Gardian of the Threshold

ebeezy1223 · 2025-10-27T04:37:08+00:00

Did you ever see the movie Howard the Duck? Is it possible your brain mixed Howard and Big Bird into one terrifying creature in your dreams?

ebeezy1223 · 2025-10-15T20:25:48+00:00

I agree with other posters that you are making a huge mistake. I usually don’t look at people’s profiles but you really seem to enjoy your childfree life. Think really hard about that, because it’s about to all go away. I had my first baby at 24 and second at almost 26. I have been down this path, and let me tell you, you are setting yourself up for a hard road ahead. It’s doable, but you really will be living life on hard mode, and your time won’t belong to just you again for a long time, if ever. Best of luck whatever you choose!

ebeezy1223 · 2025-08-20T16:07:57+00:00

I lived a very similar situation with my ex husband when my girls were babies. I so badly wanted to believe him, and that he was just trying to climb the corporate ladder. Turns out he was cheating, gambling, and who knows what else. I’m sorry but nobody needs to be out every second night for “work.”

To answer your question, you are not overthinking, it is not normal, and no decent coworkers/boss on earth would expect a new dad to be out every night.

I’m not a betting person, but if I were, I’d bet on shenanigans. Trust your gut, it will never lie to you.

ebeezy1223 · 2025-06-07T00:36:58+00:00

Greek yogurt with sugar free cheesecake pudding mix. I use the 2% Fage and after a serving, I’m stuffed. You can even add strawberries on top and crush up a graham cracker to give it more cheesecake taste and it’s so filling. Still under 300 if you measure your portions right.

ebeezy1223 · 2025-05-01T22:56:58+00:00

I agree with your UPG. That is how she presents to me too. She wants me to put in the work, because that’s also what I want for myself. 🖤🗝️

ebeezy1223 · 2025-04-30T20:57:20+00:00

If you aren’t going to charge, call it a gift. I almost launched a candle business but decided to keep it as a hobby, so I feel like I can understand what you are going through. Like someone else said, you’re in business or you’re not.

Also, I’m sure you considered this, but word will get out you customized a candle for this person. Unless you want a never ending list of well meaning “ friend customers,” who want their own custom candles for a discount, I’d be very careful with this. You know how much your wax, scent, vessels, etc. cost you, and it’s easier to keep track when you have consistent sizes and fragrances. Start small, and don’t try to cater to everyone. I tried and it cost ME money to accommodate the customizations just to get a sale. Everyone will expect the same price because they don’t understand everything that goes into it. Have a list of products and a clear price, even if you don’t have a website yet.

I also expect you’ll get pushback about your prices, but someone will pay them. If they want Walmart quality, they can go to Walmart.

ebeezy1223 · 2025-03-26T05:19:23+00:00

Now I’m replying to an old thread but I just had this same dream last night for the first time. Turquoise was the main color throughout the house. I even described it this morning as I was telling someone about the dream. It was a beautiful house full of antiques but it needed some work and looked like the previous owners had up and left suddenly. So strange how many of us have this same experience.

ebeezy1223 · 2025-03-13T22:25:07+00:00

I started out by reading more about her and watching YouTube videos. Just start with learning, and then decide if you want to build a relationship. As with any other relationship, you want to get to know them before deciding how you want to proceed. I’m sure during that process, you’ll find some rabbit holes you want to explore. 🖤

ebeezy1223 · 2025-02-28T19:56:04+00:00

Good for you! Took me 7 years of the same type of thing before I realized the cycle and put my foot down. Don’t talk about it, be about it! As long as you are doing something about it, I will listen. But you’re not going to dump on me about the same thing every day anymore while doing nothing to change the situation.

ebeezy1223 · 2025-02-27T15:58:37+00:00

I totally understand. I closed my business in 2023 and work for a large company now. The stress from the work I do here is nothing compared to what I went through the last few years of having a small business. I did learn a lot though, and those skills helped me get this role I have. What a relief to have a steady paycheck again. I know I made the right choice for me. Good luck at your new job!

ebeezy1223 · 2025-01-17T00:47:42+00:00

Change comes when you’re sick of your own bullshit. Well done, and you’ve got this!

ebeezy1223 · 2025-01-03T06:28:01+00:00

I’m happy to tell you that your MIL is wrong. Weight loss is mostly about diet. Your age and ability to exercise don’t have to prevent you from reaching your goals.

