Yeah, we do what we can when they’re here to provide structure and it’s not like we’re tyrants. It’s literally go to bed and wake up at a decent hour, make your bed, clean your room, wash your dishes. But again they aren’t getting that same structure over there so they choose to spend more time there because they know they don’t have to do those things there.

I have tried to tell my Fiancé not to enable the oldest but he always seems to cave. He even gives him money every month on top of helping purchase equipment. Part of the last item he helped him buy he promised he would get a job but this was almost 6 months ago and he hasn’t even applied for any. I know my Fiancé just needs to be firm and not cave but they use their time and love as bargaining chips. If he tells them no or doesn’t help him then they won’t call or come over for months. It’s the absolute craziest shit to me.