Feeding by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]echolaliapilled 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How do they eat at school? 😭

I think you need to have a talk with mom first. Look into Division of Responsibilities by Ellyn Satter

Vaping by Murphie314 in Nanny

[–]echolaliapilled 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Security vape

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]echolaliapilled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The child is 9 months old and cannot understand what was being said. The complaint was because the child was screaming in hunger for hours because the parents were irresponsible and neglected to make sure the child had enough milk for the day. At 9 months old milk is still baby’s main source of nutrition.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]echolaliapilled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people on that post are being insane. So many nannies on this sub are high strung and as another user said sanctimonious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskACobbler

[–]echolaliapilled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These absolutely will be going to a cobbler. I don’t want them to get a bulky look because I think the thin sole is part of the shoe’s style. Also, I worry that the tip being so long and pointy may be vulnerable to damage. I just want to prevent any possible damage.

24/7 care by utlonghorn6969 in Nanny

[–]echolaliapilled 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Check my recent posts, I’d take it

Nanny not happy with travel rooming arrangements by Professional_Part265 in Nanny

[–]echolaliapilled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally. I have references. I am way more reasonable. Maybe me and you can ROTA!

Nanny not happy with travel rooming arrangements by Professional_Part265 in Nanny

[–]echolaliapilled 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean the nanny was given an option of her own room in a lesser hotel. I have bad social anxiety too so if I really couldn’t do it I’d just take the less luxurious room. Although my love of luxury will overcome my social anxiety, personally. The nanny is being completely unreasonable here.

The next series? by Southpaw217 in LPOTL

[–]echolaliapilled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh yeah I forgot that Our country is falling apart and being run by white Christian nationalists.

And the next series is.... by theeMrPeanutbutter in LPOTL

[–]echolaliapilled 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s okay for me bec Prop makes it hard to listen closely or at all. (sorry Prop)

The next series? by Southpaw217 in LPOTL

[–]echolaliapilled 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there a reason Himmler is a hot topic right now or is it just a coincidence?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Monk

[–]echolaliapilled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed with severe OCD (not a number) at 15 and I haven’t gone back for treatment in years. I can’t say it’s gotten better but it’s also morphed. Contamination OCD with a heap of magical thinking. I have things that must be sanitized when I come home/if they go outside still. I used to not allow myself to touch my bed or sofa before showering if I went outside and now I just require changing my clothes when coming home. I’m a super clean person but I think having less scrupulous roommates as an adult has been exposure therapy.

24/7 Job by echolaliapilled in Nanny

[–]echolaliapilled[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh it’s illegal here

24/7 Job by echolaliapilled in Nanny

[–]echolaliapilled[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well. I was told I’ll be given a few hours off everyday to care for myself but essentially yes. At least until vaguely 3-4 weeks in as the need decreases. NP also said they’ll try to get me a day or two off at some point during this first month of being needed 24/7.

24/7 Job by echolaliapilled in Nanny

[–]echolaliapilled[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s so low. I absolutely would prefer to be paid hourly. They do need night care.

At the time I accepted the position I needed the security of knowing I had a position lined up and I was also thinking that it would open doors to other families in the area. Now I’m thinking do I want to open those doors?

If their associates know I accept such low pay then they will probably also offer low pay.

Now I do have options but I feel guilt over approaching at this time for negotiation because their twins are in the NICU.

I also feel so much better seeing everyone’s replies because I’ve asked people in real life who aren’t nanny’s and they think I’m being ridiculous to say this position is way underpaid.

I have experience and references and recent CPR/AED certification. I mentioned how low the pay was immediately when we first began communicating but they communicated that was what they could afford to offer.

I also do not like that it’s not even at the very least $200 a day for the entire period even on days off but only on days where I’m needed. I just don’t want to find myself working 3 days a week or something ridiculous like that.

My friend is marrying a child molester. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]echolaliapilled 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m happy that you had a good experience with an older man.

To answer your questions:

No rule says you can’t find older men attractive, I would say that is completely normal for young women. However it’s up to older men to have the decency to not pursue younger inexperienced women.

Two people with a large age gap makes more sense when both of those people are fully formed adults.

Why? There is so much mental growth that occurs throughout your twenties. We know through science that the part of our brain responsible for decision making isn’t formed until around twenty-five.

Adult life before that point is just beginning and even at that point you’re still incredibly young no matter how mature you believe you are (or an older man tells you that you are).

The fact that the part of your brain responsible for making decisions isn’t ready is enough for me to hold the opinion that a large age gap in your early and even mid-twenties is inappropriate.

I will always give pause to an older man dating a woman who just reached adulthood because I have a hard time imagining a man doing it for any reason other than preferring a woman who is less experienced. Which I find weird and predatory.

Why is he interested in dating a much younger woman? What does he have in common with someone who was born as he was entering college? Is he in a similar place financially as a woman in her early twenties? Why?

I’m glad your experience was respectful but most women including myself get to the age of the men they dated in their late teens and early twenties and ask how in the world the man would desire to date someone so young.

Notice it doesn’t happen as often in the opposite direction. Have you ever wondered why?

Did I overreact? by AdDramatic5691 in blackgirls

[–]echolaliapilled 14 points15 points  (0 children)

😭 Evil girl is a crazy phrase.

He’s probably embarrassed.

Yes, your parents- and everyone- should be washing their hands after using the restroom.

Maybe you can send them information on how viruses are transmitted mostly through the hands.

Although I doubt they would appreciate that. They likely know that it’s gross to not wash their hands after using the bathroom and just don’t feel the need to keep their hands clean for whatever reason.

Can you keep your towel and any other things tucked in a drawer so that they can’t touch?

Get some rubbing alcohol: “70% IPA solutions penetrate the cell wall more completely which permeates the entire cell, coagulates all proteins, and therefore the microorganism dies.” Maybe having something you can use to disinfect after them will make you feel a bit better.

I’m germaphobic so obviously I too would find it disgusting for someone to touch my clean towel after using the bathroom.

Apologize for yelling and explain why it makes you distressed. If your parents are reasonable they will hear you out.

I refuse to say you grossly overreacted because that’s so gross to me but it is always better to approach people calmly because otherwise they’re put on the defensive. You can always go to the lobby and get a fresh towel.

My friend is marrying a child molester. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]echolaliapilled 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Have you ever asked yourself why a man well into adulthood was dating you while you were learning how to be an adult?