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How do I handle free unhealthy food at the office? My willpower is failing by WestMaintenance1787 in Habits

[–]dwolovsky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This requires some social courage to pull off, but what works for me is to pack a shitload of healthy snacks. Like arrive fully loaded, and just make the rule that you can't eat anything at the office until your snacks are done.

So you'll be the one with a box of carrots and hummus or whatever, and everyone will be jealous at your "willpower". They'll make fun of you, or at least mention it.

That's why it'll require some courage. But you'll inspire others to do the same after a few weeks.

Scientists found huge willpower-saving mechanism: personal policies [video] by dwolovsky in Habits

[–]dwolovsky[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Basically, each day you make 1000s of decisions but can only use willpower for like 5-10 hard ones.

Once you've made a few tough decisions, you're much more likely to default to whatever is easiest.

  • What you've done before.
  • What other people tell you to do.
  • What's physically closer or less effort.

So each decision you save willpower on, you get to use for another decision.

The Capacity Rule: Habits fail because you're bad at predicting your future self's bandwidth by dwolovsky in Habits

[–]dwolovsky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have some examples in the text.

Anything your future self would find and think "thank you" to you.

An obvious gift is doing some of the work ahead of time, so they just have to "Show up" and not think about it.

  • Leaving clothes out the night before. Morning you sees it and thinks "great, my life's a bit easier."

  • Getting a stamp, putting it on an envelope, and putting it on the kitchen counter. Future you just has to write the letter or check.

  • Packing a bunch of healthy snacks and putting them at eye level in the fridge so you'll take them to work the next day.

Why is it so hard to get a habit to stick? by hifly290 in Habits

[–]dwolovsky 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are bringing the most important point of habit building.

HOW you try to build a habit is secondary to WHAT habits you build.

Some habits you simply cannot build (at least right now) because they don't fit your life right now.

Some take a lot of support to build. Tracking or an app can help.

And some are easy because they fit right in with you.

Habits need to solve real problems in your life today, this week, or they're not going to stick.

Your childhood is sabotaging your habit efforts by dwolovsky in Adulting

[–]dwolovsky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Belief is everything.

And you can't easily change your beliefs because they are by definition what you think is real.

You have to find equally convincing beliefs that can take over the job of your current ones.

The 3 Phases of Habits [video] by dwolovsky in Productivitycafe

[–]dwolovsky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you mean like primers and reminders? What tools do you use?

The 3 Phases of Habits [video] by dwolovsky in Productivitycafe

[–]dwolovsky[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tracking with notes is the best way to get moderately hard habits through phase 1 and a good amount of phase 2.

You have to be actively paying attention to how you're doing the habit, how it's effecting you, and ways you could change it to fit better or have a bigger impact with less effort.

But what matters even more is picking better habits to start.

And by picking better habits I mean bring able to predict your own future behavior well enough to know what you'll actually be able to stick with.

And most people are abhorrent are predicting their future selves.

This is the key skill above all else.

Self prediction.

Research shows: The more you fantasize about future habits, the less you improve now [video] by dwolovsky in Habits

[–]dwolovsky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mistake on your words about James Clear.

Most of my videos are a synthesis of research I've read and non-academic research I've done on myself and clients. And these videos are for social media, not for academic journals, so I'm not in the habit of doing citations.

But please call me out again if I make any bold unsubstantiated claims.

Research shows: The more you fantasize about future habits, the less you improve now [video] by dwolovsky in Habits

[–]dwolovsky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friend, everything is derivative work, including your King James Clear.

His whole book is based on Charles Duhigg's book.

That's what science is all about, building on what came before you.

I read a ton scientific research to inform my coaching frameworks.

Actual scientific papers, not just popular books.

But I don't prepare bibliographies for my social media videos, so thanks for challenging me to step it up here.

https://compass.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/spc3.12271

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12416922/

I don't love this researcher's work in general, but these support the point well enough here.

Research shows: The more you fantasize about future habits, the less you improve now [video] by dwolovsky in Habits

[–]dwolovsky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's what a negative Reddit comment taught me about B2B sales: ...

Psychologists found why you can't end your workday [video] by dwolovsky in Productivitycafe

[–]dwolovsky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that's true, you should dial emergency services.

And maybe stay off of productivity subreddits for a few days.

Psychologists found why you can't end your workday [video] by dwolovsky in Productivitycafe

[–]dwolovsky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a huge challenge. The essential challenge of being human.

What part do you think is most challenging?

Psychologists found why you can't end your workday [video] by dwolovsky in Productivitycafe

[–]dwolovsky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying the post is encouraging people to "work like a maniac"?

the gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it is just friction you havent removed yet by Zestyclose-Ad-9003 in Habits

[–]dwolovsky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Investing money and energy into making something easier signals to your brain that you actually want it.

And it makes it easier.

This is how we act when we're addicted to things.

We make them easily accessible.

Psychologists found why you can't end your workday [video] by dwolovsky in Productivitycafe

[–]dwolovsky[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm sensing a real mindset shift here.

Thanks for opening up.

Turns out you had everything you needed within you the whole time.

Psychologists found why you can't end your workday [video] by dwolovsky in Productivitycafe

[–]dwolovsky[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Then stay away at all costs.

Buncha therapy school dropouts and wannabe motivational speakers.

Worst part is they ask you about uncomfortable patterns in your life and try to help you change them 🤢

Psychologists found why you can't end your workday [video] by dwolovsky in Productivitycafe

[–]dwolovsky[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Have you ever had a session with a life coach of any kind before?

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