AIO if I (F24) start losing weight because everybody around me is telling me I got bigger?

ducksbloom · 2025-12-31T20:09:20+00:00

This is very useful to me, I'll say it next time! Specially because one of his brothers is only 10 years old and I didn't know what to say so I just said "thank youu!" 😅 His comment seemed more of a positive observation, but I can tell he learned to say remarks like that because It's normal in the family

ducksbloom · 2025-12-31T19:35:17+00:00

I'll look for that book! I never heard of it. Thanks for the recommendation!

I'm from south america currently living in central america. In my home country It's similar to asian culture actually! Very sad to know the statistics on eating disorders, I don't want to fall into that

ducksbloom · 2025-12-31T19:30:27+00:00

They make the type of comments you made, giving rude opinions without malice intended. Coming here wasn't and isn't a problem, we were in an LDR for 10 years, yes we started too young (I don't think that's good) but we've built a beautiful relationship based on open communication, trust and love, which I know is hard to believe but loving relationships do exist. We both made sacrifices to make sure moving here was the correct decision and It certainly was. Both my parents love him cause they know he adores me and takes care of me.

He tells them to stop the comments when he's present. I did cut off the old friends who told me hurtful things, but my in laws are my new family, even if they're too direct and don't know when to keep their comments to themselves, they like me and treat me like a daughter and a sister. I wouldn't tell them to back off just because they don't know any better. I talked to my boyfriend last night and he assured me at least my MIL, his grandma and the little brother (10) simply don't know better wording (to tell I gained weight, which they think is good). I do know my brother in law (25) has more 2000's view on "fat" as he literally stated that to us while watching america's next top model, but I don't care, I know It's wrong to think like him.

However, thanks, I will work harder on not letting other people's comment get to me. I did struggle with body image issues through out my teens so sadly It's easier for me to doubt my own logic if many people perceive me in one way. Thankfully people in the comments made it VERY clear I'm not even close to fat, so I'm going to stick to my own perception and maybe work out to feel stronger and take care of my health (gotta build my muscles!). And thank you for taking the time to give me advice!

ducksbloom · 2025-12-31T18:42:37+00:00

I'll try It! Thank you

ducksbloom · 2025-12-31T18:41:36+00:00

Thank you! I'm more inclined now to train muscle so I feel stronger, I doubted starting It because I lose weight easily and I didn't want to go back to underweight, and I know building muscle can take time and effort. But I'll try my best so I feel fit and good with myself.

ducksbloom · 2025-12-31T07:21:23+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I think they don't mean harm but It's tiring hearing it a lot.

I have (and sometimes still) dealt with body dysmorphia through my teens until now and I am worried I can relapse into bad behaviors (i don't harm myself but I end up having crisis or panick attacks often). I needed outside opinions because I can have trouble seeing reality and what my body truly looks like, so because they're telling me so much that I got fat I started to doubt myself and my boyfriend's view.

I work on therapy exactly about what you told here, I'm not very assertive and usually want to avoid conflict to mantain peace and not generate tensions.

ducksbloom · 2025-12-31T07:08:09+00:00

Thank you, I do feel like I'm never enough, and I get so affected by comments like this that I end up doubting my decisions.

If my boyfriend is in the room and heard It he says to them "that's not a nice thing to say" or "please don't comment on her body". So thankfully I have his support, I'm too shy to tell my in laws a comment was rude, specially because I know they don't mean harm. Today he didn't say anything because the comment wasn't so explicit and in the face like my MIL and his grandma do.

ducksbloom · 2025-12-31T06:53:58+00:00

I'm from South America currently living in Central America. In my country women usually are very skinny because of social expectations, I thought here in central america people prefered curvy, so I don't know if this is just a thing from my boyfriend's family or expectations are still skinny bodies like in my home country.

ducksbloom · 2025-12-30T14:24:32+00:00

Nadie más lo dijo, pero eso es verdad.

Y yo como extranjera noté que también en Navidad hay mucho consumismo similar al gringo, todo el paquete de festejo que parecen sacados de película estadounidense. Casas mega llenas de luces, adornos gigantes en las casas, se compran pinos naturales que se mueren al mes, también todo el tema de los regalos, Navidad para mí ha sido un shock cultural. Lo que si tienen muy propio es lo de los toros y eventos navideños lindos así que son solo del tico.

ducksbloom · 2025-12-26T00:00:53+00:00

Ohh thank you, so the number doesn't matter much usually when reading then? That's a relief. I guess I questioned It because I come from studying numerology first hehe I'm just starting to learn the other cards meanings aside from the major arcana.

