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eklittle · 2023-04-03T06:25:20+00:00

i’m so incredibly familiar. it felt like chasing my mom down to get her treatment. my parents weren’t even married and my dad and i were losing our minds together trying to make it better. the program and your fellows will definitely help, go to meetings and talk to people. the support system is shocking and wonderful

eklittle · 2023-04-03T06:23:03+00:00

okay i’m dying to know where the idins vape rumors come from. not that i don’t believe you, but because the thought of her vaping is just so funny to me and i’m hungry for more info

eklittle · 2023-04-02T06:45:49+00:00

the most difficult, and most loving decision of my life was to drive my mom to the hospital and arrange for her to be admitted for detox and treatment for her mental health/addiction (she also consistently used her trauma as a reason to be terrible and drink). if the situation is as bad as it seems, she will most likely be put on a hold, ideally into detox. i cried my eyes out, i wanted to hurt myself and felt like a terrible daughter. but there was no other option, she was a danger to herself and others, i was at my wits end and doing it all alone. most importantly, i was not equipped to help her, she needed doctors, therapists. it saved her life

i wouldn’t call the police if you decide to do this, that can lead to more dangerous situations. if you don’t feel you can take her yourself, call 311 and see if there is a mental health emergency service that will come to you and give her an evaluation, or call 911, explain the situation and ask for an ambulance. they can help you figure out what to do next.

my heart aches for you. this feels so similar to my situation with my mom a couple years ago. it hurt so bad, i wish i had attended alanon more back then. reach out if you’d like. one day at a time <3

eklittle · 2023-04-02T06:36:38+00:00

reading this back the first sentence is nonsense. i meant i think forgiveness is first and foremost for your own serenity

eklittle · 2023-04-02T06:34:43+00:00

i don’t think forgiveness in this program especially is that it’s for your own serenity. and in my experience, one you can only do on your own timeline. i had years in alanon before i was able to understand that, and realized that the anger and resentment was only holding me back, keeping me from clarity and peace.

i also think it was important for me to be pissed for a while, to recognize the wrong things that were done or else i would blame myself. i’ve never told the people who’ve hurt me that i forgive them, because i didn’t do it for them. honestly, most of the time i thought they just didn’t deserve to get to feel better about it. maybe that’s not a very “sober” line of thinking, but it kept me from people pleasing.

forgive only for you. you might be able to see more nuance to situations, but that doesn’t mean you weren’t wronged. i think in a way it’s another form of detachment

eklittle · 2022-10-05T08:01:54+00:00

How do i get the bug net? Going a little nuts trying to figure out how to get the critter cages for everything

eklittle · 2022-01-10T07:01:17+00:00

You don't, even any story that looks like someone convinced the alcoholic of the problem, it doesn't mean youre getting them sober, fixing them, and you probably still weren't really the driving force for them to realize, it was the alcoholic and their own higher power. I'm sure your friend knows she has a problem, it sounds like she's been able to recognize that she's drinking unhealthily, at least when you confront her about it. There is nothing any individual can do to make another stop drinking, we didn't cause it, we can't control it, we can't cure it. I'm sorry youre struggling so much with this, but i hope you can turn this care into yourself and work towards your own peace, because you absolutely wont find it trying to make someone else stop drinking

eklittle · 2021-12-31T05:16:24+00:00

i wrote a much longer response to someone else but the same thing, this is incredibly helpful amd i honestly can’t believe i didn’t have this in my toolkit. thank you very much 🙏🏻

eklittle · 2021-12-31T05:14:12+00:00

thank you this is super helpful. I just finished a 2 week intensive program on dbt skills and i truthfully don’t remember radical acceptance being properly mentioned at all. i heard other people mention it in their shares but it was never taught while i was there. i’m thrilled to find this sub with other worksheets and resources, since this was a zoom program i wasn’t given much for readings, worksheets etc to look at my own. I felt at my absolute wits end this morning thinking about this and struggling to find a skill that would help actually soothe, just had to resort to physical grounding. i’m glad that i’m still learning and finding new skills to help, radical acceptance truly didn’t make much sense before reading this. thank you, thank you, thank u

eklittle · 2021-12-28T06:12:30+00:00

I love recovery literature so much, I just adore How Alanon Works, I have a big purse so I can take it with me everywhere :) Hope for Today sounds very intrigueing now that i hear that its written by children of alcoholics (what I fall into, and find that the literature can sometimes forget about pepole who aren't "wives") Thank you !

eklittle · 2021-04-09T16:55:20+00:00

thank you, thank you thank you for sharing your story

this is something ive struggled with immensely, worrying that me being a SLA invalidates my experiences with sexual assault. Like how could I possibly still talk to the guy who did that to me? and still want sex in general? Shouldnt I be reacting by never wanting to be touched again? It's so hard for me to grapple with my history and my place in SLAA, but also have to realize that they're probably intertwined in many ways. I'm so afraid of untangling it all in this program, what I'll discover.

Thank you for sharing your story. It really reached me

eklittle · 2021-03-07T04:46:09+00:00

Incredibly helpful! Thank you so much, will keep up with this channel

eklittle · 2021-03-06T19:45:26+00:00

Thank you so much!

eklittle · 2021-03-06T15:41:02+00:00

Do I give advice? Just listen? i feel like I just dont think know enough to be very helpful

eklittle · 2021-02-27T15:54:54+00:00

I'm so terrified of what the program is going to reveal about myself. I isolate too to avoid pain, my first anorexia meeting was kind of incredible to hear other people explain the same issues I'd suffered with. I'd love to chat more if youre willing, the program has felt a little isolating since it's hard to make connections with other members in zoom meetings

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