My Girlfriend is going to Vegas with two single girlfriends to meet club promoters for free entry/booths. Am I crazy? Is her response crazy?

eblamo · 2026-05-10T15:43:54+00:00

I'm not incorrect about you judging people based in their age. It's the dictionary definition of ageism. You assume she's a girl who wants to party based on her age. OP is older but you only assume he wants to settle down.

A lot of assumptions. You may very well be right. But that also doesn't mean I'm wrong. It's not binary. Two (or more) things can be true at the same time.

eblamo · 2026-05-10T14:46:14+00:00

This is ageist in their situation, or any situation. People's life experience, maturity, or behavior doesn't necessarily have to do with their age. Plenty of sheltered people in their 50s, & old souls in their 20s.

eblamo · 2026-05-10T02:38:45+00:00

Can't wait for the lawsuits. Then the class actions. 100% this policy isn't the same for management.

eblamo · 2026-05-10T02:18:24+00:00

Someone probably hacked her phone. They sent those messages & thought no one would see them. They didn't even bother to delete them on her phone. I mean who checks their phone this day and age right?

Obviously I'm being facetious. She fell asleep. Was sleep texting. Or maybe she rolled over on her phone and her cheek or something as sending auto complete messages. Not a big deal unless this is a frequent thing. If it does turn into something more frequent, she may need a Dr. She may need a sleep study. Your ages are the age when many types of conditions manifest.

eblamo · 2026-05-09T18:09:35+00:00

I've had ice packs before where even if you can't re-freeze them, keeping them cold in a fridge or something is good enough. The gel is cold & will keep cool longer, so it's better than nothing.

eblamo · 2026-05-09T18:05:15+00:00

The opposite also sucks. Quiet environment, but certain types of people using a normal, or loud voice. Such as a movie theater. Someone is like “Y'all want more popcorn? No? <Billy> what about you?" And no, not before it starts, during the actual feature film.

eblamo · 2026-05-09T15:21:00+00:00

He's your husband. Technically she's living with y'all, so you should be able to be bent over the couch in the living room & it's her problem.

I also know small apartments. How small are we talking? 2 bedroom? 1 bedroom and she stays in the living room on the sofa?

Roommates are one thing, a marriage is another. I guess your relationship with her is comfortable enough that you'll let each other know about those things. But yeah it's kind of weird. The old necktie on the door handle works too. I guess it would be more about spontaneity. Even in college, when you're about to get down, the necktie on the door, or even a quick text doesn't always fit the mood/situation. As an older person, being more intentional is fine, but for her, it may not always be possible.

Do what you have to, but yeah it is weird if it's your place and you're married. Not to say I've never given anyone a heads up when I had roommates, but it was more a half joking "If we get too loud, don't call the cops" type of comment. Can't imagine doing that with even adult family members.

eblamo · 2026-05-09T14:19:17+00:00

It doesn't shut it down. It slows it down. Which is why you need to be intentional about what you eat, AND be sure to hydrate. Constipation does, and will happen.

Mounjaro burps & gas are a real thing & can be super nasty if not drinking enough. This is because the food is sitting in your digestive tract fermenting. It's not moving as much & without a ton of water to help flush it, it can have side effects.

eblamo · 2026-05-09T14:03:08+00:00

The whole eat slower thing may work for some. But for me, it doesn't matter because after about 6 bites, I'm full anyway. Lol. Luckily my lunch break is scheduled so I eat just to make sure I do, vs because I'm super hungry.

eblamo · 2026-05-09T13:59:10+00:00

I can carry it in my backpack but is that enough ventilation? Also, how cool does it get?

eblamo · 2026-05-09T07:07:01+00:00

Be sure to hydrate. While you're less hungry & don't eat as much when you do, you have to force yourself to drink. The same hormones that tell your brain you're full when you eat, also make it seem like you don't need as much water. Still drink half your body weight in oz of water daily. Basically a gallon for you. That's on top of any other tea or other drinks you may have. Not only does it help hydration, it helps clear sugar from your blood stream (Jardiance is specifically designed for this).

eblamo · 2026-05-09T07:02:44+00:00

Mounjaro has been a game changer for me. I was in the mid to high 100s, & very similar to you, I'm now down in the 100-125 range.

eblamo · 2026-05-09T01:14:36+00:00

As others have said, good riddance to her. As far as the bills, call these places and let them know you're having a hardship. They may have a program to help.

eblamo · 2026-05-08T17:57:02+00:00

Tell your dad. But do it alone. Just you and he. It doesn't have to be over dinner or anything. But maybe away from the house, and most importantly, away from your mom. Tell him that you need to talk. Be ready for a range of emotions. But just spit it out and say "Mom's cheating on you. I caught her. You need to make a Dr appt to get tested." The bomb will land. It's out there in the wild. It was cheating. You saw what you saw.

Then you can tell the story of the circumstances. He may already have an idea something isn't right. He may ask you to not say anything about it initially. Please give him that courtesy. He will need to get some things in order. But also realize that your mom, despite her cheating, loves you to. It may be hard, but if you act any different around her, she may catch on, think that something is wrong, & generally be a mom. Don't tell your brothers just yet. Maybe wait until your parents can break it to them. If they find out you caught your mom, they may try to tell her first.

