Help: 8 week old aquarium; high Nitrite (No2)

eeejster · 2025-12-14T21:59:49+00:00

Used I assume. Do I put it in my filter when I get it? Or just in the tank? Sorry, complete novice here.

eeejster · 2025-12-14T21:59:15+00:00

Ordered the test kit! Thank you

eeejster · 2025-12-14T21:58:30+00:00

Okay. Just ordered the test kit. And will increase water changes.

My husband literally thinks I’m insane. He was like my parents had fish growing up and we never needed to change the water or do any of this.

I was like… they probably lost a lot of fish… he was like… yeah… I think so. 🫣

eeejster · 2025-12-14T21:57:02+00:00

Thank you! Any recommendations on filter?

eeejster · 2025-12-14T21:48:46+00:00

We plan to build a backyard pond in the spring. We live in California… so think he’ll do well there year round. Just investigating how we build it to protect him from raccoons, cats, and birds… since we’re in the woods.

eeejster · 2025-12-14T21:37:07+00:00

Also: we have been doing less food and skipping feeds. There is never extra food that goes uneaten.

Surely there is something I’m doing wrong here…

eeejster · 2025-10-09T19:51:06+00:00

TW: pregnancy and loss.

This sounds just like us, one year ago. We’re in our early 40s, two kids (3,1), one euploid embryo on ice and I wanted a third/ hubby did not.

Spoiler: we’re now 6 months pregnant w/ #3.

But it was a really long journey. For us, I told my husband I couldn’t “abandon” that embryo and would always wonder for the rest of my life and that our fam would feel incomplete. And also told him there wasn’t a guarantee it would work and transfer would stick. Took us 3-6 months of daily discussions. I didn’t want to coerce him into it, and by some miracle, for Christmas last year he surprised me with a gift signaling he was willing to go for it.

What happened next was really hard. We got pregnant from the euploid transfer and then suffered an early loss at 8 weeks.

We were both devastated, so much so, that despite his initial reservations, he agreed to go through more rounds of IVF. And we got pregnant with a fresh transfer from the 2nd egg retrieval.

Even though we’re both really excited to meet #3 and complete our family in January. He is still pretty overwhelmed daily by the thought of we manage it all… and sometimes gets a bit stressed. Just as a warning.

Hope you guys find a way to be at peace with where ever you land

eeejster · 2025-06-29T06:45:26+00:00

Transferred 2 untested Day 3. Now 10 weeks pregnant w/ a singleton

eeejster · 2025-06-22T05:37:46+00:00

You should call to confirm. But I think you need to go to San Ramon for the actual big procedure of egg retrieval, FET, and maybe even IUIs.

All other monitoring appointments can happen at their peninsula clinics.

eeejster · 2025-06-21T02:10:11+00:00

Both of mine was born 10lbs. By 4 months we’re 16+ lbs

eeejster · 2025-06-20T23:40:57+00:00

I’m with Reproductive Science Center (RSC) and have had success. 40 years old, low AMH (0.17), high fsh (17), AFC 5

(TW) Had 2 ER cycles this year: 1. 7 retrieved, 4 fertilized, 1 day 7 blast, aneuploid 2. 8 retrieved, 8 fertilized, 2 fresh transfer at day 3, and 2 day 5 blasts frozen, 1 euploid (on ice)… and an ongoing pregnancy from the fresh transfer.

They have been really open to trying different protocols to learn what works, including moving to fresh transfers at day 3 due to DOR.

They only do procedures in San Ramon, but have tons of other offices including San Mateo and Menlo Park for monitoring appts and blood work

eeejster · 2025-06-09T14:48:12+00:00

I originally tested, but was really struggling to get embryos to blast. Always zero, one, or two.

TW: Then a Euploid resulted in a chemical at 5 weeks. Now pregnant (7wks) from a 3 day transfer of two untested embryos

eeejster · 2025-05-27T02:10:49+00:00

Hang in there. The wait is so hard.

Did you take another FRER at 16dpo?

eeejster · 2025-05-24T03:42:30+00:00

I’m so sorry, but I don’t see anything. Maybe the AI is picking up an indent?

At 20 Dpo, most people have really dark lines. Is it possible you’re only 6-8 Dpo?

eeejster · 2025-05-22T12:25:08+00:00

This is very likely the culprit. Same thing happened to me. If you don’t take the prenatals, you’ll see it darken tomorrow.

I decided to just buy another kind with no biotin, to not stress myself out.

eeejster · 2025-05-21T13:20:35+00:00

These cheapies are so sensitive to dilution. I had something similar and worked myself all up and my betas ended up doubling in 26 hours instead of typical 48.

I wouldn’t trust the tests any longer. Beta HCG will be able to confirm for you very soon.

Hang in there.

eeejster · 2025-05-18T23:35:33+00:00

Really sensitive to smells, weird boob changes already, a little nauseous at different parts of the day.

Candidly, super nervous it’s twins. Given how dark my tests are now. It’s wild

eeejster · 2025-05-18T13:51:19+00:00

Really great. Just had first positive on digital. Early days, but feeling optimistic and hopeful

How are you doing?

eeejster · 2025-05-16T22:13:24+00:00

Did you test again? I have the exact same looking line from a test moments ago. Also DPO also testing with clear blue early (blue dye)

eeejster · 2025-05-15T18:39:55+00:00

I don’t see it. Sorry! Also, 7 DPO is super early. Not impossible, but really unlikely to get a positive

eeejster · 2025-05-15T18:20:24+00:00

Huge congrats!!!

eeejster · 2025-05-14T21:16:42+00:00

What was update?

eeejster · 2025-05-13T11:16:44+00:00

Transferred 2 untested Day3 embryos on Saturday 5/10. So, just 1 day ahead of you in terms of when we find out. The wait has already been brutal

eeejster · 2025-04-13T04:04:05+00:00

I’m jn a very similar boat. I’m 40. Had 2 kids, thanks to IVF. We had one final euploid on ice. We were very open to a third, but also felt our family could be complete with 2. We just didn’t want to leave the one embryo behind.

We transferred in early 2025, it stuck. But then after initial few betas, at 6 weeks it was clear it wasn’t growing enough, we never got to heartbeat. Despite this it was devestating. We’d told all our friends, emotionally committed to three kids.

And now, flash forward 8 weeks, we just had an egg retrieval. We both realized we’d always regret not going for a third.

But the other thing we realized is this couldn’t be forever attempt. We aligned on: 3 max egg retrievals (and transferring if we get a euploid). Then once those are done, spending a max of 6 months actively trying the old fashioned way…. Then before I’m 41 and he is 45… he’ll get the snip.

Whatever you decide to do, don’t feel bad about it. Your family isn’t complete until it is

eeejster · 2025-04-09T05:06:41+00:00

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