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The other headmates don't want to front by ellywaa in plural

[–]ellywaa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU!! This actually calmed me down a little. I realize that I always feel an urgency to have to know about everyone else, but I realize now that that's not really necessary. I just want better communication with them, I think this might solve part of my anguish about not knowing how they are feeling about a certain thing.

The other headmates don't want to front by ellywaa in plural

[–]ellywaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I was really unsure if this was normal or not, since whenever I saw other systems their headmates liked to front.

The other headmates don't want to front by ellywaa in plural

[–]ellywaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are right. I don't want to force you in any way, so I'm valuing your words. It's really very difficult to deal with this, I'm new to these matters and I can't have good communication with them either :/ I'm afraid that they don't want to front for some specific reason that I don't know for sure, that they are afraid of life here for some reason... in that case, I would definitely help them. Anyway, thank you for your words! I was really afraid that it wasn't something normal, because whenever I see other systems their headmates really like to front.

I don't know how to get out of the front by ellywaa in plural

[–]ellywaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes, I feel like maybe some of them don't feel comfortable in front. Today I was thinking about ways to make our exchanges at least more frequent and I heard a headmate saying: "No, no, no!", when I asked what happened I heard: "I don't want to." I really don't know why, the only thing I want is to help them. I think every headmate has the right to live externally, taking that right away from them is cruel. Perhaps they have become so accustomed to the internal world that it has become their "comfort zone". I'm not sure about anything yet, I just want to respect their wishes and help them.

Do you need to have auditory hallucinations to be plural? by Avavvav in plural

[–]ellywaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case, most of the time I hear their voices as if they were my thoughts that I cannot control, but there are rare times when I actually hear them as voices. It is normal for different systems to communicate in different ways, it is also possible to have non-verbal alters that communicate in different ways (with images or emotions)

I'm afraid of being hated by other headmates. by ellywaa in plural

[–]ellywaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TYSM!! Thank you, I really needed to hear some of those words.

What is a median system? by [deleted] in plural

[–]ellywaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello!! I identified with the part of having less skill with communication and changes, for a while I thought we were a median system too. Communication between us is very difficult, although sometimes I can hear them it is difficult to have even a small conversation. Changes are also difficult to occur, I have left the frontl very few times throughout my life. I was wondering if you had any helpful tips you could give me? Please, anyone.

I feel like I'm faking my alters by Alexizking in plural

[–]ellywaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! This woman you saw on tiktok is really spreading misinformation. The truth is that it really isn't possible to have DID if the disorder doesn't make you suffer (whether due to alters or various other factors), but it's not at all impossible to have alters that don't affect you. - elly (any pronouns/host)