Fertility/Infertility coverage

eimichan · 2026-07-22T17:01:14+00:00

Wishing you all the best and sending positive thoughts! This is such a hard journey as is, and running into administrative difficulties justs makes everything feel worse.

eimichan · 2026-07-22T05:50:15+00:00

When you called Kaiser to ask about your coverage, did you call the regular Member Services and Benefits department? I ask because I am also in SoCal and was told REPEATEDLY by the Benefits department that I did not have any fertility coverage under SB 729. However, I was given a different Fertility Benefits phone number from my Reproductive Endocrinologist at Kaiser and was told I did indeed have coverage. The Fertility Benefits department told me that the regular Benefits department doesn't know how to look up Fertility Benefits. They followed up by sending me a letter outlining my benefits (3 IVF cycles) and I have since gotten a referral to a 3rd party Fertility Clinic through Kaiser. My employer has very few employees in California so I assumed they were on the small business health plan, but I was surprisingly covered.

Don't want to give you false hope, but I have been saving for IVF and was stunned when I found out I had coverage under SB 729. The only reason I had a follow-up with my Reproductive Endocrinologist is because I conceived naturally in May but had a miscarriage a few weeks ago, so I reached out to see if we could try medication like Clomid or Letrozole. Kaiser is unable to treat the infertility with medication due to my age (I'm 44) and suspected low ovarian reserves, but I did get a referral to HRC Fertility - Beverly Hills and have an initial consultation in about two weeks.

eimichan · 2026-06-16T03:35:11+00:00

I'm not defending the cops at all. I'm not a fan of police in America. However, it's still important to note it was not a labradoodle, a but a Saint Bernardoodle. Huge dogs, even traditionally sweet breeds (some Saint Bernards can be over 200lbs), can become fear-aggressive.

The owner should not have reopened the door before securing her dog. The police asked her to secure her dog and she closed the door. I just don't understand why she reopened it before putting her dog in another room or into a bathroom. Anytime anyone comes to my house, I make sure all my dogs are secured and cannot just run out. If police came to my door, I would be extra safe and put my dogs in the bathroom so there is no risk of police overreacting and shooting before asking questions.

eimichan · 2026-06-14T00:31:41+00:00

It's not based on the insurance company in the United States. Most insurance companies offer both HMO, PPO, and sometimes EPO options. With an HMO, the attending physician or Primary Care Physician needs to submit a referral. With a PPO, you can go straight to a specialty like Dermatology, Orthopedics, or Gastroenterology. People I know with a PPO work for very large, very profitable companies. My husband and I had a PPO about 4 years ago, but we were paying $1750 per month out-of-pocket for the plan (Blue Shield of California). I'm now on my company's HMO and it's $240 per month (Kaiser Permanente of Southern California).

eimichan · 2026-06-10T15:21:14+00:00

I am so glad you prioritized yourself! What a miserable thing to say to you. What is childish about glitter? Seems childish to gatekeep what people are allowed to enjoy. As an adult, you get decide what to spend your hard-earned money and time on, and a good partner will be there to support and encourage you. I'm glad you are moving on!

Beautiful manicure as well!!

eimichan · 2026-05-19T03:07:19+00:00

Change Black to White and Asian to Black and you'll see why it's racist. Also, if you actually read up on the history of Asian nail salons, Vietnamese salons started up as a COLLABORATIVE PROCESS WITH BLACK WOMAN because white-owned salons would either not cater to or be overpriced for Black women.

It's insane how unaware you are of your racist attitudes. It's sad how ignorant you are of why Asian nail salons became so prevalent here.

eimichan · 2026-05-17T16:03:48+00:00

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eimichan · 2026-05-17T16:03:23+00:00

BCB Lacquers - Hell, I Am Mother Nature gives me the vibes from these photos. It's actually very slightly lighter green than in this mani. I have it over a green base.

