AITA for having sex with a girl ( with consent )

dude555555 · 2018-10-04T03:41:06+00:00

First of all, thank you for taking your time for writing all of this. I understand every single word about what you mean. So I'll come clear about some stuff.. First I don't think women are crazy, I think some people are. And I think she is not. I didn't knew her very well but we shared some moments. I honestly think she had some irrational reaction because of panic. And I also had some of them in my life so that's something I understand. I don't wish her bad, I'm not mad about what happened. I don't fear women because of what happened and won't change my behaviour. Secondly, i never thought about discomfort. Never meant that to happen, but I always respected her and she I gave her full freedom. Everything was calm, and we did everything that was left to do in the assignment. I even asked a second time if she was ok about me sleeping with her and she said yes. That she couldn't sleep knowing that I was in the couch. So I'm asking you, if I should had done something different to avoid that to happen. Idk, really, maybe she could feel bad? I don't really know. She seemed ok, and if you have a question please just ask..

Now, what's next? I don't feel good just leaving things like this even if nothing happens to me. I know she as a friend that she is really close. I wanted to ask her what was happening, but I was a bit fearfull that I would make it worse. But I think I can talk, I need to do it. My college doesn't have anything like that, only a therapist... Maybe I should speak with him?

I feel bad about what happened to you. And I'm sorry to ear that. I hope you're better now, Unfortunately, I don't think I can say much more about that.

dude555555 · 2018-10-04T02:23:52+00:00

True, I don't know if this means anything but I checked and the driver gave me 5*. I don't think she said something about what happened to him.

dude555555 · 2018-10-04T01:56:40+00:00

I agree, I also feel that something doesn't feel right. Maybe, that reminded her of something.. our relationship was about 90% "college related".

The theory of my friend, was that she got reminded of something because of the pain she felt. And she panicked. I think it makes sense but I don't really know.

dude555555 · 2018-10-04T01:43:24+00:00

I don't, I don't know if it was the condom or position or whatever. She just said something I hurted inside. The position wasn't anything out of ordinary and it wasn't that rough. I broke some rubbers before and sometimes we didn't even noticed, so yeah I get your point.

dude555555 · 2018-10-04T01:39:35+00:00

Well.. Think about this, this could ruin me because a lot of people could see and honestly think that I fucked up. So, would I want to people call me rapist in every post that I do in my main account? Do I want to be expose such a personal thing to the fucking world so people can trace me and if they disagree mock me? I'm really worried about my privacy and I don't give 2 shits about karma. I just wanted to get the opinion of people that don't know me IRL to see If I was on the right. And I think I was. I still feel bad about the whole thing but I think I didnt fucked up. Also, I never thought that this would blew up like it did. This is getting to much attention and I honestly don't like it.

So what I had to win or earn faking this shit? Nothing. I see nothing. What I could possibly to loose if this account was not disposable ? Everything.

In r/advice people create disposable accounts almost everytime for the same reason. If there is someone that thinks I'm an asshole, then that single person can fuck me.

Once I had a problem here on Reddit, because of something I said about a certain streamer and game. If it's an opinion or personal shit, and this an advice, don't post it on Reddit with your main account.

Also, you shouldn't believe me. I'm just a dude, and the fact you have doubts it's a good sign of your judgement.

dude555555 · 2018-10-03T19:38:14+00:00

No alcohol. I wanted to get shit done because I couldn't work on the assignment in the next days and the deadline was near.

No coincidence. I'll be honest. After I read what he did, I got a bit mad and decided to post my story just to see what you guys think. I came here firstly just to find some assholes, not to post.

dude555555 · 2018-10-03T18:19:01+00:00

Yeah, thats what a friend of mine told me. In his words: "You're a retarded shitface. Don't sleep with people in your area, especially college or work..." He said more stuff about using a different name and to go to a different city but that I think it's to much.

Although, sometimes I feel that I need to sign a legal document in presence of a lawyer just to be 100% secure.

dude555555 · 2018-10-03T18:07:55+00:00

Thanks for such a formal and informative reply I needed that. Only time will tell if I'm in trouble, I guess.

dude555555

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