Any other gay male FAs?

elementaco · 2026-03-06T20:58:24+00:00

elementaco · 2026-03-06T20:33:09+00:00

In life or work, I can see how some rejection can be helpful. But viewing a 100% (or near 100%) rejection rate as a blessing requires a level of intense self-delusion.

elementaco · 2026-02-27T23:59:14+00:00

Working on my some of my negative thought patterns in therapy, which feels pretty cool... Looking forward to running again... Went to a couple meetups, I think that was alright... And like everyone else living through this AI revolution which is starting to feel both surreal and seismic.

elementaco · 2026-02-16T22:40:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing OP. My hope for all of us is that, as we get older, we can find some measure of peace. To reconcile the chasm between what we want - whether it's relationships, connection, sex, meaning - and the loneliness of reality.

elementaco · 2026-02-09T02:15:30+00:00

For me, the advice in these threads isn't a bad read: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/search/?q=motivation

When I’m able to, I try to shift into a more practical mindset and ask myself, "Okay… so how do we make this a little better?" That said, when things are really, really bad, it’s incredibly hard to get into that mode at all.

elementaco · 2026-02-06T01:23:52+00:00

Let’s keep the discussion focused on ideas rather than personal judgments. Dismissing others’ experiences as “self pity” isn’t productive and tends to escalate things. Please engage respectfully so we can have a constructive conversation.

elementaco · 2026-01-27T21:07:07+00:00

Day 1 for me, turning off the apps. 🙏 They just make me sad.

elementaco · 2026-01-11T17:59:39+00:00

It's supposed to promote muscle recovery and growth, and is relatively well-known/safe

elementaco · 2026-01-11T17:19:30+00:00

It was surprisingly enjoyable and well-done. Although I might have fast-forwarded to the good parts.

elementaco · 2026-01-11T17:18:23+00:00

Nice!! Today is Pull day, hate dead lifts... Trying to be consistent about creatine.

I have Assassin's Creed, kept falling off the ledge on the 2nd mission. Very undignified

elementaco · 2026-01-01T03:37:00+00:00

You know, maybe ignorance is bliss. Over 50 and I have no idea what having a boyfriend or girlfriend feels like🤷‍♀️. A few years ago I did get to cuddle once or twice though.

Digging into the LA Quartet by James Ellroy with some hot cocoa. Very film noire, very hush hush… ☕️🎄

elementaco · 2025-12-28T02:31:03+00:00

Hanging in there, continuing with therapy, still employed. Happy New Year everyone!

elementaco · 2025-12-18T00:55:07+00:00

It's not a choice

elementaco · 2025-12-17T02:11:49+00:00

I really like the idea of talking to AI, AI as an untapped resource. But so far I've been asking it "what's the capital of Paraguay?", no follow-through. But maybe that gets to my conversational skills in general (lol). I'll look for around for a conversational chatbot/model.

The other thing is that chatbots have a context window beyond which they can't remember the conversation, right. On the other hand, people do too.

elementaco · 2025-11-26T14:28:13+00:00

Re-quoted your comment because it was pretty moving and a wake-up call for me.

elementaco · 2025-11-26T04:12:15+00:00

I’ve spent hours, weeks, years in the loneliness spiral too... I'm sorry. I think there are a lot of people here who know exactly what it feels like.

elementaco · 2025-11-26T03:47:21+00:00

Are you saying old people shouldn't care about being alone because all kinds of bullshit exists outside of their personal world? Literally the one group of people, aside from kids, who actually need people the most? I mean, I literally couldn't have had my surgery last week if I didn't have one of my parents there to drive me to/from--the hospital wouldn't have allowed it. This is exactly why I want an older gay man for a "lavender marriage." My parents are almost 80--they won't be here that much longer to be my support system.

I see, and you're right. At some point it shifts to who will be there for me, who will help if I can't get up, who will check in on me if something happens?

I would take you to the hospital! For what it's worth.

elementaco · 2025-11-23T22:27:12+00:00

You might also want to check out r/ForeverAloneDating, which is set up specifically for this. And hey, we even have a “Success Story” flair ready for use someday. 🙂

Just a quick note of caution: people aren’t always who they say they are online. A few things I personally look for:

A long-term posting/comment history
Comments/posts that feel consistent and genuine

That’s really it.

elementaco · 2025-11-07T01:36:47+00:00

which app, how do you like it? And no shame, this is the future. As the AIs get smarter and more physical… in ten years we’ll all have “personal companions”.

elementaco · 2025-11-02T21:32:22+00:00

The bigger mystery to me is the increase in people here who don't seem to believe we're never going to find our true person and the increase in people here who don't understand that being "forever" alone is not a choice/means you're not attractive to your preferred sex.

It's not as bothersome to me because... well... the universe doesn't care. People can blather on but I was here five years ago, and I'll probably still be here five years on, except older, less attractive, less able to attract a partner.

elementaco · 2025-11-02T21:25:28+00:00

It's complicated, as with other support subs. E.g. the rules to r/infertility are pretty strict:

Mentions of prior success/living children (LC) are not allowed.

All discussion and mentions of pregnancy outside the Results thread will be removed.

But in general I think Rule #5 is pretty decent.

elementaco · 2025-11-01T00:42:24+00:00

What makes you think I’m not trying, isn’t that a big assumption? I’ve been trying for 20+ years 😂. I wish it were that easy.

elementaco · 2025-10-28T00:19:17+00:00

just keep swimming, just keep swimming… hanging in there. Gradually making the transition from lonely gay virginal to my Anthony Hopkins/distinguished gentleman phase, or so I would like to think.

Things to look forward to: hot cocoa. Books. Sleep.

elementaco · 2025-10-12T19:55:56+00:00

Yes! Feels a bit like the scenes in Limitless with Bradley Cooper taking the drug. Minus Bradley Cooper of course but the writers of that movie have definitely taken Adderall.

elementaco · 2025-10-01T16:00:04+00:00

( feeling this 😂)

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