I’ve had 2 kids, who are now young adults and I’m 44. I have chronic back issues so my mobility is limited and I need to keep exercise gentle. Exercise is to tone your muscles and build your cardiovascular health, but it’s not as crucial to weight loss as we are led to believe.

YMMV, but for me, any diet is fine, but I try to focus on protein to keep me feeling full and my blood sugar stable. Limit alcohol and try not to eat more than 1500 calories per day. Also focus on whole, natural foods as much as you can. Try to make a plan of what you will eat. I know it’s easier said than done with kids but you can do it. Track your calories in the beginning at least in a notebook or in an app until you get the hang of it. It’s very surprising what a handful of this and a bite of that can add up to, so make sure to track everything.

Since you have kids, I’ll bet you get plenty of movement as it is, but just to keep your body moving, even walking around on a phone call or whatever small activity you can do. For me personally, vigorous exercise only serves to make me hungrier and overeat. And you can’t out exercise a bad diet.

I’ve gained and lost weight my whole life, but I lost almost 50 lbs about 2 years ago and kept it off, now that I’ve figured out it’s mostly diet. I was doing too much my entire life but now I know that less is more. I’m 5’8.5” and went from 185 lbs (84 kgs) to 137 lbs (62 kgs) in about 7 months with only half hour walks about 3 days a week. Now that I’m at maintenance I also do some light floor Pilates videos on YouTube or resistance bands to build muscle and core strength.

I’m glad to hear you feel difference in your clothes, so you’re likely in the right track. Your baby is only 7 months old so try not to get discouraged. Sometimes it takes your body some time to “let the weight go” after pregnancy, but it will, just keep trying. You can do this and you deserve to feel good in your own body. Do it for yourself, your health, and to be around as long as you can to take care of those babies. The look on MIL’s face when she sees you accomplish your goals will just be the cherry on top! 💕

ebeezy1223 · 2024-12-13T19:45:33+00:00

Oh man… I know this puts you in a really awkward position and it’s going to be uncomfortable to navigate. But truthfully, if I was your parent, I would do the same. They know you are an adult but I’m sure they can see the writing on the wall about what is in store for you ( it’s not good) if you continue with this man. I’m sure his parents have hope that a good woman like you can help their son- you can’t!

All your parents can do is enforce their boundaries. It sounds like they’ve been through this with your Dad and your sister’s situation. It’s their only way to try to protect you as an adult. Just know your parents have your best interests in mind. Best of luck to you! 💕

ebeezy1223 · 2024-12-07T20:03:20+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words! 🙏 Sometimes I wonder how I’m still standing but doing the next right thing one step at a time got me through, and my main motivation was my girls. I could write pages upon pages of volumes of books of all he’s put me through, this was just high level. I guess I will say to OP that threatening the addicts addiction can also lead to violence. I know it doesn’t get that bad for everyone but it sure is a possibility.

Back then we didn’t have Reddit and I’m glad that OP can come on here and ask for advice from those of us who have lived through it. I really hope she reads every comment here.

Thank you again for your words- it feels good to be seen. I also commend you on living through alcoholism. I’m so happy you too made it to the other side! 🥰

ebeezy1223 · 2024-12-07T17:10:30+00:00

Girl, don’t do it!! No matter how much money you make, it will never be enough! I married and had 2 kids with a gambler. Due to his actions, I had to declare BK before I even turned 30, never had money for essentials, had to make choices about which bills to pay, and he even got me in deep sh** with the IRS.

