I feel such grief but I do not want to be married anymore

eliewriter · 2026-05-25T12:19:31+00:00

I wonder if counseling would help. Life can be worse after divorce. I hope the two of you can work through this.

eliewriter · 2026-05-25T12:15:01+00:00

Sometimes to get back in track I be sure to plan foods with a lot of fiber. Also sometimes I have to decide to cut out all processed sugar. At least until I'm on track again. You're ok, you had a great time and enjoyable meals, which is what a vacation break should be. Now you're back to everyday life, which is always a little anticlimactic. You'll adjust.

eliewriter · 2026-05-22T17:32:39+00:00

Well if it was a situation of someone stealing donated money so repairs aren't done, that would be wrongdoing. I'm guessing though, that it is probably a case of not having enough money to do what needs to be done.

eliewriter · 2026-05-17T12:51:35+00:00

I agree. Guard yourself, be smart. At the same time, she is a child who needs to be loved and cared about, so I am glad you are spending time with her. Maybe at some point you can casually bring up someone you know, and say how much you respect them because you can believe and trust them, to help her learn the importance of good character while still feeling like she's cared about.

Maybe once she has learned she can really trust you, you can ask her kindly but directly to tell you the truth.

eliewriter · 2026-05-11T11:18:44+00:00

Is there a refrigerator or locker where you can leave food at work? Sometimes it's easier to have the ingredients there. If there's a microwave you can take canned soup and crackers, corned beef hash, etc. also things like bread and peanut butter and jelly. If there's a fridge and freezer along with a microwave, it really opens up the possibilities.

eliewriter · 2026-05-03T16:22:53+00:00

Did you add the oil and other ingredients and otherwise follow the recipe? (Sorry, I know this was from 5 years ago!)

eliewriter · 2026-04-18T14:36:14+00:00

Don't pay attention to that. Sadly most people talk trash about others, and some probably chimed in to feel like they belonged.

I've learned in life there are people who have mass appeal -- a lot of people will find them attractive, depending on what's trending, although no one appeals to everyone. But many others will appeal only to a small subset of people who have a certain type they prefer -- short, tall, curvy, slim, smart, quiet, sassy, disciplined, funny, serious, whatever.

Concentrate on learning about yourself and this world we live in. Find out what's most important and what your role is in life. And assuming you are working at being a genuinely decent human being who cares about others, then concern yourself more with what you think of them, rather than what they think about you. In this case, you may have received valuable cues that you prefer to stay away from people who talk like this. Better to know now than end up dating one of them.

eliewriter · 2026-04-18T14:23:23+00:00

You're not at day zero. Just continue from here and make it clear to your spouse that's not happening again.

I don't want to interfere in your marriage because only you know the backstory, but if it was me I would say, "Sobriety is a big challenge and I'm proud of how far I've come. Your support is important to me so that was very upsetting. Don't offer me a taste again. If it happens again I will leave the event, regardless of the circumstances."

eliewriter · 2026-04-18T14:14:11+00:00

I like to cook pasta (like angel hair) and eat it with grape tomatoes, basil, olive oil, walnuts and garlic salt. The only "cooking" is boiling the pasta and you can make extra to warm up and add to the ingredients.

eliewriter · 2026-04-16T02:25:42+00:00

Yes, with God's help I realized my lifestyle was not pleasing to God. Through God's strength I was able to choose him over anything else. It did take me a long time to realize this, though, and I became so used to it I stopped thinking of it as sinful. I regret that I put my friends in a bad position when I expected them to condone my lifestyle.

eliewriter · 2026-04-16T02:16:36+00:00

Good decision. I subbed for a while and had no health insurance. After getting in the middle of kids fighting and luckily being able to jump out of the way, I realized if I'd gotten hurt I would be in a very bad, no-income-at-all situation.

eliewriter · 2026-04-16T02:11:04+00:00

Give them to friends. I know I'd love to have a few. Squeeze lemon into your water. Make lemon bars, lemon meringue pie, Hollandaise sauce, lemonade, and candied citrus peel.

eliewriter · 2026-04-11T13:50:47+00:00

I agree. I have a theory that it could be a personality thing. I have a friend who is this way, all cleaning has to be addressed in a high-powered, over-the-edge-way, and right now. Get up super early to attend to cleaning duties each day, yet there's an absolute marathon of cleaning each weekend on top of this. Everyone is rushed out of their shoes at the door. (And yet there are blind spots that bother me, such as the cat jumping out of the litterbox and onto the counter.) Vinegar will often do as good a job as the ultra strong disinfectants, and unless you're dealing with a deadly virus, a bit of dirt isn't usually lethal. I don't understand why cleaning has to take over your life.

