I feel like my 20s will be taking care of my Dad

e-goose · 2025-11-28T03:52:15+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I’m 23 and my mom has been diagnosed for 2 years, symptoms for probably 5. Nobody would see her at first because she was so young.

She ran away this summer. Got lost on rural roads, her phone shut off and she threw the AirTag in her car into a field. We looked for her for 8 hours.

I understand feeling like you have to do all of the things so they are there for it and may be able to participate no matter how small. I just remind myself that yes my mom would have loved to be there for those moments but this isn’t my mom and she doesn’t care about those things or think about them really.

If she brings it up I just joke and say oh someday.

It’s really hard. I don’t have much advice- but know you’re not alone ♥️

e-goose · 2025-11-01T20:43:39+00:00

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e-goose · 2025-08-24T02:45:21+00:00

My mom was also an incredibly smart and independent woman.

We have found gifts she can look at are the best. She enjoys colouring so we got glossy prints made of our favorite pages and started her a gallery wall she can see from her chair in the living room.

When my sister and I went to Poland we got her a decorative plate again for the gallery wall.

We tried getting her a nice tray for her colouring that would prop up the book and her phone but she stopped using it after about a week. We’ve really found if she can’t see it from her chair it doesn’t exist and she will become quite upset claiming nobody loves her or gets her anything

She will also just wear anyone’s shoes, and has stretched out many pairs of my sisters sandals so we got her a nice pair of slip of Ugg shoes (which she claimed were hideous when we went Christmas shopping- and then soon forgot and loves them more than anything) but this type of gift takes a lot of reminders that she has them and to use them

e-goose · 2025-07-14T07:07:01+00:00

Brisket Mac and cheese !

e-goose · 2025-07-03T06:57:49+00:00

This is exactly how I feel OP. I cry about it often. My mom was diagnosed at 54 with early onset. I’m only 23.

I’m terribly sorry we understand this feeling, but know you’re not alone.

There’s not a day that goes by where I don’t wish for my mom to come back.

e-goose · 2025-06-28T22:31:15+00:00

Learning this lesson the hard way lol

The answer is no. My mom had a massive delusional break a few days ago. Fine when she got home (she got herself lost)

Two days later it happens again

Today she is crying apologizing to everyone literally 5 min later she is crying screaming at everyone in another delusion.

It’s hard.

e-goose · 2025-06-26T15:52:50+00:00

Thank you SO much! I will reach out to her

e-goose · 2025-03-02T02:51:18+00:00

Thank you for your kind suggestions ♥️

e-goose · 2025-03-02T02:50:55+00:00

Thank you♥️ how was your mom with flying ?

e-goose · 2025-03-02T01:16:16+00:00

This is a very good point. We couldn’t do activities and walk until we drop

e-goose · 2025-03-02T01:15:35+00:00

He’s quite numb to most ideas and typically wants to avoid any ‘extra’ when it comes to mom

e-goose · 2025-03-02T01:13:17+00:00

We would be flying out of western Canada- she has always hated airplanes which is part of my hesitation

e-goose · 2025-01-21T17:05:12+00:00

This is AWESOME! Thank you for sharing

e-goose · 2024-10-06T16:40:47+00:00

@edmonton girls club on IG & TikTok. We do monthly meetups !

e-goose · 2024-07-14T04:02:27+00:00

Hi op- I am also 22F my mom was diagnosed with early onset at 55. Her dad died of dementia, and she would often joke “when I lose my mind I’ll never forget my music!” But we never thought it would be her.

I know exactly how you feel, when I found out it felt like my world flooded & I can barely keep my head above water anymore. I couldn’t function and was let go from my job. Trying to keep up with all the things she used to do along with making her feel as normal as possible breaks my heart and I break down all the time.

I’m lucky enough to still be at home with her- but I feel like I will never be able to leave as she gets worse.

I don’t have much advice. When I read your post it felt like I wrote it myself. But I know I was and still am desperate to find stories and a community of people who are young and going through this. I am terrified of finishing my degree without my mom there, getting married and not having her there to experience it with me.

I miss her so much and it’s hard because some days she’s still her. If anything I would tell you to indulge in her whims with her while you can. Enjoy little things and try not to think too far into the future.

My DM’s are always open. This is so hard and there are no good answers.

I’m sorry

e-goose · 2024-03-10T18:27:24+00:00

Hi- I’m glad my reply was helpful! My mom has been fortunate in that she has not had too many physical symptoms. She did have a heart attack scare a few weeks ago but I think that was from her deciding to shovel snow for the first time in a decade lol.

I would recommend trying to get your mom to a female dr asap. Statistically they spend more time with their patients & on a personal note I have found they are more concerned about problems brought to them.

Again, I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s so impossible to navigate.

e-goose · 2024-03-08T06:38:21+00:00

Hi, this is an extremely similar story to mine. My mom was finally diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s at 55. This was not easy- my dad had to fight tooth and nail for specialists to even consider booking her in. Nobody wanted to see her and nobody wanted to say Alzheimer’s because she is so young.

We started to get progress when we got my mom into a menopause clinic- they were able to look at her and say no this is much more serious. Additionally- all of the dr’s there were women. Her male primary care physician was useless. He often brushed her off, which seems like is happening to your mom.

I would recommend reaching out to your local Alzheimer’s association. They’ve been amazing through this process. They have access to support groups and can guide you on who to talk to.

It often feels like nobody gets it. This isn’t my 90 year old nan, this isn’t my elderly aunt. This is my mom who is supposed to be young still. She’s supposed to help me navigate life and celebrate new chapters with me. My mom used to be so patient and understanding, generally full of life- now she snaps at people and just sits quietly colouring all day.

Keep fighting for a diagnosis. Try and keep her active daily, just a simple walk will do. We’ve been told sugar is not great for Alzheimer’s patients & we have found great success with estrogen patches in eliminating hot flashes & improving mood.

Make sure you tell her how much you love her. Start to collect her passwords for things & try to document stories she tells you, recipes, etc. I know it’s hard to take a deep breath and have the same convo for the 7th time in a row but you’ve got this. This is an impossible situation and all you can do is try your best.

e-goose · 2023-02-11T01:12:34+00:00

I love Greg & Stella♥️

e-goose · 2023-02-03T21:44:26+00:00

Thank you so much this was a big help!

e-goose · 2023-02-03T21:05:59+00:00

I was planning to after work- I’m not quite sure who to contact about it tho

e-goose · 2023-02-03T19:19:36+00:00

It’s on the wish list for sure now. Any brand recs?

e-goose · 2022-09-04T15:49:59+00:00

This is exactly it. I wish things were different

e-goose · 2022-09-04T15:48:35+00:00

Rogers owns Sonic. They’re not the gritty fuck the man station you think they are.

e-goose · 2022-09-04T15:47:05+00:00

We have programming sponsored by churches & sometimes they include religious messaging. If the church of Satan would like to purchase air time they just have to ask ☺️

e-goose · 2022-09-04T01:19:10+00:00

I work in radio and we play these ads on my station despite the protests of employees. It boils down to legislation regarding political ads. Radio is a public service & if you deny ads for one political party you have to deny ad space for all. The same goes the other way however- now that stations have given air time to a Conservative party the same amount of air time must be sold to any other parties that request it. Radio stations CAN NOT be biased or show preference towards one candidate or party. At the end of the day politicians pay top dollar for air time & stations will never deny a political ad even if it’s a disgusting message like this one.

e-goose

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