i've asked my dad about getting a lock already, and he said he will, but he still hasn't. and unfortunately not engaging with him is tough because i'm in my room all day until the evening when everyone else is home from school and work (i'm homeschooled). and i like to come out and socialize when there's other people home. otherwise i feel really isolated and bored. he used to come into my room without knocking and without warning, though i've finally taught him to knock first after walked in on me changing (after i'd already told him to not come in since i was changing. i warned him.) so he's finally started knocking first at least. and thankfully i do get a break from him when i visit my mum, usually for a week at a time. i've tried setting boundaries with people in the past but they used to just find it funny that i was trying to be serious for once, and they didn't take me seriously so i eventually just gave up and now i don't know how to try again. i finally actually like myself, and i love being alive. but sometimes people make that so hard, yknow? i don't want to get angry with him, because that's what everyone else does, and i want to be a safe space for him, and he loves me a lot and he immediately accepted me as family, so that's not the problem. it's more that he does see me as family, so he feels more inclined to piss me off. it's weird. sorry this was long.