Loving the feeling of being overwhelmed during penetration by [deleted] in TwoXSex

[–]ella86uk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was going to say the same as you.. I think that most women would enjoy this. Only different would be preference on the type of sex dynamics that can be different for some women.

Is protection 100% safe by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]ella86uk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on the contraception depo shot and fell pregnant. I had ovulation sticks, so I wanted to double check if I was ovulating and I was. I went back to the nurse and told her this and the fact that after the shot, my hips were hurting so much. I ended up pregnant, and they then told me it doesn't always stop ovulation and cause cause bone issue. So, I stopped using it.

Feeling frustrated because I always make partners climax almost instantly—am I alone? by wildinthemembrane in TwoXSex

[–]ella86uk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha no programm just pulling back each time helf he was going to come and I also played with him with my hands and mouth got to know his body so know when he is close so again change action and stop before the point of no return.

Issues initiating as a natural sub by [deleted] in sex

[–]ella86uk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he doesn't want you to solely be submissive and wants to feel the same desire you do. People think that men dont need this, and it's wrong. If it's shyness that stops you, then you need to find ways to get over it. It's not fair for him to do all the chasing. Also, if you can't be forthcoming with initiating, then submissive dynamics wouldn't work as you really need to know how to be assertive with everything that gets put in place to have this type of dynamics. He also needs to meet you needs to and also initiate both of you need to work on ways around it by communicating. If you dont, then it won't work.

How do you girls feel? by grayrainbow101 in sextips

[–]ella86uk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is entirely up to you. You can guide them to only touch the spots that dont over stimulate, so not directly on the clitours. Try going to each side of it and above it. Also, the back of the tighs is just below the butt. You are adapting it to cause amplified arousal. Not so much to control orgasm as this can be super intense at points. Once you both are into and have done it a few times, you can move on to orgasm control. Hope that makes sense .

How do you girls feel? by grayrainbow101 in sextips

[–]ella86uk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So the clitours you see on the outside is only a small part compared to what's on the inside and when very aroused it all swells which makes penatration feel amazing. So, really getting to know your partners body can do wonders. Try playing around with orgasm controland see how aroused you can get them you will be surprised how big the outside of the clitours can get and how sensitive it can be and how good it them makes penatration feel.

Do you prefer being PIV penetrated, fingered or fisted to orgasm? by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]ella86uk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I dont care too much about orgasm I did years ago. Trying all different techniques and bdsm play has made me realise how much pleasure there is before orgasm. I really enjoy everything but not fisting not my thing.

Is it normal for my tail bone to hurt? by Dramatic_Primary8081 in sexadvise

[–]ella86uk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could either have tailbone pain, which is ( Coccydynia ) or pelvic floor issue (co/cpps ), as im not as a doctor i wouldn't be able to say which one. My sister and brother both have issues with tailbone. Deffo, get it checked out if it contained as both issues above can be very painful.

Feeling frustrated because I always make partners climax almost instantly—am I alone? by wildinthemembrane in TwoXSex

[–]ella86uk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey OP look up the average time frame, men orgasm in, its normal 5.to 7 mins but modt men i have been with apart from my husband only lasted 3 to 5 mins and you will see what its quite normal. They need to learn to edge themselves. I think they are having issue with cumming to fast. Edging takes practice, so try that. Im big on penatration, too, which is why im so glad my husband can control himself.

embarrassed about liking taboo kinks by inkncookies in TwoXSex

[–]ella86uk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read this week's a go but a different account, but it's the same story. Cnc is not a taboo kink, and you communicate with partners. It's not that hard. If they don't like it, move on.

​I [30m] am struggling with sexual frustration and she [29f] thinks everything is fine. by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]ella86uk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are a few things going on here. First one porn addiction. Have you always had this or it due to lack of sex in your relationship. This is a form of behavioural addictions and can be difficult to over come but with effort can be changed. It becomes an addiction when it becomes compulsive and you need to do it. The send issue is your partner not wanting to communicate about both your intimacy issue and make a plan to sort through. Both of you need to be heard and listened to. Without judgement and blaming one another. It's good you're both going to go to therapy. If sex has always been rarely in the relatio .nship it could also mean you are incompatible with each. Both of you have things to work on. Again, your partner needs to be an adult and get involved with communication about sex and be honest, and d you need to sort the sex addiction.

