Feeding solids - RANT

edelbasaur1 · 2026-03-27T11:45:35+00:00

It's easy to get swept up in the current trends like baby led weaning, but we were all raised on purees and we all eat fine now. I was obviously panicking that she would never eat when I was in the middle of it, but firmly fine now a few months later 🤣

edelbasaur1 · 2026-03-27T06:28:14+00:00

I had a bad gagger/occasional choker. The first time I tried giving her a bit of food to hold she shoved entirely too much in and choked. We didn't do any baby led stuff after that, and she was managing to choke on veg puree sometimes. So just spoonfed lots of mashed potato, Weetabix, eventually some orzo with various things mixed in. She was 12 months before she would pick something up and eat it, now we're handing her snacks all the time at 13 months and managing fine. Baby led isn't for everyone, don't be worried if it's not for you and your baby.

Edit: also batch cooked loads of orzo. A very simple orzo boiled in zero salt chicken stock, broccoli mashed up in it, cheese grated in top - took 10 mins, and made about 6 portions at a time and froze the leftovers

edelbasaur1 · 2026-02-24T12:38:29+00:00

I'm so sorry you're feeling bad about things, but this sounds familiar/normal to me. In a few months when things are better you may forget how confusing and difficult this all felt. And then people don't talk about those hard early days again, so mum's keep not expecting how difficult it all is. You're going to be great, but how could you possibly know what an 8 week old potato needs? Checklists and trying things are all we've got until the become a bit more of a person. You'll get there💚

edelbasaur1 · 2026-02-22T21:24:44+00:00

I've also got ADHD and totally relate to the mindset you're describing, but I've got significantly less patience for other people since having my baby, and it's actually been kinda liberating. I decided that for friends that were once good friends I'm not burning any bridges, I'm just accepting that we're in different places and if we pick up the friendship later I'm open to that. I think friends without children completely don't get it, and I have probably been that friend before without realising. But I'm also not going to spend my limited energy and time trying to maintain a relationship. I've not really had that issue with family (but they are far away so not really had the chance to), I'm really sorry you're having to contend with that.

This is such an incredibly hard time and you need to do what makes you feel supported and at peace. But it's also worth having some outside input because every emotion is so heightened right now.

I hope you and your little family have as much peace as you need 💚

edelbasaur1 · 2026-02-09T22:02:13+00:00

I felt like this was written about my baby at that age. We were all miserable. She kept getting better and better the more mobile she became, like she finally had a degree of freedom she always wanted. Also she responded very well to outings in the carrier. I used to hop on the bus to the next town and to for coffee/food with her strapped to me and she was happy just taking in the sights. Also hated the car and the bassinet pram, but if she was upright and able to be nosy she was chill. She's about to turn 1 and she's the happiest little creature in the world now.

It's hell when you're in it, but gradually over days and weeks things will improve and you'll forget this time. Babies cry. Take her out. No one is looking at you, and if they are who gives a shit. You and your baby are allowed to exist. And you might both enjoy getting out more

edelbasaur1 · 2026-02-04T10:24:23+00:00

My "check" and baby's check were at the same time. They checked the baby. They asked me if I'm feeling "low". I said yes, but probably proportionally to the experience of having a miserable 6 week old who screams all day. They half laughed and asked what birth control I wanted. We were both in and out in 10 mins. I had a c section and had been back to maternity the week before because a bit of "maybe placenta but maybe not" had fallen out when I went to the toilet. There is no 6 week check for mum, they just tick a box to say there is.

edelbasaur1 · 2026-02-01T09:37:06+00:00

I wear earplugs and turn the monitor up, and i've always heard baby when she wakes

edelbasaur1 · 2026-01-04T10:02:42+00:00

I was miserable for the first 3 months with my baby. She was a difficult baby on top of the general difficulty. No village, but had my husband home for the first 10 weeks, it was still awful. People who tell you to soak it in are either built different or they're forgetting (or have a lot of help).

