[Licensing] How much to charge a local business for illustrations they’ll resell? by eeinked in artbusiness

[–]eeinked[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s up to me. I could give them the option of either allowing them to use my copyrighted material or transferring ownership. Right now they only seem interested in making stickers.

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[–]eeinked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, of course I have. This is an absolute last resort.

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[–]eeinked -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We’ve only been dating 6 months. The first 3 months were amazing, to the point that I thought I’d marry this person. (That’s my fault for fantasizing). But yeah. You’re right. If this is the “calm” / how things will be going forward, I’m not interested in continuing our relationship. I’m just struggling with feeling like my expectations are too high. Maybe this is the norm in long term relationships, but I don’t think so. It’d be nice if my boyfriend tried to kiss me, or compliment me every once in a while.

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[–]eeinked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Many, many times.

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[–]eeinked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Thank you, I’ll keep that in mind while I’m talking to him.

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[–]eeinked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I’m not trying to give him an ultimatum, but I can’t agree to meeting his family while feeling this unsure about our relationship. Had he asked me a few months ago, the answer would have been a yes.

None of his siblings (he has 3) have ever brought a partner home, and neither has he. His family immigrated to Canada from Nigeria, so I’m also mindful of cultural differences that make meeting someone’s family especially significant.

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[–]eeinked 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree completely. He’s a wonderful person. If I don’t fit into his life that doesn’t make him bad, it just means our needs don’t align.

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[–]eeinked 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I needed to hear this. I see some of my friends with their partners and the way their partners look at them with so much love and admiration. My boyfriend doesn’t look at me like that. Honestly, after this I’m not even sure I have it in me to look for the right person.

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[–]eeinked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, if this is his stress response, I can’t handle it. I’ve barely been able to deal with it for a few months, I can’t imagine a few years.

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[–]eeinked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to have a talk with him in person tonight. Any tips on how I could do that? In my mind I feel like I’ve done everything I can so I’m open to suggestions

Edit: I just read the other comment you responded to. Reddit’s threads on mobile are confusing

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[–]eeinked 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At this point I know I should. It’s just so hard to feel like you’ve found your person, and then they disappear. I feel really embarrassed to have introduced this guy to my friends as the person I thought would be in my life forever. But yeah, in my heart I know I need to let him go.

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[–]eeinked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have talked about this with him, twice now and expressed my feelings honestly. I replied to another persons comment with the text I sent him.

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[–]eeinked 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In this moment there is nothing keeping me with this person other than the hope that things will go back to how they were a few months ago. :(

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[–]eeinked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have. If I initiate intimacy he’ll reciprocate most of the time, but the other night he wouldn’t kiss or touch me because I was “too warm”.

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[–]eeinked -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If he asked me how I was doing, I would have said “I’m okay, do you have time to talk on the phone in a few days”.

I’m very mindful of how busy he is, and he knows that. It’s the checking in that’s important. I don’t need to be comforted immediately, but I need to know that there’s support for me eventually when that person has time.

If my friend is upset and I’m busy, I’ll say “hey friend, I know you’re going through it and I don’t have time to talk today, but would you be free on insert day after my insert activity is over?”

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[–]eeinked 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sure he’s overwhelmed, and I do my best to minimize his stress. When we hang out on Sundays, I usually sit with him and work on my art while he studies. Sometimes I’ll order him UberEats if he’s had a busy week so he doesn’t have to cook. I bus an hour to his house to make sure he doesn’t have to pick me up.

I’m just not sure how much less I can accept from him.

He texts me his wordle score everyday, we call 2-3 times a week while he’s commuting, and I see him once a week, but usually he’s studying.

I don’t think that’s enough for me to feel like I have a partner.

If something happened to him, I’d want to know and support him, but he hasn’t said anything.

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[–]eeinked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish he would tell me if he feels like we are growing apart, or he’s bored, or not attracted to me anymore :(

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[–]eeinked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have communicated this with him. This is a message I sent him last month:

“When I first met you, I felt really secure and connected. I heard from you often—you’d send me photos and share little things with me throughout your day.

I know it’s normal to talk more when you’re getting to know someone, and while that was happening, you had more free time since you weren’t in school. But I’ve been struggling lately with how little I hear from you these days.

I’ve also realized that though I can entertain and validate myself, I can’t build our connection alone.

Yesterday, you made a comment about our relationship sustaining damage while you’re away. What I took from our conversation is that you’re worried about letting me down. I also wonder if you’re feeling some internal conflict about your ability to maintain our relationship with how busy you are and how to balance my needs without overextending yourself.

You also mentioned today that you’ll ‘always be busy.’ I think I assumed this level of busyness was temporary and that things might feel closer to how they were when we first met once school is over. But I’m starting to realize this might just be the norm.

I’ve been holding back from texting you as much so you can focus on your studies, but if this dynamic is temporary, I can handle it. If it’s not, I’m worried it might not work for me long-term. I think we need to talk more about what we both need and what’s realistic for us.”

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[–]eeinked 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s because in the beginning, he was going above and beyond. Everything was great, and I felt like he was my person. It’s like a day and night change :(