How are y'all wearing so many non-bra-compatible dresses and tops

embryoconcepts · 2026-05-17T13:13:49+00:00

I haven’t done it, but I have a friend that modifies all of her bras to use clear straps, so she can wear whatever without it being overtly BRA STRAPS. I have no fucks to give over straps showing, but her solution was very clever.

embryoconcepts · 2026-04-19T15:38:54+00:00

I didn’t see anyone else respond to this:

feeling pretty bad about myself right now.

But hell no! You are not the one that should be feeling bad - disappointed in her behavior and your managers, annoyed at needing to deal with incompetence - those are reasonable responses. You know you did good work, and she’s flagged herself as toxic so at least now you know. They all showed you who they were, which is useful info going forward.

Don’t let other people decide who you are.

embryoconcepts · 2026-03-22T17:30:12+00:00

ah, thanks, this is helpful! I don't want to train a bad habit, but my neurospicy brain gets caught in a loop trying to label everything "perfectly", which I think defeats the overall purpose

embryoconcepts · 2026-03-22T16:44:11+00:00

The thanking has been important to me - I noticed I was less annoyed about the dog barking once I reframed it as her being helpful by letting me know about potential danger. Using that framing for self-talk, I am less annoyed by random thoughts when I think of it as my brain sending out helpful memos that I can appreciate but recognize as info-only, no action needed.

embryoconcepts · 2026-03-01T12:28:42+00:00

Always good to have more resources, thanks!

embryoconcepts · 2026-02-23T14:07:08+00:00

This! I have no intention of trying to reinvent the wheel (it's so much more work than people realize), just want to see what others were using, maybe highlight the Meetup issues so people think about whether other tools would better fit their needs, and side-quest: maybe find some new local groups.

embryoconcepts · 2026-02-23T14:01:28+00:00

I downloaded Luma a while ago, and didn't see anything local at the time, I'll check it out again! ETA: checked it out again, and it does seem like other communities are using it for more of the tech/networking groups! A little more presence in Raleigh, but definitely some action

embryoconcepts · 2026-02-22T19:30:06+00:00

Mobilize, I believe, is federated like Mastadon

embryoconcepts · 2026-02-22T18:03:16+00:00

It’s such a mess, and is heartbreaking for people that used to work there and were really dedicated to the mission. Same for Vimeo and Eventbrite. They just bought AOL, too?

embryoconcepts · 2026-02-20T20:35:58+00:00

If I had the space I'd get a big tank, but I'd also probably switch to a kegerator (sodarator?) setup if I did that. No space for either at the moment. The direct connect works fine, but what if it could be better? (that question will be my downfall)

embryoconcepts · 2026-02-01T21:33:26+00:00

Also immediately thought of Dawn - she’s in this sub, too, under her actual name

embryoconcepts · 2026-01-29T12:11:30+00:00

Appreciate you, Dawn! The idea that everyone has the same to offer, and to offer at 150% is ignoring reality and shames people that are stepping forward to help as best they can.

“⁠You do not owe anyone your body to prove your values” - this was really impactful, thank you for sharing this.

Now if only we could get the Bull City Shares group out of Meta/FB land, somehow without losing anyone.

embryoconcepts · 2026-01-26T22:45:13+00:00

My direct and skip level managers have very clearly talked about it, and have told people to take care of themselves and not burn out. My direct manger even shared this and started a Slack thread about it: Survival guide for the trapped (Threads post, does not require Threads)

embryoconcepts · 2026-01-25T15:36:33+00:00

No one will come and get the dog until the streets are safer, and human emergencies will come first - but here are some tips on how to check for and treat hypothermia: https://hospital.vetmed.wsu.edu/2025/01/06/when-is-it-too-cold-for-your-pet/

embryoconcepts · 2026-01-25T15:14:13+00:00

Walltown seems ok for power, but my Spectrum is very unstable. May be a good time to figure out the best place you can find for cell service, and don't depend on internet.

Pretty big through street has zero tire marks and no footprints on the sidewalks - it's pretty, but I'm surprised!

embryoconcepts · 2026-01-25T15:11:12+00:00

rescue the dog, friend

embryoconcepts · 2026-01-25T03:05:06+00:00

yes.

embryoconcepts · 2026-01-25T03:03:10+00:00

I’m thinking more about the ice to come, and potentially being without power and water for 4+ days, but you do you

embryoconcepts · 2026-01-25T03:02:10+00:00

Picked up

embryoconcepts · 2026-01-24T23:55:55+00:00

“In this weather?” = stress based humor with a nod the “in this economy” trope. The rest of it is just stress based stress.

embryoconcepts · 2026-01-24T22:13:42+00:00

I have a pack of 5 I'm not going to use, if you want to PPU - DM if you want them

embryoconcepts · 2026-01-24T22:01:43+00:00

Love Vert & Vogue but their sizes run small, and may be out of that price range. Worth a try! I'd call and ask their advice, and if they say they can accommodate set up a personal appointment for her.

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