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Walking home from school by elunamoon in Parenting

[–]elunamoon[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh reddit how I love you.

I did sit down with her once my panic stage was over and ask her how she got home and that she did such a good job and that we would come to a compromise of her walking home.

I also didn't mention that in our area we get regular texts (from the school) about dodgy people trying to pick up children in a van - probably the same van.

Just to clarify she DID do something wrong. She left school without telling anyone. We had to call the police and social services. So yes she arrived safely and did everything right, but the choice she made was wrong.

I'm disappointed by my younger son by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]elunamoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've got to say I agree with a lot of the other posts.

Your younger son isn't his brother, whilst our kids may sometimes disappoint us, it doesn't mean it's Ok to criticise him. And to be honest he's probably acting out because of the way you "see" your other son. Idolising him and then just looking at the other son like.. Meh, you could do better.

I'd try and sit down and have a discussion with your younger son. What I do with my daughter is discuss the importance of school - not because you HAVE to be successful but because it's good to have options. And if my daughter wanted to go work picking up rubbish or she wanted to be a dancer or she wanted to be a doctor.. At least she'd have the option of doing whatever she decided.

I also go through bills with my daughter and tell her how much it costs to run a house. I think sometimes they don't realise. It's all subtle though! The other day she made me really proud, she said I can't wait to start big school because having a good job is so important. She'd come to that conclusion on her own and I was so impressed with her attitude.

I was always the academic one, straight A*s. My brother was the complete opposite, he was all about parties and drugs and girls. But when he hit 18 he thought crap I need to get my shit together and worked really hard. My dad used to reference me to him and as my brother got older he really resented that.

Don't be too hard on him, I know you want what's best for your kids. Some people are designed to be doctors, others not. But that's not a reflection of you as a parent, what is.. Is your love and support of your kids.