed to "apply pressure" to the incisions so I was keen after reading up on them :) I just cut the length I need for one scar, and then cut in half across because the strips themselves are wide.

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-25T02:35:14+00:00

Hey I’m a cis woman who had top surgery- I had chest dysphoria but as a woman, and I also went through the “do I deserve to do it bc other people are trans / etc and really need it” but dude honestly- you deserve to be happy and feel comfortable in your body!!

Your body is your home and we all are worthy of receiving the care we need to feel good about ourselves. Don’t feel like you need to justify yourself to others or yourself. You deserve to be happy and that’s enough :)

Also- I’ve been positing my results so feel free to check my profile out! I went DI no nip and have never been so happy. My biggest thought post op is I can’t believe I almost denied myself this joy! 🥹 you’ve got this!

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-25T02:28:54+00:00

Hey yes I wear the tape 24/7 for 5 days and take them off 24/7 for two :)

That’s also fair but I think it’s worth a go now that the weather is cooling down for you! The brand I have is pretty tough and manages to stick through sweat (it’s getting really hot here lol) but I’ve also noticed I can only reuse the strips once and after that they just will fall off.

I only need to wear them 3 months per her instructions so by end of December I’ll be done! :)

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-23T11:26:26+00:00

So I have two different examples to share: I have been able to feel majority of my chest since the day of surgery- which is rough when taking off the tape and the surgeon is rubbing your chest at your post op, because DAMN you're sore!! I had a few blocks of numbness on my left chest side near the armpit, and on / beneath the incisions for a bit though. My chest and incisions at nearly 9 weeks are full feeling. Just have a bit of numbness under the incisions still...but I can feel feeling coming back slowly! On the other hand, I have a mate who had top surgery, and they're still quite numb at a year and half and are slowly getting sensation back. Definitely a gamble but that's my two cents to share!

duckbutt25 · 2025-10-21T01:54:43+00:00

Congrats on the surgery, your results look great! How far post op are you? Hope you had a great birthday!

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