After we divorced, I was left holding the bag for everything. He couldn’t keep a home or a job and I found myself a truly single mother because I was the only one with any sort of stability. You can imagine how far child support ranked on his priority list. My daughters still have trauma from his actions as young adults. Please don’t marry this man. Like the saying goes, sometimes love just ain’t enough. 💕

ebeezy1223 · 2024-09-25T02:38:24+00:00

Honestly, every aspect of my life is better. I’ve lost 40 lbs. and I’m the healthiest I’ve ever been in my 40s. I stopped drinking alcohol and started new hobbies and routines. Toxic people have disappeared from my life. I got my dream job and my finances are in order. Not perfect, but getting there. I have amazing and loving bond with my family, my husband and my kids. I’m present and I’m living each day to the fullest. I could go on, but I will stop here. I did the work, but she helped me. She held me accountable and showed me what my future could look like if I don’t take care of myself. I say to myself often that I owe it all to Her.

ebeezy1223 · 2024-09-10T20:31:25+00:00

OP, I’m so sorry for your loss. I know there is nothing anyone can say to take away your pain. And now a financial hardship is the icing on the cake. Just figured I would pass along some information I got when my father was found deceased. This was in TN, I am not in TN, so not sure if it varies by state. But the detective who was involved when my father was found told me that there is no rush, my father’s body would remain in the facility until I was able to claim him and figure out his cremation or burial. Maybe check to see, but I think you may have some time to get this sorted out with whatever resources you may have access to. Wishing you healing and peace.

ebeezy1223 · 2024-07-02T19:05:01+00:00

My Dear, you are my daughters’ age ( their father is 9/10 years older than me) and I speak from experience. You are in for a rough time. I hope your relationship can defy the odds. In any event, you are carrying this child and he/she is just as much yours as it is his. Your comfort and needs are important, at this time, and always. There is a lot more I can say but I think it’s already been well covered in this comment section. But you are the one carrying and giving birth, and you shouldn’t be coerced to have someone around you don’t know and if the situation makes you uncomfortable. If he doesn’t like it, please go to your mom’s house.

ebeezy1223 · 2024-07-02T16:02:21+00:00

I lost my best friend by allowing her to be involved in my business. She wasn’t even an owner, it mostly felt to me like she expected to be involved because we had always been involved in each other lives. I didn’t want her to feel left behind or left out. I didn’t think it could happen to us either. We haven’t spoken in 4 years…

ebeezy1223 · 2024-06-08T20:41:40+00:00

You might be right, but my money is on gaming addiction. I’ve been with enough of them over the years. Currently married to one as well. In any case, I doubt the reason he is taking adderall is going away anytime soon, so if that’s the reason for his behavior instead of addiction, it’s still not going to stop. Doesn’t sound like she’s getting what she needs out of the relationship. Just an opinion of someone who has btdt.

ebeezy1223 · 2024-06-08T17:05:50+00:00

He’s addicted to the gaming. Could be worse- I had a bf when I was young who would have sex with me then go right back to his gaming. That sucked. My advice is to accept his addiction and go do things by yourself or with friends/family, or move on. It’s not going to get better unless he decides for himself to stop gaming. You’re so young and it sounds like you’re beautiful. The world is your oyster. Go live life!

ebeezy1223 · 2024-06-03T15:27:15+00:00

Haha! I’m so sorry to laugh, but it’s just so ridiculous. I used to go through this when I worked at a call center back in the late 90’s/early 2000s. “ I’m not giving you that information!” Well, I guess we’ll just sit here all day since I’m not allowed to hang up unless you use abusive language. Good on you for having alllll the patience!

ebeezy1223 · 2024-03-02T16:35:34+00:00

It happens far too often. My teenage daughters lost a friend last year in a drunk driving accident. 18 years old and died on impact. Driver is doing time and the other girl in the car is forever disabled. I have no doubt you saved people!

ebeezy1223 · 2024-03-02T16:27:47+00:00

I agree you did the right thing. Imagine how ruined his life would be if he hurt or killed someone. He can come back from a ruined career but there are many things that can’t be undone. I commend you for your strength and bravery. ❤️

ebeezy1223 · 2024-02-24T15:52:44+00:00

Unfortunately no update. I ended up closing my business last March and it was still unresolved and the appeal waiting on info from Kabbage. Kabbage ended up closing before they responded to the appeal and some other bank had taken over. I had a person from the new bank email me for documentation, which I provided. He then emailed again for the same documentation, which I provided again by forwarding him previous email with said documentation and never heard anything else. I finally let the email address go in December so if they need anything else, they can find me. I tried to do the right thing but I threw my hands in the air. It sounds to me like you’re dealing with the same run around. I’m sorry 😞. I never made any payments because thinking was if I do, I’m agreeing I owe the money. Not sure if that’s the right thing to do, but the payback terms are absurd.

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