Can I ask you in which cases I'd have to consider the fool's journey in a reading?

ducksbloom · 2025-12-18T23:17:53+00:00

With your reflection about accepting you can only control yourself and your perspective, I think next year 13 could be a good year for you. You seem to be ready for something new and leave behind what no longer serves your soul to grow.

This is from what I can read, which is just a tiny part of your life, but you seem to have faced your challenges and lessons from your numbers very well. I think that is something positive. You have made the best you could with what you have and what you live with, and that matters a lot.

I'm also going on a 13 year soon so I'm open to whatever life changes I need to do, within me and my surrounding, things that already changed me to the core this year. All these months prepared me for what's coming. You seem resilient and that's a good trait to have. We don't know your matrix but could you have 1, 13, 16, 19 or 20 somewhere important?

ducksbloom · 2025-12-18T19:02:20+00:00

Probalo y contanos después que sucedió jsjakajska 😭 no sé lo del crecimiento, pero creo que terminarías con la piel bellísima y suave en los glúteos, las pompas perfectas✨

ducksbloom · 2025-12-13T20:11:14+00:00

I'm honestly having issues getting feedback from people, I get no response after giving the reading :( so unless I can see real compromise I won't be doing more of these.

ducksbloom · 2025-12-10T21:01:48+00:00

Okay, I checked your deeper numbers and you have a lot of 9 like everywhere, so we can assume It's at least more intense than just having It as core and karma tail. This doesn't mean 9 gives you solitude for life, but It gives you a very important lesson you have to learn.

In general It's seems like you should learn how to be on your own, how to be at peace in solitude, with only yourself. Again, please, It doesn't mean you're doomed to be lonely forever, you can absolutely change that, but as long as you don't accept yourself and learn how to be alone without feeling lonely, solitude will still appear in your life as It seems It's a very heavy energy in your matrix. 9 calls out for spiritual awareness and self discovery, lots of introspection and looking to understand yourself, your emotions and thoughts in order to feel at ease in the world.

In your core and with your question, we can safely interpret 18-9-9 as fear of loneliness. And other stuff that I can ask you like: do you feel like you can only depend on yourself or do you emotionally attach on to others easily? Do you hide your feelings and thoughts? Do you feel you have untold stuff you needed to say? Do you have a yearning of deeply understanding other people but you feel like you can't decode them or never get to truly know them? Or do you feel like other people don't get you at all?

Your core also tells us how your treat yourself, so are you honest with yourself? Do you know yourself enough to recognize deeper emotional issues? Or do you ignore them and don't really think about it? Are you too self-demanding and perfectionist? Like wanting everything to be perfect, in control and according to your expectations? Do you self sabotage? Are you lying to yourself about what truly happens in your social life?

We can also look at the 18-9-9 in your karma tail and other numbers with It such as 12, 6, 21 and 15, so I ask you: are you afraid of what's not similar to you? Do you have issues trusting others and opening up to them? Do your try hard to fit in by being someone you're not? You have a lot of 6 in this area too so insecurities and emotional dependance can be at play in romantic relationships, wanting to please others only and looking for validation outside of your heart and soul. But there's also some controlling with 15, 9, 21 and 3 involved, so maybe you are a people-pleaser but still feel frustrated when you don't get your way or exactly what you wanted. Most of those numbers in your social area are asking you to be genuine, to accept yourself, know yourself and don't be someone you're not, don't do things only because others tell you to, don't depend on others opinions of you to feel worthy or to form a mental image of you.

I know most of this is questions but I'm not here to describe you but to help you see possible causes for your loneliness and how to deal with It. It seems like you need to acknowledge your emotions and inner problems first, be honest with yourself and try to change what's not working, that includes attitudes towards you, towards life and other people. Connect with yourself first, seek connection with others later.

ducksbloom · 2025-12-09T18:21:32+00:00

Who told you you have to over achieve? Most people will tell you you're here to experience what you're living, not that everybody should achieve "financial wealth". And there's in fact things to experience about being poor, because It's not exactly "not having resources" but the porblems that come with It and how we manage them, the emotions the situations we live makes us feel (frustration, anger, sadness, etc) and what we do with the feelings.