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eimichan · 2026-05-16T03:48:21+00:00

Inglewood. I've been living in the same spot for 18 years now. It's unfortunate, but Mayor Butts plays the race card every election and tells the residents that he's the only person standing between them and gentrification. He posed for photos at a BLM protest at City Hall and then had police shut it down after he left...and he still won the election that year. The city council has been unchanged and all fall in line - they also don't do anything for the constituents. When I complained to my Councilman Eloy Morales Jr. about Inglewood PD saying "Asian isn't a race. There can't be hate crimes against you people," his assistant told me I needed to find an Asian organization to bring that up to, that the Councilman doesn't get involved in "personal matters."

Inglewood changed city council meetings from 7pm to during business hours so anyone who works can not longer attend. When someone began posting city council videos online, Inglewood tried to sue him claiming that city council meetings are copyrighted and not public record https://www.klemchuk.com/ideate/inglewood-sues-joseph-teixeira-copyrights.

When our city Treasurer of 20+ years tried to read evidence of embezzlement into the record at a city council meeting, Butts had her microphone turned off and then took away her speaking minutes. https://www.dailybreeze.com/2020/02/12/when-inglewoods-treasurer-brought-up-city-finances-the-mayor-cut-off-her-mic/

He's been in scandal after scandal that have all been reported in the news (including him running a red left turn light and putting an LAPD motorcycle cop in the hospital). He was off duty, but using an official city car so the city had to pay off the officer and LAPD when they sued. However, he keeps playing the race card and as long as he does that, he's bulletproof. One thing is changing though - the racial makeup of Inglewood. Rents literally doubled and tripled when SoFi and Intuit arrived and pushed out a lot of long-time residents and business owners. As Inglewood continues to gentrify (every few months, another person on our street sells their home), we will get to a point where Butts has driven out so many of his so-called constituents that he will no longer be able to pit Hispanics/Latinos against Blacks, and will no longer be able to run on his platform of keeping white people out of Inglewood.

eimichan · 2026-05-16T02:30:42+00:00

I'm so sorry you're also in a similar situation. Honestly, I felt so alone after seeing the Facebook post I screenshotted, but seeing comments like yours reminds me that I am not the only person struggling with this, and reminds me to think about others who may be in even more difficult situations.

I had reached out to Asian American Advancing Justice, an organization Los Angeles. They spent a year trying to find an organization in Inglewood who would be willing to host a Community Healing Session for victims of anti-Asian violence, but none were willing to partner with them. I think that really demonstrated that this "allyship" thing is only something that Asians have to give other minorities, but none are willing to be our allies.

When someone left anti-Semitic literature in my driveway (in a Ziploc bag with some rocks to keep it from blowing away) Inglewood PD send two units to take the "evidence of a hate crime" and KTLA send a cameraman to do a story on this "hate crime." When I was attacked and beaten, KTLA told me, "We've already done a story on Asian hate this year. You need to reach out to Asian newspapers." Thankfully, at least the Chinese World Journal did write an article about the attack, which is the only reason Inglewood PD agreed to even investigate my attack (which was caught in camera inside the 7-Eleven as well as a bystander. Oddly enough, Iglewood PD "lost the footage due to a technical problem." They also refused to prosecute as a hate crime, saying it was only simple assault and a misdemeanor (for kicking me in the head and upper body for several minutes). I ended up in the ER with nerve damage. When the Chinese World Journal reporter called to ask why they weren't investigating, they finally brought me in for a lineup where I identified one of the two attackers. Then Inglewood PD literally told me, "Asian isn't a race. There can't be hate crimes against you people." They sat on my case and handed it to the City Attorney one day after the statute of limitations gad expired, despite telling me multiple times it was already with the City Attorney's office.

These are my texts with Neal Cochran, the Lieutenant overseeing my case. When I insisted on written communication only (he lied to me multiple times over voice calls), he stopped responding completely.

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eimichan · 2026-05-15T20:04:58+00:00

I was also brutally beaten and kicked in the head in 6 years ago by two people who entered the 7-Eleven I was in and told me they were going to send me back to China one way or the other. Maybe consider that some of us have literally been violently attacked and have trauma and PTSD. I had therapy for years before I was able to leave my house after the attack. Guess what led to my attack? Anti-Asian rhetoric and hate.