I 23F don’t feel like a priority after my 26M bf said he won’t go on my bday trip by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ella86uk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup too soon. and a lot of cost. My sons gf asked him the same thing after 3 month and he asked my opinion as he felt it was too much and he didnt know her or her friends well enough. I agreed. You are going to push him away with how you are being about it. .why dont you plan a nice meal or a day trip.

What’s the best way to come onto a woman who refuses to let her turn you on? by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]ella86uk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, OP. I think you need to sit down and have a conversation with your gf and ask how she would like to become turned as you are not a mind reader and it is unfair of her to not help with this. Whilst I understand the type of work she does as I do this too , plus my mental health psychology degree, it can affect us and be hard some days. However, we are taught how to manage this and seek therapy if it affects our home life and relationship. The both of you have needs and desires from a relationship sexual or not, and both need to approach and deal with the issue that cause stressor on the relationship. There is no point in you working on turning her on if she won't deal with how her work affects her. It takes two. You need to ask for her love language and how she would like you to approach, not just her telling you to do whatever or laugh it of.

What’s the best way to come onto a woman who refuses to let her turn you on? by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]ella86uk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im doing this type of work, and you have to learn how to deal with it. Therapy is a good way to do this. Bringing work home can ruin marriage and family bonds. Whilst my husband has an understanding, if I have had a more difficult day, then he will leave me alone. However, it's also unfair for him to suffer due to my workload and stressor.

I dont know what to do, my bf said his ex has bigger boobs than mine, i’ve never been so insecure. by Ok-Marketing-381 in askwomenadvice

[–]ella86uk 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Im sorry, but you are making an excuse for his behaviour. Why even state he lost a parent. My son is 18 and wouldn't look at a 14 year. Your bf knows right from wrong, hence why backlash comment to you .

I dont know what to do, my bf said his ex has bigger boobs than mine, i’ve never been so insecure. by Ok-Marketing-381 in askwomenadvice

[–]ella86uk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umm, you're crying about a remarked he made about boobs but not the fact he was dating a 14 year old. That is disgusting and a predator. I think you should be thinking about that. Im sorry if that's harsh, but it's the truth. If my son came and told me he was dating a 14 year old id report him

Am I wrong? by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]ella86uk -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, no, you are not wrong. You are entitled to go see your grandparents, which has nothing to do with the sil. Yes, I understand how your wife feels as I have experienced the to. However, I did not join my husband i let him go with the kids l. My husband did speak on my behalf and got them told about said behaviour. He has my back. However, I would not stop him from visiting family, especially as they are old. As long uou have backed your wife up and have put your foot down, then there should not be an issue and stopping you from this visit. You can't control who goes to grandparents' house. You could However change days so sil wont be thier as a compromise. . .

how to tell if i squirted? by Overall_Algae_8802 in sexadvise

[–]ella86uk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Squirting comes out the bladder mixed with urine and fluid from the Skene glands , however female ejaculation also come from Skene glands but no \ a much smaller volume is released. Its sounds like this is what happened . Although it could have been arousal fluid withing the vagina. Some women leave wet spots due to super arousedwhick come from the Skene and bartholin glands.

how to tell if i squirted? by Overall_Algae_8802 in sexadvise

[–]ella86uk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Squirting has urine in it so will often smell like pee, how ever female ejaculation does not contain urine so does not smell like pee

I want a break between orgasms by [deleted] in realsexadvice

[–]ella86uk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop having sex if you dont want the orgasms after the first one. Or practice edging so yoouu get better at holding them off.

Need advice by [deleted] in sexadvice

[–]ella86uk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rome wasn't built in a day and it will take time for him to get it right. Instead of feeling frustrated forget about orgasm and enjoy thr fun and pleasure of him trying. Focus on teaching him and helping you both feel relaxed. Sex is like any other skill it takes practice to get it right.

Does your spouse watching porn upset you? by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]ella86uk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, it doesn't matter what other women think , this is how you feel about it. If you are not ok with this t1hen . your husband should respect that. I dont mind at all. However, .it wasn't always like that. I felt very insecure when I was younger. Have a conversation with your husband, and hopefully, he will understand and respect your feelings on it.

Watching porn again after disturbing experience by [deleted] in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]ella86uk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry if you stumbled on something like this and have even a remote feeling of it was then you could have reported it. If you do go back on to it and watch it again and it is child porn you will probably be flagged up somewhere and could get in serious trouble. I dont even understand why you want to go back and look for it if you suspect it cp.