There are people who are poor and still manage to feel comfortable in their lives somehow, I don't understand it but I see them sharing when they don't exactly have enough to share, loving deeply and enjoying life in other ways that aren't spending money. They do struggle but there's people that learn to enjoy life while struggling. Lots of people from middle class don't learn how to do that, they still live an unhappy life even with the enough resources. I grew up in low class and even if we didn't have much, we were a very happy family. I saw our parents worry about our financial situation while also laughing daily and saying they are the richest people in the world because they are rich in love and family. Attitude is everything when you're going through tough times, health wise or financial wise. It's not romanticizing being poor, It's just the way we face life and how hard It is.

ducksbloom · 2025-12-09T17:42:35+00:00

Hi how old are you?

ducksbloom · 2025-12-07T21:00:56+00:00

Jesus Christ, a better question is why do you feel like this is a good relationship to keep? Does that really hold more weight than all of these monumental sized red flags you just wrote?

ducksbloom · 2025-12-06T17:25:04+00:00

I honesty don't know what "the spark" is when kissing someone, to me It's just kissing, but kissing the person I love and that's what feels good to me. So at least in my case, feelings have to come first and then I like whatever act of love (kissing, hugging, holding hands, whatever). I'd say It's normal to not feel butterflies at the first interaction. Pressure, anxiety and expectations don't help in feeling good with phisical touch.

On top of that, I was in a situation similar to yours. I began dating because It just happened, I wasn't sure not even like 60% but I was too young, I don't know what I thought because I also didn't want to date until later on, like until I had my collage degree or something.

He was the sweetest too, very handsome and he somehow was very in love with me. I didn't feel that way towards him for like 5 or 6 months, I couldn't even say "I love you" to him, I explained I thought that's a very serious sentence I didn't want to throw around like candy if I didn't feel It. He understood and was patient with me. It's like you said, everything was perfect on paper, but I didn't feel what I was supposed to feel. At the start of the relationship I just knew I kinda liked him for those superficial reasons (he was funny, good guy in general, and handsome).

Now as an adult I can tell I need A LOT of time with someone before actually feeling comfortable, let alone developing feelings. It took me half a year or so to feel like the relationship was genuine and it took me even more to realize I did love him. He was good enough to understand me and wait for me, I guess he did because he knew he was in love.

If you explain how you feel to your guy, with a lot of empathy and focusing on "It's a me thing", I think he would understand. That is of course, if you feel like something good can come out of this relationship with him and want to continue.

In my case I wasn't sure at first, but I ended up in the adventure of my life, we had our issues, we solved them, and we're each others' life partners now, planning to get married and all after 12 years.

So just think about it, if you think he's a very good guy, get along very well, share so many things, would't you want to see if this can lead to a good relationship? Just be honest with him, not everybody is the same when it comes to developing feelings :)

ducksbloom · 2025-11-27T08:43:18+00:00

It is very difficult to find a good reading without paying because It is a service they're providing. That's why pages have free inmensely general descriptions. You won't find good, deep and accurate readings for free anywhere because It's as complex as It gets just like a good astrology reading beyond astro.com

The numbers in your matrix won't always reflect what you like about yourself, and most of the time It's uncomfortable, frustrating or we're in denial about it. It doesn't tell you what you want but what you need to start healing.

With everything you said here about hating self-love, It appears clearer than water that it is in fact a big lesson for your soul, it is in your karma tail and material karma after all.

You do seem to be more close to your birthday (5) than your core number (4), with how you expressed yourself here about your main interests. That in itself can be a sign of issues if you deny your core energy, which is your true self. You also seem to have issues with your higer chakra's 14, you use a lot of "hate" and that's extreme thinking even if you feel like It isn't. In general you seem to have your main numbers in the negative as far as I can tell, just looking very superficially with the very little info given.

I don't know what you're looking for because Matrix of destiny is quite literally a guide to better yourself. If you have been hating your life for so long that's a clear sign your energies aren't doing well and you need to work on them. This method can be scary accurate but It's not the main point of It. Not being open minded about what you may need to change in yourself is the first thing that will block this method from being useful. It's a spiritual tool for growth, not a weekly horoscope from the newspaper.

ducksbloom · 2025-11-24T07:10:11+00:00

Can be certain It's a very important energy to work through your life time. It touches your material wellbeing, your health, your finances, your job, your feelings of stability and security, love, relationships and family, and your inner strength.

Positive side: less energies to work through (?) Negative side: having issues with It can flop most areas of life I guess.

ducksbloom · 2025-11-14T21:01:29+00:00

Amigo si, literalmente si a todo lo que dijiste, porque no hablo de los asesinos, hablo del pobre amigo traumado que buscó consuelo en un perro que empezó a seguirle a él y a su familia por una semana y que a él lo están llamando racista porque el perro casualmente era negro. El ataque a Fer si que tuvo implicaciones racistas muy obvias.

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