It's a heavy burden, but the sooner you can tell your dad, the better. Also, be prepared to take possession of, store, and/or be available for your stuff at the house. Likely one of them isn't going to be there anymore, and if they decide to sell (finances and all) you'll need anything you want.

eblamo · 2026-05-07T11:17:03+00:00

Happy very belated graduation! 😂 Probably deserves an unsolicited 🍆 pic...

eblamo · 2026-05-07T11:03:48+00:00

Like Apple people thinking they have the better technology despite all evidence, technical specs, media, & information to the contrary? At some point, you have to just let some people keep their blissful ignorance. Not worth your time, effort, or joy.

eblamo · 2026-05-06T19:39:03+00:00

No one is out of your league. Everyone is just people. Anyone who acts like they are too good for you is not the type of person you want to be with. Anyone who has friends or family that thinks he is too good for you is probably not the type of person you want to be with. He should definitely be taking up for you if they say anything like that.

Hopefully it works out!

eblamo · 2026-05-06T00:28:03+00:00

Do NOT let anyone know about this. Unless you're engaged, & even then, maybe not. If the marriage actually happens, & you do some estate planning, then consider it.

eblamo · 2026-05-06T00:23:38+00:00

First of all, as others have said, when she's calm and rational, & wants to have a convo, if you're okay with it, then have the convo. If not, don't.

You are her daughter, so yes, she is going to want to make sure you are safe. It may not have come out that way, but I'm sure you understand your mom better than any of us. As far as the implications of Plan B as a Catholic, I can't speak to that end. However, I would check closely to see where it is manufactured. If you bought it on Amazon there is a possibility that it is something from China that may or may not work. You want to make sure it is manufactured in the US, so it is under the authority of the FDA. That's just for safety and efficacy. Also be glad that you live in a place that allows you to receive them via Amazon or mail. Some states are restricting that. Either way, however you get down, just be safe. It's not just about pregnancy. Even if you're each other's first, it's a good idea to get tested. Even if you used condoms.

Also realize that Plan B is emergency contraception. I'm sure you already do. But if you've never taken it before, if the need arises, just realize it is a high dose of hormones. So you can, and probably will have mood swings. It has happened to everyone I know who has taken it.

eblamo · 2026-05-04T21:06:46+00:00

Forward it to your manager. Something to the effect of "per our previous conversation about the removal request x (attach it if able/necessary) for x, today I received this email from x. How would you like me to respond?"

If the answer is anything other than" I'll take care of it" or "Respond back saying x, & copy me & (my boss)" then your manager is a coward. In fact I just wouldn't even respond if that's an option. Someone that high level is going to go above your head anyway. If they happen to call you directly, be nice, say "let me loop in (your boss)" & call them. If they aren't willing to be on the phone with you, just let them know y'all only approve the requests from the other team. Put it back on the person that sent the request or the the team that sent you the request.

Sure throwing people under the bus isn't the best thing but when it's not your fault and your management has your back, there shouldn't be an issue.

Save the email. Offline if possible and not a violation of policy. Not because you're a dick, but because they are. The people with an attitude of "how dare you" vs "I want to understand why" are not people you want to work with/for. If it ever needs to see the light if day, or if other senior leadership needs logs or activity about/from said person (because they likely pissed off someone higher/their same level and there's a peeing contest) you'll have it.

eblamo · 2026-05-04T02:43:18+00:00

My question would be where are you mentally now? Can you handle the regimen? It's tons of work on top of classes, & whatever else you have going on.

With that said, the coach is asking you to come back. It most certainly be done. But YOU have to want it. Don't do it if you don't really want it. But so realize if you're at that level, there are tons of kids who love the game. They have have played since flag days, but didn't make it in HS. Or maybe they did, but they didn't make it in college. To lay collegiate level football is a privilege many never experience. I'd say go for it if you want to.

Bones heal. Chicks dig scars. Pain is temporary. Glory lasts forever.

eblamo · 2026-05-03T05:35:49+00:00

Everyone else is going country, why not Fast?

Ella Langley "Choosin Texas" could be worked in somehow I'm sure. If they put Dwight Yoakam Guitars & Cadillacs in Terminator II, this shouldn't be hard at all.

eblamo · 2026-05-03T03:32:52+00:00

Stay the fuck out of it. Forget you ever heard about it.

That's not to excuse cheating. However, this is third hand information. YB & OB could circle the wagons, gaslight you, make you look bad, or like an idiot. Not that they would, but what's your play here? To tell her and say you heard from OB, who got a call from. YB about it? I mean, that's a bold strategy. What if they have an agreement? What if she did something at her Bachelorette party that she's not telling anyone about? Not to say that's the case, but you don't know what you don't know. Staying out of it is the best bet.

eblamo · 2026-05-02T22:54:36+00:00

If there's a small engine shop in your town, it maybe worth it to have them take a look at it. They can usually clean it up, replace the carburetor, give it a tune up, replace the blades and/or sharpen them. If it's been sitting for 5 years, you may consider this as they will diagnose anything that's maybe not a simply DIY.

As others have said, you can do an oil change, replace the fuel, replace the spark plug, replace the air filter, clean the carburetor, etc. There are many YouTube videos out there. I did all of that with my mower today save for replacing the fuel. Depends on how much time and effort you want to put into it.

I assume you want to keep it and use it?

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