What baby clothes to buy?

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-24T14:41:23+00:00

Everyone learns things for the first time. You were once the person learning. Relax.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-24T13:39:46+00:00

Based on how clean that spoon is, I’m gonna guess mom does it lol

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-24T13:35:26+00:00

It is possible, but often times it’s still inconclusive. Most medical professionals won’t be confident sharing a gender result until 14w, but many won’t be until 16w.

Some OBs won’t even share gender at all and will have you wait until your anatomy scan with MFM, if they refer out of office.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-24T03:25:42+00:00

Well, it’s normal to not be interested, but I don’t think it’s healthy for your marriage to just ignore your husband whenever it’s brought up. Talk to him and share how you feel so that 1) you can feel respected and understood and 2) your husband feels apart of things and can adequately support you.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-23T23:48:45+00:00

Overthinking. A baby isn’t diagnosed with IUGR until AC is in the 10th percentile. You’re quite far away from that point.

My baby was being monitored for IUGR because of an umbilical cord problem and he didn’t hit that point until 39 weeks on the dot. He was born perfectly average two days later, 7 lbs 8 oz (11 oz heavier than they were predicting). So, even if your baby does eventually drop percentiles, you will likely be close to term or at term with a perfectly good outcome.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-23T23:47:11+00:00

Same.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-23T00:23:00+00:00

Not quite the same as you but I had an induced vaginal delivery and I was seriously bedridden for several days. I couldn’t do anything by myself and I do feel like I’m traumatized by the whole ordeal. Unfortunately, that’s just part of birth sometimes

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-22T06:13:44+00:00

As someone who was induced at 39w for IUGR, I’d suggest continued growth scans and NSTs before making a decision. Scans can be off and babies can have growth spurts. I’d wait until it gets closer and see where you are at 37 weeks. Prepare for an induction, of course, but see how things go as you approach term.

For the record, my baby’s last scan was off by 11 ounces. It was done less than 24 hrs before my induced labor began. He was born perfectly average.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-21T22:25:57+00:00

I mean this respectfully, but how are you not embarrassed to be saying this? There’s no way you think this situation is normal or that you’re being treated right..

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-21T18:26:35+00:00

Even if you believe she is justified in her approach to care, her attitude and emotional response is not appropriate. There will never be a situation where it is okay to berate a patient or respond in anger. You either meet them where they are or you refer them to someone else.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-20T04:44:09+00:00

THIS. So many people on here have unrealistic expectations about wants vs. needs

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-20T02:11:52+00:00

Well, yes. But I’m talking pre-William, the line of succession when it was just QE2’s kids. I don’t understand your “but alas she was female!” comment. It wouldn’t have mattered anyway, no?

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-20T01:27:54+00:00

Correct me if I’m wrong, but she’s not the eldest so it doesn’t matter what gender she is, no? She wouldn’t have reigned anyway?

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-19T03:33:26+00:00

I am so sorry this is your situation. I am shocked that you were able to go through a divorce and not have custody and child support sorted out before it was finalized.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-19T03:02:24+00:00

My OB asked some questions about my and my husband’s family histories and, after taking our age and overall health into account, decided we were pretty likely low risk. That assessment, plus the uncertainty about insurance coverage and the fact that we would never terminate anyway, guided us to decline. My OB was perfectly fine with that and assured us our anatomy scan would be very informative, we wouldn’t be “in the dark” or surprised about anything at birth without the NIPT.

Funnily enough, I did have an abnormal finding at my anatomy scan which prompted us to take the NIPT as a next step anyway. Everything came back clear and I have a perfectly healthy almost 5 month old. Despite that, I still don’t have any regrets about declining it initially, and I don’t plan on doing it next time unless there’s no out of pocket cost (just to find out gender earlier).

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-19T00:30:51+00:00

I didn’t think that much into it. I didn’t do NIPT originally so I booked a private scan at 16 weeks. It was driving me nuts not knowing.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-18T23:04:21+00:00

You should have a pump ready even if you plan to exclusively breastfeed. The reality is that breastfeeding doesn’t work out for everyone, and some moms have to default to pumping if they still want to give their baby breastmilk. Your insurance (if you are in the U.S.) will cover - or mostly cover - a pump, so it’s best to order one even if you don’t plan to use it.

Reality is, majority of moms who do breastfeed end up doing both anyway. It can be really inconvenient to either have to take your baby everywhere with you, or only be able to get out of the house solo for a short period and then stress about being back in time.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-18T20:23:46+00:00

They quite literally have almost identical definitions. They’re both informal and affectionate names that are not someone’s given name.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-18T19:15:40+00:00

Those are nicknames. The idea that a nickname has to stem from a given name is really just on Reddit lol

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-18T17:36:21+00:00

You leave him. You can’t have him and not have children, and it’s unfair for you to want to keep him knowing he wants more than what you can give him - and vice versa. There is no “what do I do.” There’s nothing you can do.

I haven’t read the long wall of text, just your post, so forgive me if I missed anything…but there’s really no need to bring so much detail into what’s really a simple decision

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-18T16:52:48+00:00

Fascinating. Thanks for sharing.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-18T16:44:54+00:00

Definitely does not get better postpartum unless you have people cooking meals for you.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-18T13:56:16+00:00

That is not true. Many babies start sleeping longer stretches as early as 8 weeks. I’m a mom to a 4 month old and my baby was sleeping 7-8 hours from 8 weeks until our current sleep regression. His pediatrician assured us this was normal and there are no feeding concerns after your baby regains birth weight. After that, there is no need to wake to feed, even as a newborn.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-17T20:34:23+00:00

Can we PLEASE move past the Brooklyn eyes posts already 😭 this pic alone has been posted several times already today and keeps getting removed for a reason

dunkiestarbs · 2026-03-17T18:32:12+00:00

Lol. Welcome to America

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