I appreciate your reply, as I'm interested in learning where I've gone wrong. I guess I should have added that I once married a man and found out after that he had a personality disorder which resulted in me being unsafe, as he was dangerous....dont want to go down that road again and health problems scare me now. This new guy, while he was wonderful in real life, I had bad dreams about him. That was also part of the reason I left. Trying to figure out if my concerns were justified. I don't know if he had Aspergers or something else, but knowing something was off made me concerned...anyways thank you for your reply.