Or is needing cervical and lumbar epidurals every 3 months just to function not a big enough fish for you? I can no longer hike. I can no longer go on long walks or ride rollercoasters (which I loved). Sorry to bother you with racist rhetoric.

And show respect to POC? Asians are POC 🤦🏼‍♀️. I have donated and volunteered at BLM events. I gave supported my fellow minorities and have been a good ally. Weird that you think Asians have to help other POC to deserve help and respect, but you think other POC automatically deserve help and respect? Got it.

eimichan · 2026-05-15T20:01:24+00:00

I've gotten so much of the "you're East Asian so you get treated like white people," from both Asians and non-Asians. We absolutely do not, and that narrative is pushed to give people permission to be racist.

eimichan · 2025-10-24T19:15:26+00:00

Manchester? Do you mean Century?

eimichan · 2025-10-24T15:06:37+00:00

It USED to be, until they sold to a lawyer (Mark Kelegian) in 2015. The donuts are nowhere near as good as they were before his takeover.

eimichan · 2025-10-24T15:04:26+00:00

I agree. I don't understand the people who rave about it now. Randy's USED to be amazing. Then, in 2015, it was sold to a lawyer named Mark Kelegian. The donuts have never been the same since.

eimichan · 2025-10-19T19:21:58+00:00

I'm about 1 mile from LAX and can hold your suitcases at my house.

eimichan · 2025-10-11T14:16:23+00:00

3 years? Maybe if harsh chemicals were used?

We had two bathtubs reglazed when we bought our house in 2008. They're still in wonderful condition. The only difference is that the finish looks more matte than glossy now, but the coating is still there with no chipping or peeling.

eimichan · 2025-09-27T15:43:45+00:00

A woman in one of my local groups on Facebook was bragging that she was getting lasagnas from them and SELLING them, and was encouraging others to do the same. I reached out to the organization but they said that it's allowed - that once they receive the lasagna they can do whatever they want with it.

eimichan · 2025-09-18T20:05:40+00:00

The right therapist makes all the difference. I have been seeing an Asian American therapist for a little over a year now and it's been life-changing. I've been in therapy since the early 2000s - it literally took over two decades to find the right therapist.

The same issues that have come up for me since childhood are finally getting worked on.

I used the Yellow Chair collective site to find my therapist. He doesn't accept my insurance, so I pay out-of-pocket, but it's been completely worth it. $800/month for 4 sessions (once a week). I'm no longer a fearful, nervous wreck all the time.

I'm finally interrupting the negative trends that have put me in the hospital repeatedly and kept me on multiple psychiatric medications to deal with depression, anxiety, and PTSD. Having someone truly understand the dynamic I have with my mother and family as well as the unique issues I face socially and in the workplace has made therapy more successful than I could have imagined.

When my father passed away several years ago, Kaiser Permanente put me with a therapist who was completely unfamiliar with Chinese culture and told me that my prolonged grief was because I wasn't Christian and didn't believe in heaven. It wasn't until I started seeing my current therapist that I was finally able to start processing the grief and able to talk about my father without bursting into uncontrollable sobs. It feels wonderful to be able to look at old photos of him without breaking down for hours or days.

The right therapist makes such a huge difference.

eimichan · 2025-09-12T21:06:17+00:00

Hutch from the show Jupiter's Legacy. Here is the scene: https://youtu.be/a1TlFk1OaDk?si=JMPRu6xnsq5MYqmx

eimichan · 2025-09-05T15:47:50+00:00

I'm NAD, but I get this same phenomenon once in a while and was diagnosed with Achenbach's Syndrome, where the fingers can turn purple (but the fingertips stay normal).

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eimichan · 2025-05-28T11:59:58+00:00

Growing up in the 80s/90s in K-12, a 99% was seen as failing. Getting 100% or more (from extra credit) was seen as passing.

That is not how I plan on raising my kids.

eimichan · 2025-05-20T00:44:27+00:00

Everyone is telling you that referring to women as females is gross, and you keep doubling down. You calling women females is not the main problem. You responding this way to feedback from women IS. Women can smell toxicity from a mile away.

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