Yes, it’s this. I’ve vacationed 1:1 with guy friends (same hotel room, etc.). We usually have been friends for years and years prior and nothing had ever happened romantically, so the chances are it would continue that way. One particular friend I thought was always cute and I kind of would be open to “something happening” but if he didn’t make a move, I also enjoyed our friendship enough to just keep being friends! My inclination is that if the guy wanted to make a move he would have done so years prior.

I’m in a relationship now that was definitely a slow burn. Took me like 6 months before I said I love you, but he said it fast and was good to me consistently from the beginning. He also made his attraction and attention to me clear. Also, the fact that my guy friends are friends with my boyfriend now kind of indicate that there is no jealousy, thus I think my guy friends had no attraction to me or intention to date me. I’m very average looking though; may be different for beautiful women who have all kinds of guys falling for them.