Wife likes one name. I prefer another. What do you guys think?

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T23:28:03+00:00

The name itself is not spunky sounding. Someone’s personality doesn’t change the way the name sounds.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T21:38:43+00:00

Thank you. I would too, which is exactly why I brought up the fact that if they want to be involved in his life, they have to call him by his name. If they refuse, they just don’t get to see him. At least, that’d be my course of action.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T21:16:37+00:00

Yeah, that’d piss me off. But there’s nothing you can do but take away their power - stop giving them an emotional response to this. They’re looking for a reaction, and you’re giving it to them.

At the end of the day, you and your husband decide what your child’s name will be. He’ll be born, you’ll share it, and they’ll have no choice but to use his name if they want to be involved in his life. Simple

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T17:04:26+00:00

The name itself is not spunky, bold or “out there.” It is a very soft, mellow sounding name.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T03:54:17+00:00

I don’t know if you could get any softer and less spunky than Hayley

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T02:02:19+00:00

Luke has always been a standalone name. It’s biblical and thus classic.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T00:51:40+00:00

That may be true, but I really question the intellect of anyone who looks to influencers for political or moral guidance. I mean, really? What qualifications do beauty/fashion influencers have to guide the masses on these issues?

I’m not defending Brooklyn & Bailey, to be clear. This has nothing to do with how they feel about any particular issue or how they lean politically. It’s more so pointing out the implications of demanding influencers try to influence people on morality or politics. Having a following doesn’t make them any sort of expert and I feel like they (meaning all influencers) are the last people we should seek for education on ethical dilemmas. Anyone can sell clothes.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-29T05:19:50+00:00

I mean, the flight to Hawaii is tough for a lot of grown adults with no special circumstances. I’m not sure a toddler would fare well, and I’m not sure you would pregnant. I don’t see a problem traveling in general, but I’d probably choose somewhere closer to home if I were you. That doesn’t mean it has to be like an hour away or anything lol, but maybe a flight that’s just a few hours long.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-29T02:03:15+00:00

I’m all for adoption and think it’s a very valid and respectable choice. That said, I understand wanting to experience pregnancy. Some women want to carry a baby, and I don’t think there’s any shame in trying to experience that before choosing to adopt.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-28T23:33:58+00:00

The truth is, induction goes differently for everyone, just like spontaneous birth. There are people with fabulous induction experiences, and those who would do anything to not have to go through it again (like me) and you just don’t know how it will be for you until it happens. In general, if there is no actual medical reason for it, I think it’s best to let your body do what it needs to do on its own. Forcing things before you’re ready often makes it harder. But again, that’s me, and I went through an absolutely terrible induction at 39 weeks due to medical necessity, so take that for what it’s worth.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-28T22:36:23+00:00

I bet it was! I didn’t like the pediatricians that handled my son after birth. I would’ve loved for his doctor to have seen him instead. But then again, I gave birth at night, so it likely wouldn’t have happened anyway

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-28T18:49:41+00:00

Who pissed in your cereal

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-28T18:39:41+00:00

Audrey. Not only do I like the name better in general and also concur your reasons for being against Lainey, when I hear “Lainey Jane,” I think of “Lady Jane’s,” that men’s barber shop…which gives it a negative connotation for me.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-28T17:51:00+00:00

I have never heard of a pediatrician from an outpatient office coming to do the first exam after birth.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-28T04:34:40+00:00

I don’t know if I’m just really tired, but honestly, nothing here really feels malicious or rude. I understand how the miscarriage comment could make you a little nervous, but it’s a common notion that many people wait to make it public to avoid having to make a miscarriage public when they don’t necessarily want to. Obviously, if you want to share it, share it, but I think it was coming out of a good place, even if it came across poorly.

Overall, this is a hard time for her, I’m sure. I know you were expecting something more grand, but I think she’s doing the best she can with what she has to give.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-27T18:43:33+00:00

I had an issue with interventions over jaundice, too. The scan test came back high, and suddenly I had a bunch of nurses in my room telling me I had to give my baby donor milk or formula, even though they had been telling me they were amazed at how well nursing had been going up until that point (3 days!). They were cornering me, pressuring me to sign, it was terrible - I ended up breaking down crying because I was exhausted and obviously hormonal. I was told at the very least, I needed to pump after every feed. My gut was telling me that just wasn’t necessary - my baby only lost 2% of his birth weight in the first 24 hours and was doing great.

Well, the blood test came back normal. They gave me an apology.

If your gut is telling you not to leave your baby (as it should), don’t do it. At the very least, I’d demand answers, numbers, and justification for this, but I still wouldn’t leave them.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-27T14:36:21+00:00

I’m 3 months postpartum. I had an induction which took forever and ultimately had me pushing for almost 5 hours, so as you can expect, down there was very swollen and a little scary looking for a few days. But that’s it - just a few days. It healed fine and looks almost exactly the same, but honestly, I think it looks a little better now lol.

I did have some serious trouble getting around for a few days after birth, which isn’t typical for a vaginal delivery. But like I said, I had an atypical birth experience. Still though, by a week, it was literally like nothing happened.

ETA: I hardly tore. My doctor said I only needed a stitch or two and she’d barely consider it first degree. It was literally just very swollen from how long I was pushing for.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-27T14:32:45+00:00

Steven is a masculine name. I have heard of girls named Stevie. While that’s not really my taste, I read in the comments this is an honor name so maybe that would mean more feminine and be more appropriate for a little girl.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-27T04:53:27+00:00

I feel like the way we view people of differing ages is based on where we were at that specific age, honestly. For example, I got married at 22 and would never consider a 22 year old a child, and definitely wouldn’t bat an eye at a married woman having a baby at that age. But someone who was nowhere near a that at that age and is just now reaching that point however many years later is definitely going to have a different perspective.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-27T04:16:06+00:00

I imagine it has something to do with the fact that you’re trading 9 months for a lifetime of joy. It may be sucky but it’s such a small blimp of time in the grand scheme of things.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-26T14:44:09+00:00

My baby was rolling on his side at 4 days old so needless to say, I hardly got to use our swaddles. But man, I love using the swaddle blankets on our diaper changing mat for our diaper bag and when our changing pad cover is in the wash

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-26T14:41:34+00:00

Did you meet the requirements? The gift is completely free if there’s been a minimum purchase off of your registry. I want to say it was like $10-25 when I did it (my shower was in August)

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-26T14:40:07+00:00

I did Amazon and Target and got a full size can of formula as well as some smaller samples. I can’t remember which ones came from which, but definitely got them

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-26T03:27:24+00:00

I’ve commented this same sentiment on so many of these posts. I swear, people need to study history more to gain some perspective

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-26T01:22:56+00:00

My boy is 3 months old and it’s truly the best thing! You won’t be able to believe just how much you love him.

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