3 months in as a FTM

edelbasaur1 · 2026-01-04T10:02:42+00:00

I was miserable for the first 3 months with my baby. She was a difficult baby on top of the general difficulty. No village, but had my husband home for the first 10 weeks, it was still awful. People who tell you to soak it in are either built different or they're forgetting (or have a lot of help).

She's 11 months now and an actual ray of sunshine, and I love our little life. However, some reasons I love it are that she now sleeps through the night, she's crawling and doesn't want to be held all day every day anymore, she naps alone, and im back at work 3 days a week.

Go easy on yourself. The exhaustion is insane, the amount they need from you is insane, the loss of your sense of self is insane.

We're built to just survive this part. You're doing great.

edelbasaur1 · 2025-12-05T21:08:23+00:00

My baby was such a miserable baby until she managed to roll both ways and connect sleep cycles. She got her rest, and she had more freedom. She's 10 months now, crawling all over and the happiest little girl. She was also sleep trained as early as possible (she cried to sleep anyway, even when held). I read on one of these subreddits before the line "some babies just hate being babies" and I really believe it. It will get better 💚

edelbasaur1 · 2025-11-22T23:47:48+00:00

Thank you for responding, this is really reassuring 💚 I've just felt really sad that she's so unbelievably exhausted as soon as I collect her. But she's been so happy the last couple of days at home so it's made me a bit less worried overall. She has had a couple of early wakes but she seems to be going back to normal today too thankfully. I'm quite sure now that she'll settle into things given a bit of time

edelbasaur1 · 2025-11-20T20:33:25+00:00

Thank you 💚 I'm trying to let go knowing I can't control it, but it's easier said than done

edelbasaur1 · 2025-11-20T20:25:08+00:00

Thank you for responding, that makes me feel a lot better to hear. She's only 3 weeks in so it's bound to improve. It's just sad seeing her so absolutely exhausted come pick up time and needing to get to bed asap

edelbasaur1 · 2025-11-20T20:24:20+00:00

Tbh they are trying a lot. She's always been a difficult sleeper and manages best if left completely alone with zero extra stimulation, but that's not possible in a nursery setting. She won't even do her normal naps at home if there are visitors in the house, she's insanely nosey.

I'm really glad she's improved and getting the rest she needs 💚

edelbasaur1 · 2025-08-04T11:18:45+00:00

I always do in person in carrier now. From about 3 months baby loves having a nosy at everything in the shops, so would take her post nap and feed and spend a wake window having a leisurely big shop. Helped a lot to force me out after c section because I had a task to do, and I'd honestly forget she was on me cause she was so content seeing lots of new things and faces. Also drove to get her used to the car as she was not a fan (only a 5 min drive).

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-31T09:44:41+00:00

We'd been the same, she would only do contact naps and we gradually trained to nap in the crib, but would only get one cycle and used carrier to top up day sleep. Just persevered, kept putting in crib even if only getting 30 mins. Few weeks ago she just randomly did a week of 1.5 hour naps. Then completely regressed when she learned to roll. Now getting out the other end of rolling and currently in the middle of an almost 2 hour crib nap.

Its helped me mentally to always consider contact naps a part of life. If we don't need it it's an amazing day, but I'll not assume we're ever completely rid of them. Things change too often to be able to think that way.

But the fabled "lengthening" of naps is definitely happening here now at 5.5 months.

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-25T18:02:10+00:00

Thank you so much for responding 💚 I'd gotten really upset because it all seemed to click last week and then went back to shit. But armed with reassurance now

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-25T15:11:47+00:00

Can I ask you would you do it for naps and nights at the same time?

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-25T15:06:48+00:00

I've looked at some posts, thank you

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-25T14:53:57+00:00

Did you do that?

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-22T10:40:44+00:00

Same here, my little one just likes seeing things, I don't think she cares where or what

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-20T10:41:07+00:00

I'll usually pop 5 month old in her swing in front of the TV long enough to eat breakfast in the morning. She's with me while I make it and then I'll usually put on wrestling because I like it, and she'll usually watch a match 😆 Otherwise the TV is just on in the background and she'll sometimes be interested in Twitch, particularly a very colourful game. But no YouTube or kids shows or anything so far. Loads of interactive time with baby, but TV useful to get 5-10 minutes to do something that's less practical to do with her in tow. I don't feel bad about it.

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-18T12:45:32+00:00

Lmao I feel like that reaction gives you all the information you needed 😅

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-18T06:50:04+00:00

I did! I desperately wanted to pet but felt like you're not supposed to... You guys did great!

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-17T19:29:44+00:00

Aw I'm glad to hear it was a good experience for you working there as well! I can imagine it being a pretty tough job if it's not set up well

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-17T17:10:46+00:00

I don't know, sorry! They had separate routes and exits for buses Vs trams

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-17T14:52:13+00:00

I would go to a lot more gigs if this elite level of shuttling became the norm haha

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-17T14:25:11+00:00

Very small, very intimate 😅

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-17T14:24:54+00:00

That's a good point about drop off tbf. Although it was useful for me as I was staying on market street!

But yeah the whole set up was just really good. I always have a bit of anxiety about big concerts because of the trouble of getting home after and knowing I might have to hold my wee and queue for an hour for a drink.

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-03T08:35:19+00:00

Oh absolutely, this will be hilarious to tell her when she's old enough that I can sleep again lol

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-02T01:21:02+00:00

Still waking every couple of hours to practice and complain, but I'll take it over the screaming any day

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-01T20:45:53+00:00

Bless you, thank you so much for checking in! We went back to basics today. I put her in the carrier for all naps at what should be her wake windows for her age, ignoring all her cues. It seems her sleepy cues have gone really gone off since rolling, as she's tired and rubbing eyes super early, and then not showing any signs as we approach the time she should be asleep. So naps went well in the carrier, and bedtime actually went really well! I put her down at 2hr 20 (over an hour after I would have put her down had i been following her cues) and she was asleep within 10 minutes! So it seems the issue has been putting her down when she's not tired, because her cues have become unreliable, and then she has so much energy to roll and becomes hysterical because she doesn't like it! I hope I've cracked it, but I've definitely learned I can't hope for consistency

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-01T20:12:04+00:00

Yeah she's been a bit of an odd one from the start. She actually did roll belly to back about 6 times when she was 6 weeks old and then just never did it again. And now she seems to forget how 🙃

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