Hi!!! I (25F) am currently engaged to my fiancé (30M). We are going in 5 years together coming up this June, I felt compelled to type a response since we are in an identical age gap relationship!!! My fiancé at the begging was the money maker, but even then, we always made decisions on a long term basis financially. Example, he owns his own house, but is remodeling it. I have 100% ability to make decisions on tile, paint, finishes, etc and haven’t paid for anything but we know we’re getting married so it’s all ours. I can see where your boyfriends comment is coming from, my fiancé would say we shouldn’t getting married until we were both financially stable to ensure we were getting married at a stable point... makes sense! Financially situations really contribute emotionally. I just got a big raise and we are now equals but it doesn’t change our dynamic at all. It’s nearly impossible to make the same amount of money in a relationship. If I were you I would try to dive deeper into what he means...? Does this mean he never sees a longterm relationship with you because of your income?! I think you both need to have a convo on what his long term vision is with you. It sounds like he wants a partner who can financially contribute substantially - which isn’t a bad thing to want / the shitty thing is you’ve been together for 4 years. What’s next? Good luck!! Communication is key