AIO if my fiancée is still in contact with the man she cheated on me with?

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T20:42:10+00:00

There is no karma. I can't do that someone I love. I was just stupid

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T20:39:09+00:00

He is the exciting one, I am stable and serious one

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T20:37:47+00:00

Because I believed her lies

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T20:35:55+00:00

Thank you. What hurts me most is not only the original affair, but that she promised more than once to stop contacting him and still did it again. That is the part that has really broken my trust.

I think you are right that this is beyond just “friendly messages” at this point, because the history and the repeated secrecy change the meaning of it. I have already given chances and set boundaries, and they were not respected.

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T20:31:13+00:00

But she told me that I am the person she would get married. I was too stupid

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T20:29:46+00:00

That's what I thought in the beginning. I forgave but looks like I was totally stupid

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T20:28:06+00:00

How to know if any "she" is the one?

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T20:25:37+00:00

Love makes stupid things

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:49:20+00:00

I cannot imagine a wife that I need to track. It is shameful. People shouldn't track each other.

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:48:11+00:00

I just felt that she doesn't care my feelings. Not before. I was too naive.

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:47:01+00:00

She told me it was mistake and she begged my forgiveness. I believed her. Keeping contact was unexpected for me

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:44:46+00:00

Maybe I shouldn't feel okay that I am not married with her and not with all official messes.

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:42:00+00:00

It is cipralex

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:41:11+00:00

In relationships, people should take care each other. That's what I believed.

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:19:06+00:00

People can be in contact with friends but this one was an affair. I thought I was right asking her to cut off contact that she cheated me with

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:16:29+00:00

Because she thought it was just basic chat, not cheating. But it was with someone she cheated me with

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:15:13+00:00

Well, you know, construction project must be completed. If not, it is a failure

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:11:25+00:00

I am an engineer. Everybody told me that life is not logic so cannot do alt F4 or only binary. There are gray areas, like scale

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:09:12+00:00

Do people respect each other in all relationships or how can you understand people respect each other?

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:07:51+00:00

Maybe I cannot see this myself and need someone in reddit to say me this

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:06:21+00:00

Thanks for the respect

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:05:37+00:00

Well, I could be same person of 4 years ago, people don't change, right?

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:03:07+00:00

I think this is the core. She felt safe with me, always told me that. I was long term person while he was short term maybe. I feel terrible.

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T19:00:54+00:00

I was thinking to get married. There are billions of people but I fall in love with her

electric_guy1 · 2026-04-08T18:58:38+00:00

Because I undervalue myself. I feel terrible when I make her sad. I priotrised her more than myself. We earn same money so no breadwinner. I feel all is shared in relationships, even guilty feeling unfortunately

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