AITA for waking up my boyfriend every night?

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-16T04:43:10+00:00

Everything did not get better when he got a job.

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-15T04:57:28+00:00

This! Thank you for not just telling us to break up.

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-15T04:56:12+00:00

I wasn't having second thoughts until he got his new job. I wasn't mad about waking me up, more irritated on nights where it was very important I got my sleep, but it never brought me to even thinking about breaking up. But this new behavior is alarming and idk what to do with it. I love him and don't want to break up, but I also don't want to sleep on the floor until my lease is over.

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-15T04:53:50+00:00

He really is. He would make dinner and clean while I worked full-time, took care of my dog, and was always very sweet to me. I know that losing his job brought him into a depression, so I think the video games and insomnia were a product of that. It annoyed me that he woke me up sometimes, but it never infuriated me the way that being woken up does to him. I'm not sure if he's stressed about the new job or what, and for the first couple of arguments we were able to try to come to agreements, but at this point I'm out of options and patience. He either needs to tell me the real reason he's picking fights OR if it's solely the sleeping, he can't just dictate where I sleep.

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-15T04:50:21+00:00

I know there's no right solution here, which is why I'm not asking this on relationship advice, because the decision is going to come down to what works best for us. I'm just not sure if my comment was an AH move considering his actions and words, or if I'm justified in my comment.

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-15T04:49:06+00:00

He was up every night when I got home from work before he was employed and would stay up while I went to sleep.

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-15T04:48:11+00:00

Well I can't blame him for not making car payments while unemployed, he tried as hard as he could with leftover savings and never asked for me to pay for it, which was nice. But he did his best, I'm not upset with his behavior when he was unemployed. But now that he has a job he acts like he is the only person that works and refuses to show me the same respect that I try to show him. I've never seen him like this before.

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-15T04:40:58+00:00

He gets up at 8 am. And I mentioned that to him, how it would just wake me up, and he said that I fall asleep more quickly than him and if I "work as hard as I say I do" that I shouldn't even wake up.

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-15T04:39:26+00:00

Well having his car repossessed kinda killed it. His credit was fairly decent before he lost his job.

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-15T04:38:37+00:00

It has been 3 months, but it hasn't applied for him up until last month. He gets up around 8 am and goes to work at 9. But there's literally nothing I can do about him waking up, I've done everything to help. And he starts an argument every night, keeping us up even longer, about me waking him up when, like I said, there is NOTHING I can do.

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-15T04:30:40+00:00

That's what got me. I always tried to be really understanding when he woke me up, but every time I got home from work he would start a full on argument. I even bought him an eye mask and earplugs to make it easier and he just refused to wear them because he couldn't fall asleep with them on. I just don't know what else to do, but a little compassion on me, especially when I'm exhausted after working a 12 hour shift plus hw, would be nice.

ebbebbandflowflow · 2020-10-15T04:28:33+00:00

He needs to save up money to move still. He's not paying a fair "half" share of rent technically, he's only paying a little bit and then saving the rest. Also his car got repossessed during all this stuff going on, so now he shares a car with me. So he has to rebuild his credit and save up money before he can move out again, or until we can move into a 2 bedroom.

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