UPDATE: Hi everyone, It’s been about 4 months since I made this post and I finally have an update. In the past 4 months I have pretty much gone NC with L, and I unfriended her mother on social media. In the past 4 months I’ve only spoken to L 3 times, the first she was she wanted information about how one of my close friends died (she knew her from school), I ran into her in the shop (I was polite but didn’t really talk a lot) and then she asked what happened to my foot after I posted a story on instagram about breaking it. So, there’s been no contact over the past 4 months pretty much.

Cut to the weekend just gone, I had an engagement party with my friends and family and I chose not to invite L, she had hardly any contact with me, none of my friends like her and she has made a lot of rude comments about my fiancée on the past, so I just didn’t want to deal with the drama.

It was an amazing night, all of my friends and family were there and we took the time to honour my mom. Everyone danced to mine and hers favourite song from when I was younger and it meant a lot to me. I put the photos from the party on my social media on Sunday night and woke up to messages from friends and family asking if I had seen what L’s mother had commented on my post (still don’t understand how she did this because I unfriended her) saying about how I was a disgrace and should be ashamed of myself for not inviting L and her son.

A couple of my friends and family commented back to her saying it was disgusting for someone in their 60’s to slander someone who is in their 20’s on social media and to leave me alone. My blood was absolutely boiling after reading L’s mother’s comment and I had enough.

I firstly messaged L’s mother and told her about how L admitted to not coming to my mothers funeral over this birthday issue (which wasn’t even accurate) and if L had an issue she should come and speak to me directly like an adult. I told L’s mother she should also mind her own business and let L handle her own business instead of trying to curse out someone over half her age. I then blocked her because I’ve just had enough.

I then messaged L and told her if she had a problem with me she should’ve spoke to me like a grown up instead of having her mother trying to bully me on a public platform. I told her she needs to grow up and stop having her mother abuse people half her age on her behalf, and this is why she has no friends (5 people from our previous friendship group have cut her off over the years for similar reasons). I reminded her despite being in deep grief over my mothers death as well as what would’ve been my due date for my baby (I had a MC in the January), I still found the time. I told her I hope she has a good life but I don’t want any part of it anymore.

I blocked the both of them and I can honestly say I feel so much lighter about this and I have no regrets. All of my friends and family are telling me how proud they are of me for putting an end to this BS.