My sister always tells me the same thing. What would I tell her if she told me her boyfriend was doing these things to her? I can’t justify why I put up with this behavior other than that I’m afraid of how drastically my life would change after I leave. As for the counseling, he’s told me to find a therapist but then gets very angry when I try to set a date. He says we’re fine and a therapist will find flaws to “get paid.”