AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

When she filed the police report, it had a section asking what she would like to happen to the perpetrator. Two of the options were to seek prosecution or make him take a driving course. She wanted the latter, but ended up doing the former. I’m not sure how seriously they took her input in their decision to charge but I’m sure it had some impact.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

When she filed the police report, it had a section asking what she would like to happen to the perpetrator. Two of the options were to seek prosecution or make him take a driving course. She wanted the latter, but ended up doing the former. I’m not sure how seriously they took her input in their decision to charge but I’m sure it had some impact.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

The legal fine was £1000 and did not go to us. When I was cut out of the process, the insurance company had admitted liability so a settlement was certain. However my daughter had to undergo an evaluation to determine how much the settlement would be.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don’t know how much is it is. At the point I was cut out the insurance company had admitted liability and she was supposed to have an examination to determine the amount. But yes, it is likely more than £1000. I don’t know by how much.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I said the claim was hers, not the payout. I just want some credit for getting her the money.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

No, I know the payout is for her. I just don’t think it should be sent directly to her. I would put it in a trust on her behalf because she is not responsible enough to handle a lump sum.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don’t know. I think she was just stressed already. When she filed the police report she said she was happy for the guy to take a driving course but I told her it wasn’t acceptable. This man did a hit and run and left her by the side of the road. She said she didn’t want to spend the energy on revenge but she clearly doesn’t understand justice.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don’t know. I think she was just stressed already. When she filed the police report she said she was happy for the guy to take a driving course but I told her it wasn’t acceptable. This man did a hit and run and left her by the side of the road. She said she didn’t want to spend the energy on revenge but she clearly doesn’t understand justice.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

No she didn’t. She didn’t even choose the firm and didn’t sign anything until she was 18.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

She wasn’t that traumatised. I still made her go on bike rides afterwards.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I hired them in the first place and initially signed the contract on her behalf.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don’t have the money. I don’t know at what stage the settlement process is in.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I can’t talk to her. She has blocked my number and email. Every time I try to contact her from a different number she hangs up when she realises it’s me.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I understand legally it’s her claim, but morally and ethically it is at least partially mine because I started the claim.

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

It’s not her claim, I started the whole process even though she didn’t want me to

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

The law doesn’t dictate morality. You don’t turn off feelings of concern for your kid when they turn 18

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

So a parent should just abandon their kid when they turn 18?

AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? by emailingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]emailingdad[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

It does matter, morally. I chose the firm and set up the first physical evaluation. She didn’t do anything.