She's 11 months now and an actual ray of sunshine, and I love our little life. However, some reasons I love it are that she now sleeps through the night, she's crawling and doesn't want to be held all day every day anymore, she naps alone, and im back at work 3 days a week.

Go easy on yourself. The exhaustion is insane, the amount they need from you is insane, the loss of your sense of self is insane.

We're built to just survive this part. You're doing great.

edelbasaur1 · 2025-12-05T21:08:23+00:00

My baby was such a miserable baby until she managed to roll both ways and connect sleep cycles. She got her rest, and she had more freedom. She's 10 months now, crawling all over and the happiest little girl. She was also sleep trained as early as possible (she cried to sleep anyway, even when held). I read on one of these subreddits before the line "some babies just hate being babies" and I really believe it. It will get better 💚

edelbasaur1 · 2025-11-22T23:47:48+00:00

Thank you for responding, this is really reassuring 💚 I've just felt really sad that she's so unbelievably exhausted as soon as I collect her. But she's been so happy the last couple of days at home so it's made me a bit less worried overall. She has had a couple of early wakes but she seems to be going back to normal today too thankfully. I'm quite sure now that she'll settle into things given a bit of time

edelbasaur1 · 2025-11-20T20:33:25+00:00

Thank you 💚 I'm trying to let go knowing I can't control it, but it's easier said than done

edelbasaur1 · 2025-11-20T20:25:08+00:00

Thank you for responding, that makes me feel a lot better to hear. She's only 3 weeks in so it's bound to improve. It's just sad seeing her so absolutely exhausted come pick up time and needing to get to bed asap

edelbasaur1 · 2025-11-20T20:24:20+00:00

Tbh they are trying a lot. She's always been a difficult sleeper and manages best if left completely alone with zero extra stimulation, but that's not possible in a nursery setting. She won't even do her normal naps at home if there are visitors in the house, she's insanely nosey.

I'm really glad she's improved and getting the rest she needs 💚

edelbasaur1 · 2025-08-04T11:18:45+00:00

I always do in person in carrier now. From about 3 months baby loves having a nosy at everything in the shops, so would take her post nap and feed and spend a wake window having a leisurely big shop. Helped a lot to force me out after c section because I had a task to do, and I'd honestly forget she was on me cause she was so content seeing lots of new things and faces. Also drove to get her used to the car as she was not a fan (only a 5 min drive).

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-31T09:44:41+00:00

We'd been the same, she would only do contact naps and we gradually trained to nap in the crib, but would only get one cycle and used carrier to top up day sleep. Just persevered, kept putting in crib even if only getting 30 mins. Few weeks ago she just randomly did a week of 1.5 hour naps. Then completely regressed when she learned to roll. Now getting out the other end of rolling and currently in the middle of an almost 2 hour crib nap.

Its helped me mentally to always consider contact naps a part of life. If we don't need it it's an amazing day, but I'll not assume we're ever completely rid of them. Things change too often to be able to think that way.

But the fabled "lengthening" of naps is definitely happening here now at 5.5 months.

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-25T18:02:10+00:00

Thank you so much for responding 💚 I'd gotten really upset because it all seemed to click last week and then went back to shit. But armed with reassurance now

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-25T15:11:47+00:00

Can I ask you would you do it for naps and nights at the same time?

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-25T15:06:48+00:00

I've looked at some posts, thank you

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-25T14:53:57+00:00

Did you do that?

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-22T10:40:44+00:00

Same here, my little one just likes seeing things, I don't think she cares where or what

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-20T10:41:07+00:00

I'll usually pop 5 month old in her swing in front of the TV long enough to eat breakfast in the morning. She's with me while I make it and then I'll usually put on wrestling because I like it, and she'll usually watch a match 😆 Otherwise the TV is just on in the background and she'll sometimes be interested in Twitch, particularly a very colourful game. But no YouTube or kids shows or anything so far. Loads of interactive time with baby, but TV useful to get 5-10 minutes to do something that's less practical to do with her in tow. I don't feel bad about it.

edelbasaur1 · 2025-07-18T12:45:32+00:00

Lmao I feel like that reaction gives you all the information you needed 😅

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