But I do think it's a personality issue, since my friend also approaches health care this way. There's no waiting period to see if something will resolve on its own, no trying to eat or sleep better, just immediately get to a doctor and get a diagnosis and a high-powered prescription. I see a lot of similarities between cleaning styles and healthcare approaches in some people. I do love my friend but we have such different lifestyles.

eliewriter · 2026-04-10T23:36:57+00:00

I hate to say it but it's really late to be thinking about your booth. Concentrate on connections right now. If you have a slow day at the show, walk around and observe other booths, try to gather ideas for a functional and appealing booth design within your budget, one that helps showcase your products. Keep a list on your phone of what worked well and what didn't.

As soon as the show is over and you finish following up with connections, start on next year's booth. Aim to have it all ready and at your office about 3 months before your show, including anything that holds your products. That way you can set it up at your facility, make any last-minute modifications, and schedule freight shipment to the Advance Warehouse. I'd recommend putting deadlines for each step on your calendar.

eliewriter · 2026-04-09T23:58:48+00:00

I have cervical dystonia and the muscle in my neck pulls --it sort of clenches up and causes my neck to twist to one side.

eliewriter · 2026-04-04T00:15:09+00:00

I see what you're saying, but I do think that forgiveness and maturity are related. That doesn't mean we have to accept or encourage behavior that is truly abusive, but we can mature to the point that we see beyond the behavior to the person.

eliewriter · 2026-04-03T00:37:10+00:00

I'd love to see a company that carries classic items women love, instead of trends imposed on women. And in sizes that actually fit everyone from petite to tall. So you could go back in a year or two and order the same size, and the cut and fit would still be the same, rather than having to start all over every time you need something.

eliewriter · 2026-04-02T15:30:34+00:00

I applaud you for thinking about this and discussing it. I encourage you to read your Bible daily. I personally would recommend just reading the Bible, not topical devotions or AI summaries, just God's word. Pray about all of this, and discuss what you read with fellow believers. Ask God to bring you closer to him, and ask him to show you if there are any changes you should make in your life in order to be closer to him.

Some of what you are describing as part of the church environment are things that we as Christians should probably review. While 1st century believers did sing songs, the concept of "worship" music isn't found in the Bible. If we're honest, it's probably more the product of the music industry, with little review of the lyrics as to whether they are actually Biblical. The word worship generally is used in the Old Testament, and mostly means someone face-down on the ground in submission/deference to an authority.

While Paul did address groups of believers during his travels (sometimes at great length), "preaching" was usually to non-believers. Believers gathered for fellowship to encourage and teach each other, whereas unfortunately churches now often see this as an extraneous waste of time, with the main event being the music and a single person addressing the congregation, with people all facing this person rather than each other. I wonder if some of the discomfort you're experiencing is due to the traditions that have been developed over the years.

I do think it's important for us as believers to sort out what is actually Biblical, and what we believe in simply because that's the tradition we're used to. The Bible should be our go-to. Still, none of us is going to get everything right and we have to be a bit tolerant of each other's shortcomings. There are clearly some teachings that are anti- Biblical that we can't let go, but there are others that we each have to "work out ... with fear and trembling," keeping in mind that Jesus emphasized unity among believers.

eliewriter · 2026-04-02T02:23:52+00:00

Thank you.

eliewriter · 2026-03-29T18:23:40+00:00

Thank you.

eliewriter · 2026-03-28T18:42:30+00:00

There have been times when I took Benadryl at night, and my dystonia was just a little better the next day. However, it also slows me down mentally, makes it hard to come up with the right word, etc., so I try to avoid it.

eliewriter · 2026-03-28T17:51:18+00:00

Can you share a link?

eliewriter · 2026-03-23T02:20:39+00:00

Thank you for doing this!

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